I generally want to be casual in these sorts of relationships where we're not too serious. In reality, they don't mean much to me and neither does my relationship with her. However, she does not know this and I won't tell her what I want.
For example, I hugged her one day and then told her I wasn't okay with hugs. She asked "Why" and I shrugged. One day, she asked me if I would ever initiate our first kiss (together, not in life). I shrugged again and told her "I can't say." Of course, I will not do any of this stuff with her because I don't show my love that way.
I will tell her I love her now and then and I don't buy her stuff at all even when she buys stuff for me because I don't want to be heartbroken by being affectionate. That's why I like keeping casual relationships and not doing much for others.
9 Comments
actionjbone@sh.itjust.works · 28 pts · 364d
You're the asshole.
That's not a casual relationship. That's lying by omission.
Communication is at the heart of all relationships. If you aren't communicating, you're lying about it being a relationship in the first place.
SonofaBixcuit@sh.itjust.works · 4 pts · 364d
I broke up with her.
atheqtpie@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 18 pts · 364d
yes, you are TA. You are absolutely leading her on in this case and your shrugging isn't gonna help anything. It's just gonna make her upset. You gotta communicate with people.
imsufferableninja@sh.itjust.works · 15 pts · 364d
You sound like an asshole
TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 9 pts · 364d
I can't tell why you're dating this person if you don't want to be intimate with them.
SonofaBixcuit@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 364d
We broke up, I'm aroace.
FistingEnthusiast@lemmynsfw.com · 7 pts · 364d
You're definitely the arsehole
But you already knew that
AmourDeFrance@sh.itjust.works · 4 pts · 364d
Yes, this is just leading her on
MyDarkestTimeline01@lemmynsfw.com · 3 pts · 304d
You are the asshole. You're essentially emotionally withholding by not being upfront with her about your intentions.