I started cross-dressing while I'm alone at home and few minutes ago I was doing that. There was a dress I wanted try and I did it now (I love it) but when I finished for today it was pretty hard to take it off because it wasn't made for musculine body (first time having problem like that). I was scared that I won't able to take it off by the time someone returns, they would be shocked. At the end that didn't happen but now I want to come up with a way to explain everything to my parents if such scenario actually happens and I need some help with that (important note is that my parents are pretty religious, not extremists thou). Smartest idea would probably be to just stop cross-dressing but it gives me so much euphoria, can't really give up on that.
Only idea I have for now is just to explain everything, that I'm trans and what that means, but I'm not sure how to do that in a way they would understand. There is probably a better way to go about this, any recommendation or story from personal experience would be useful.
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euphoric_cat@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 26 pts · 2y
5714@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 16 pts · 2y
IMO there's no need for an explaination, but I'm also not on good terms with my parents, so it depends on whether you fear about your safety (e.g. when you're a minor or (financially) dependent) or how well you can say no to things.
In general: You owe no one an explaination!
cetvrti_magi@lemmy.world · 9 pts · 2y
Not explaining anything would be worst thing to do with my parents, any kind of explanation would be safer.
lurch@sh.itjust.works · 12 pts · 2y
cetvrti_magi@lemmy.world · 9 pts · 2y
I'm doing it in bathroom because it's the only room in our house with a locker but it wouldn't change much because closet is in a hallway so there is still a posibility of someone seeing me while returning clothes.
Lumelore@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 10 pts · 2y
How did you try taking the dress off? When I first wore a dress I tried taking it off by taking my arms out first and the dress was too tight for that and I ripped it. Then I discovered that you actually take a dress off by picking it up from the bottom and pulling it over your head and it was much easier to take off like that and didn't rip.
cetvrti_magi@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 2y
That's what I did from the beginning (it looked like the only way to actually do it) but it didn't really work first few times.
ClockNimble@lemmy.world · 10 pts · 2y
Depends on how they feel about trans people, test the waters. A subtle way is to ask a guy (or a few) role model(s) near you if they have ever thought about what it is like to be a girl.
My parents are fairly conservative, and I ran into the snag of the FIRST guy I asked was like "oh, yeah. All guys think that." And then I just bought it for years.
Still, it is good to plant the seed.
WalrusDragonOnABike@reddthat.com · 9 pts · 2y
I've just started doing dressing in ways more non-conforming for my AGAB, but I didn't realize my interest until after I moved out from my parents*. First just like hair clips here, leggings there. With my sister (and her boyfriend and her best friend), I just showed up in cosplay as a female character once for Ren Fest. No warning. No explanations.
*technically I was caught back when I was in middle school, but I had no clue back then...