Reddit had a lot of really friendly "femme leaning" communities. Especially the smaller ones. If you were only going to Reddit for nail painting and wedding inspiration it was actually really wholesome. Those communities tended to be 1) very well modded 2) "easy" to mod 3) not fun to troll. There's a little grey area on if someone is offering good faith critique, but if you've commented twice and neither have been positive you lose the privilege to comment. It can create a bit of a hugbox, but it's much preferred to the opposite.

I really like my experience with the fediverse so far, but I really miss the experience of those positive "femme" spaces. It's a very different feeling and I haven't gotten it from the fediverse yet. Not that we're not empathetic, just that it's a different space.

Smaller subs definitely had plenty of empathetic people, but if you're going in the bigger subs, its a cesspool of scum and villainy.

It really depends on the community to be fair. Smaller ones feel more like here.

At that point, why not just be here though.

All the men left for fed or Lemmy already?

Honestly it doesn't suprise me. Women seem to have all the social medias while the men I've met only tend to have a few of them.

Sample size is probably like 100 per gender but it's definitely something I've noticed at least.