Women can be sexist and nonwhite people can be racist: being a member of a marginalized group unfortunately doesn’t inherently keep someone from perpetuating the discrimination against said group. It’s absolutely true that a lot of, and definitely the majority, of homophobic people are straight, but a lot of the terror-based homophobia stems from projection.
I get what you're saying.
But usually it's really they are a hateful piece of shit because they are secretly gay. The loudest ones tend to be the most secretly what they are yelling about.
no you're not an asshole. I agree with you that some people are just homophobic pos and not secretly gay. But for this one in particular, if true, it's screaming insecurity rather than homophobia.
Um, I'd argue that it's blaming the people that drive others to subvert their own tendencies, e.g. the gay-is-icky crowd of which the Christian national movement is a subset.
If gay was truly okay, and we didn't have guys who felt pressured to be alpha masc, then no-one would blink twice when a toddler liked flowers and rainbows.
41 Comments
Hextic@lemmy.world · 119 pts · 3y
I bet cash money that husband has a secret Grindr account.
Aesthesiaphilia@kbin.social · 57 pts · 3y
Safest bet in the world, husband is gayer than a unicorn fart
charliespider@lemmy.ca · 50 pts · 3y
Claiming that someone's homophobia is because they are secretly gay is ultimately blaming the gays for said homophobia.
It's also entirely possible that someone is just a hateful piece of shit.
Lemmylefty@lemmy.world · 21 pts · 3y
Women can be sexist and nonwhite people can be racist: being a member of a marginalized group unfortunately doesn’t inherently keep someone from perpetuating the discrimination against said group. It’s absolutely true that a lot of, and definitely the majority, of homophobic people are straight, but a lot of the terror-based homophobia stems from projection.
DulyNoted@lemmy.world · 18 pts · 3y
Unfortunately, being gay isn't a panacea, and one can be both gay and a huge piece of shit.
Aesthesiaphilia@kbin.social · 15 pts · 3y
Gold medal in mental acrobatics, damn
WarmSoda@lemm.ee · 6 pts · 3y
I get what you're saying.
But usually it's really they are a hateful piece of shit because they are secretly gay. The loudest ones tend to be the most secretly what they are yelling about.
WhyIsItReal@lemmy.world · 14 pts · 3y
i just don’t believe that that’s actually true, though. most homophobes are just pieces of shit, not secretly gay
WarmSoda@lemm.ee · -4 pts · 3y
Well, that's just because
you'reIm an asshole.WhyIsItReal@lemmy.world · 11 pts · 3y
… i’m an asshole because i think that homophobes are mostly bad people, not self-hating gay people?
WarmSoda@lemm.ee · 6 pts · 3y
Honestly, I misread what you said and thought you were saying angry gay people were mostly bad people. Lol yikes, I apologize
That's embarrassing
Lokisan@lemmy.fmhy.net · 3 pts · 3y
no you're not an asshole. I agree with you that some people are just homophobic pos and not secretly gay. But for this one in particular, if true, it's screaming insecurity rather than homophobia.
CombatWombat1212@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 3y
?? It's blaming a gay person for being homophobic, by what logic does it apply to all of them?
duh@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 3y
Yeah, he may be just a POS, but he seems to think so hard in what looks gay or not... looks like he's hiding.
uriel238@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 1 pts · 3y
Um, I'd argue that it's blaming the people that drive others to subvert their own tendencies, e.g. the gay-is-icky crowd of which the Christian national movement is a subset.
If gay was truly okay, and we didn't have guys who felt pressured to be alpha masc, then no-one would blink twice when a toddler liked flowers and rainbows.
diskmaster23@lemmy.one · 2 pts · 3y
Cash money, now?
Lxrduy@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 71 pts · 3y
"He generally prefers me to my husband" Whoo boy, I wonder why
Badtouchspez@lemm.ee · 26 pts · 3y
She provides baby food. Why wouldn’t the baby prefer her more. Heck I’ll hang out with someone more if they gave me food.
jscummy@sh.itjust.works · 6 pts · 3y
More importantly it sounds like she doesn't judge and criticize everything the son does, at one year old
damnfinecoffee@lemmy.world · 43 pts · 3y
Man some people really should not have kids
KeyserSoze@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 43 pts · 3y
I am straight, and I have to ask: Are we okay?
ShittyKopper@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 15 pts · 3y
i certainly am not okay
(though i don't think it's because i'm straight)
KeyserSoze@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 3y
What's bothering you?
ShittyKopper@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 7 pts · 3y
gestures vaguely at everything
KeyserSoze@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 1 pts · 3y
Yeah
samus12345@sh.itjust.works · 6 pts · 3y
Clearly we are not.
Korne127@lemmy.world · 33 pts · 3y
Bad husband
occhionaut@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 3y
No brewskis
QuantumField@lemmy.ml · 29 pts · 3y
Kid put a banana in his mouth. Yeah kids put everything in their mouths! Be glad it's food and not random carpet lint.
WarmSoda@lemm.ee · 11 pts · 3y
Exactly. And everyone knows if a kid puts carpet in his mouth he's a god damn lesbe-ann.
Bizarroland@kbin.social · 6 pts · 3y
That must be where I went wrong. I put carpet in my mouth and a banana in my ass
Nachorella@lemmy.sdf.org · 25 pts · 3y
That's a divorcin'
DulyNoted@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 3y
I just feel bad that she had to have a kid with the guy to find this out
Kalkaline@programming.dev · 19 pts · 3y
nonbinarytwink@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 19 pts · 3y
Ah yes, my childhood. Too bad they failed to genderize me
JoMiran@lemmy.ml · 18 pts · 3y
I genuinely feel sad for people that love in such fear and anger. It sounds exhausting.
Blastasaurus@lemm.ee · 11 pts · 3y
I'm gonna go with fake.
SpunkyBarnes@geddit.social · 9 pts · 3y
Wife should return that one to sender.
boo_@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 3y
Fellas, is it gay to be checks notes A LITERAL CHILD!?
eestileib@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 1 pts · 3y
!arethestraightsok
ShittyKopper@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 1 pts · 3y
corrected: !are_the_straights_ok@lemmy.blahaj.zone