I've been wearing my chastity cage daily for two weeks. It goes on within 15 minutes of waking up, and taking it off is the last thing I do before I go to bed. It's about 16 hours on, 8 hours off. I fap about 2-3 times a week during that off-time before sleep. I haven't yet stress-tested wearing it outside the home without good access to a bathroom for extended periods much. (The worst case scenario is pain down there stirring up and needing to make an adjustment in private but not being able to do so.) Also, I started using silicone lube rather than water-based lube, thick cream, or petroleum jelly - and I think that's been a great decision.
What I like about this schedule is that it feels sustainable. I would love to be in chastity like this everyday. Only unlocking every few days for a hygiene break would be even better. I will try overnight again soon - maybe tonight 🙈. But I've been trying to take it slow, hoping my body will get used to it (e.g., something like developing a callous around where the ring sits).
The first time I wanked, I think I was extra horny, and I decided to deny my orgasm. In the after-glow, I decided to orgasm (regular) again. The morning after, I had to force myself a bit to put on the cage. Other than that, putting it on in the morning feels like a natural and enjoyable part of my day.
I love how I feel gender- and sexuality-wise with my cage on. I don't think I'll get piercing-enforced chastity, and I'm also re-evaluating my chastity 'goals'. The idea of being permanently (piercing-enforced) locked, never fapping, coming (if at all) only by anal - that feels like fantasy for me. I now see chastity more like a uniform. My pink and white chastity cage, I hope, would give me away as being something like a PIV-free beta male sissy if someone were to see it. I don't spring my kinks on unsuspecting people, of course. But it satisfies me knowing that if/when it is relevant, it's pretty unmistakable that I'm not a 'normal man' down there, which, for me, feels gratifying, validating, and fulfilling. And I'm reminded of all this because I can feel the cage much of the time. Yet there are those 'ahhh' moments where you realize you've been wearing a chastity cage but it's felt like there was nothing there, you're completely natural, for hours
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thatothertwo@lemmynsfw.com · 3 pts · 1y
Thank you for sharing your experience. I've been toying with the idea of self chastity for myself and I think you just gave me the last bit of motivation to finally buy a cage.
chloespanked@lemmynsfw.com · 2 pts · 1y
Glad I could help ☺️😘
cd_kk@lemmynsfw.com · 2 pts · 1y
Love this!! Hope you continue to update us. I've tried sleeping in chastity a few times, I can fall asleep but it usually wakes me up at some point in the middle of the night with "morning wood" if you can call it that. It's not fun for me, sadly, and I don't try to sleep in it. Maybe it'll work for you, though!
Also really respect the re-evaluation of your goals - I do think there's obviously a lot of Very Hardcore fantasies/ideas out there but yeah, you shouldn't feel like you have to hold yourself to those standards or anything.
chloespanked@lemmynsfw.com · 1 pts · 1y
Thanks KK, I hope so too 🥰! Lately I've realized that some community and connection around this stuff might be really healthy for me. So, I titled that update #1 - hoping there will be more. Case in point: I went to a doctor's appointment a couple weeks ago, and was reaching for my shoes "because it's an office." But I was reminded of your, "show off your pedicure, girl!" encouragement, and did just that. Thank you 😘
Yeah, sleeping in chastity is definitely in the realm of "is that real or just wank material?" I think it might be doable for - at least some nights for me - we'll see. I've been having some major sleeping issues lately sans chastity (e.g., up for 3 hours in the middle of the night) that I attribute to anxiety/depression. I slept better than that last night - but not a great sleep. It's obvious the chastity can cause some noctural erection-related issues. I wonder if, for me, those are partly offset by a reduction of (gender) dysphoria. I also went to my doctor and got erection pills in my early 20s. I think those erection difficulties were about gender dysphoria and performance anxiety. But, I defintely can't get as hard as most (although this might affect effortful versus nighttime-reflexive erections much more), and that might be an advantage to me when it comes to sleeping in chastity. A girl can hope, anyway!
Re: your last paragraph: I'm really glad I got off reddit. I sometimes visit sissyology via libreddit. With more time away from that platform, it seems so obvious to me how disconnected from reality so much of the content is. I think that realization has been really helpful for setting realistic expectations for myself
cd_kk@lemmynsfw.com · 2 pts · 1y
LOVE hearing all of that first paragraph!! Community is so important, I'm glad to help build that with you <3 and the pedicure show off, hellllll yeah!!!!!!!! 🔥
Yeeeep, I also have quite a bit of sleeping issues which is why it's a pretty hard "no" for me. Get you on the performance issues!! That's a really complex one for me cuz I also like being teased by Goddess about it... I do think nighttime erections are totally different, since the reason it occurs is (IIRC) largely your bladder having liquid in it and pressing against your prostate, turning you on... so honestly, it just means you like having your prostate played which is a good thing for sluts like us :3
Oh god, yeah, completely agree. It's very good to be in a much more rational group as far as chastity goes, definitely healthier. Glad it's helping you <3
chloespanked@lemmynsfw.com · 1 pts · 1y
Yaaaaas, Queen 😝. I truly feel like we are building community on here. Like, I've seen more femboy/sissy/cd stuff on my local lemmynsfw feed lately. I recently realized something pretty obvious, that people need to be able to expres their authentic selves to fully experience or benefit from community. That's an issue generally only for people who are not very mainstream (and privileged). People do "flock together:" queer people seeking out queer spaces, migrant communities often cluster together, etc.
The teasing about less than studly performance sounds hot to me. I've been thinking about dabbling in a little erotica, like writing a short story about sissy/chastity/femdom/cuckolding/spanking. I partly see it as a little 'mental housekeeping' - to articulate things I've spent countless hours half thinking about. Including teasing never occurred to me. Kink is a common way of working through and with personal issues (very akin to play therapy in children), so the teasing you mention sounds healthy to me.
Re: nighttime erections. As it turns out, I took a little look into this today. (Not because I'd like to induce impotence without HRT or surgery /s.) The medical consensus is that 'nocturnal tumescence' (defined for women too - 'morning bean,' I love that) probably serves a maintenance purpose (for engorgement ability). I didn't directly look into clinical pathways, but it was suggested in what I read that nocturnal tumescence tests (ie, something goes around the penis to measure its diameter overnight; tear-away paper or electronic monitoring) are pretty common in treating ED. They are used to differentiate psychological ED (can't perform but gets nighttime erections) from physical ED (can't perform and no/reduced nighttime erections) that would be likely attributable a neurological, vascular, and/or hormonal condition. Who knew lemmynsfw was so educational rofl 🤣
cd_kk@lemmynsfw.com · 2 pts · 1y
You're right about that, and it's a good reminder I need to post more stuff!!! 😅 But I think you're spot on with that realization - if you can't be your true self, you're gonna have a hard time finding true community, you're gonna be lonely, you're gonna feel confused, etc. It's hard to accept someone liking you when they're not seeing the real you.
She's been doing it more and more recently since she knows how hot I find it 🥵 I definitely like the idea of writing erotica, especially to work through things and force yourself to think about them, y'know. Force yourself to really take a second and go "hey, do I actually like this? why do I like it?" and you might gain a deeper understanding of yourself.
That is really interesting!! And it makes perfect sense to test the functionality of the penis, wow. Really cool info and I appreciate you sharing it!
sissy_cockslut_jaime@lemmynsfw.com · 2 pts · 1y
If you're not already, It might help with your comfort if you wear and elastic chastity cage strap, it helps keep everything secure to the body and in place
chloespanked@lemmynsfw.com · 1 pts · 1y
Thanks Jaime! 🥰. I wouldn't mind a chastity strap. And might look into one. I'm actually in probably a rare camp for chastity wearers - my cage doesn't hang down and it's rare for me to be unsatisfied with the ring not being flush against my body. I have a 'headlock' CherryKeeper cage, where the cage narrows right behind the coronal ridge of the glans/head. This is designed to be an anti-pullout measure, but it also works to keep things close to the body. I am a little squished in my cage, and probably couldn't wear it for a week, for example. So if I got a different cage I might need versus want that strap. Thanks again 😘
sissy_cockslut_jaime@lemmynsfw.com · 2 pts · 1y
You're welcome! I have basically the same cage and I can comfortably wear it without a strap, but wearing it with one is even more comfortable. You mention having to reposition it because of discomfort and that's part of what a strap can help prevent, I used to think I didn't need a strap and then I wore one and it was a game changer for comfort and how long I could wear my cage
chloespanked@lemmynsfw.com · 1 pts · 1y
I appreciate you explaining the value of the strap in terms of discomfort striking less often ☺️. I was looking at straps this morning. Do you recommend the belt like ones (ie, goes behind the back only) or the jock like ones (ie, goes behind the back and between the legs). Do you see value in the CherryKeeper cages that have special side loops for the strap to tie to? Or, do you prefer to fasten the straps on the main chastity cage ring?
sissy_cockslut_jaime@lemmynsfw.com · 3 pts · 1y
I just attach the straps directly to the chastity ring, and I only use the around the waist strap, the jock style strap can help keep it SUPER secure, but I often find it doesn't help that much more than just a waist strap.
I pretty much follow this guide by u/Wifuuuu on reddit, they've made a few guides, this is not the original one I saw, but most of the ones they have made have these same steps:
https://files.catbox.moe/h9jtqg.mp4
so attaching the strap to the ring keeps it secure to the body for me to more easily put it on
chloespanked@lemmynsfw.com · 2 pts · 1y
Thanks for the vid, I learned some tips! ☺️😘