Instagram reel transcript: "So you know how autistic people just talk and we literally mean like exactly what we say?"
"So like I realized that when I'm talking to a neurotypical person, even when I'm saying exactly what I'm saying, they're looking for like, the meeting underneath it, which is nothing."
"So the other day at work...I had a feedback session and one of the things they told me was that my communication wasn't clear... And their example was I asked 'What is so-and-so's job?' And she said, 'I knew exactly what you meant. I knew that you meant, 'She's not pulling her weight. Why is she on the team? Why haven't you fired her yet?"
"And I was like, hold up. I asked about her job was because I didn't know what her job was and I wanted you to tell me what her job was. And she was like, 'Oh. Well, that wasn't clear and you should really give more context when you ask a question.' And I was like, 'Okay..?? so...'I don't know what her job is...What is.. her.. job?"
4 Comments
DirigibleProtein@aussie.zone · 34 pts · 3y
“Say what you mean and mean what you say”. Why is that so difficult for normies to understand?
Deestan@lemmy.world · 29 pts · 3y
While more manageable by NT people, I think this is clearly a toxic workplace where people are taught to fear their work can't stand up to scrutiny. So anything that even counts as looking directly at their work is a threat, and any communication must be scrutinized for hidden threats.
lvxferre@lemmy.ml · 19 pts · 3y
Conversational implicatures. It's basically the reason why plenty people say something, when they mean something else.
However what that coworker is doing is a bit beyond conversational implicatures, she's reading too much into what Alyssa said. That's clear because she then complained that Alyssa didn't give her enough context - in other words, there was no context to implicate anything, and yet she still saw an implicature there. I call this a "ghost" implicature, dunno if there's some actual name for that. But to keep it short, the coworker is likely the one to blame for the miscommunication, not Alyssa herself.
match@pawb.social · 2 pts · 3y
Excellent and clearly stated. Thank you for this new terminology and reference point about conversations!