i feel left behind

context: i have a musical project on my own (had a line up but i broke it off bc we werent getting anywhere) and I would really want to expand it, maybe find someone who is willing to play my music, but its been hard. My music is a little complicated both rhythmically and compositionwise and its hard finding ppl who can keep up with it and that's understandable: not everyone has grown up listening to jazz and is a music theory nerd like me. The problem is, my former drummer entered a band that does the same genre i do (shoegaze) and they're already taking gigs and whatnot. Thus i feel like I'm behind in that regard, that i will never be able to make my music into something. Rn it's more of a bedroom solo project and I'm afraid it'll just keep being that