I recently discovered I'm polyamorous so my girlfriend is ok with this. I met this girl online I'll call her "Elizabeth" through a mutual friend and we've been talking. (Not the fortune teller scammer)
Anyway, Elizabeth is a trans girl and she's pansexual and we want to learn more about each other. She's already flirty and I plan to video call her so I know she is who she says she is. I've seen her face and she's cute.
Also, she plans, after the video call, to meet up with me IRL so we can make sure we like each other. My plan is that since my dad is transphobic, I have to say she's a boy when I meet up with her (but she uses any pronouns anyway), and that my friend called Elizabeth one day at school and they were already friends and she told everyone to say hi so I said hi and got to talk to Elizabeth.
My friends don't come over much so Dad can't verify that. The only problem? We can definitely go to like an ice cream place but she can't come to my house because of my dad and since he sees her as just a dude, she can't come to my house.
Besides, we're too young to have sex since we're only 15 (me) and almost 16 (Elizabeth) but she's like... really freaky, if you know what I mean but she still doesn't wanna weird me out.
I mean, I guess that's expected from a teen with all our hormones and attraction and stuff but still. IDK what to do. There's gonna be parents there though so I still wanna remain safe and all.
8 Comments
Oka@sopuli.xyz · 8 pts · 263d
Is she gonna ghost after one night of intimacy? This night might go well, but consider that it might be the last time you guys speak. Are you OK with that?
Have you video chat with them yet? Do they appear to be their age? If so, and if youre enthusiastically sure you want to do it, then give it a shot, but if you have doubts, then dont. Your gut is probably right, and if not, its a life experience that you can use as a tool going forward.
blackwitch@lemmings.world · 3 pts · 263d
Good point, I’m going to ask when is a good time we can videochat. I need to find a way we can try to have sex IF they really want to, I don’t mind, because of my Dad and if not, then just chill. I’m scared of my dad finding out because what if she gets me pregnant??
Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 263d
Not going to tell you what to do, but if you're going to do it use condoms. When used properly, they remain the most effective way to prevent unwanted children and STDs.
blackwitch@lemmings.world · 4 pts · 263d
Thanks! I will also use birth control and just won't have sex if I don't have access to those things without getting caught.
Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 263d
Good girl.
zomboy@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 263d
either go to a friend’s house if you have mutual irl friends or do it when your family is away
blackwitch@lemmings.world · 4 pts · 263d
She’s like the first who cares about making me uncomfortable rather than just being a creep…
blackwitch@lemmings.world · 2 pts · 263d
i'm also kind of a boy (bigender/genderfluid) so this is like mpreg and futa haha!