How to call people of unknown gender in English? (he or she)

cross-posted from: https://lemy.lol/post/196311

I'm from Turkey so English isn't my native language. We just call O in Turkish to no matter its he/she/it. Is there an equivalent of this generic term on English?

I don't want to call he to a female or vice versa.

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MyNameIsRichard@lemmy.ml · 5 pts · 3y (10 replies)

They as in "what they said"

iso@lemy.lol · 1 pts · 3y (9 replies)

For instance I want to say someone is bad to a person. If I know he is a male, then I can say He is a bad person. But with your example, I should say they are bad person or what? It looks plural.

MyNameIsRichard@lemmy.ml · 4 pts · 3y (7 replies)

Yeah exactly. They can be plural when referring to more than one person or singular when referring to just one.

scribs@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 3y (1 reply)

But for some reason the verb stays plural... you don't say "They is a bad person".

MyNameIsRichard@lemmy.ml · 1 pts · 3y

Because English!

iso@lemy.lol · 1 pts · 3y (4 replies)

Hmmm interesting. Can/should I use a/an with this like they are a bad person? My English teacher would beat me for this lol

MyNameIsRichard@lemmy.ml · 3 pts · 3y (2 replies)

That's also fine

ravachol@feddit.de · 2 pts · 3y (1 reply)

I’d say you have to use a, no?

MyNameIsRichard@lemmy.ml · 3 pts · 3y

Yes

Pepperette@lemmy.ml · 3 pts · 3y

You use "an" when the word after sounds like it starts with a vowel. "They are a bad person" is correct, "They are aN awesome person" is correct.

English is dumb.

pglpm@lemmy.ca · 2 pts · 3y
Aeva_the_Broken@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 3y

It can feel a little clunky, but I do this all the time when typing online. Particularly on discord or somewhere where I have no idea of a members gender.

"I first noticed this member join our server a week ago but they have not posted a lot. The few posts that they have made show that they are interested in the game, but I think they are looking for a different experience. I wish them well in their search for a different group."