I kind of dread people celebrating me, usually in part because the times around that celebration are busy and stressful for me so I can do the performative gratitude that people expect when it happens.
Then it devolves into conversations of what is wrong with you (why are you broken) or what is wrong with this (why do you hate me).
Doesn't it seem so selfish? If OTHERS want to celebrate MY birthday that's nice and up to them, but I've always felt weird inviting my friends to MY OWN BIRTHDAY party jfc. XD
I like to keep to the same routine when possible. Birthdays and holidays interrupt that. No good. I can't do much for holidays, but since my birthday is supposed to be my day, i can demand this from everyone around me.
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tangible@piefed.social · 18 pts · 173d
Dyskolos@lemmy.zip · 7 pts · 173d
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ageedizzle@piefed.ca · 4 pts · 173d
msrb711@feddit.org · 8 pts · 173d
Yeah, there's a certain age after which you kinda stop caring about your own birthday.
pir8t0x@lemmy.ml · 3 pts · 173d
That certain age for me was 13
msrb711@feddit.org · 2 pts · 168d
Exactly. Most men tend to stop celebrating their birthdays in their early teens.
Digit@lemmy.wtf · 8 pts · 173d
no
gtr@programming.dev · 1 pts · 173d
Chippys_mittens@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 173d
ZiggyTheZygote@lemmy.ca · 5 pts · 173d
Not since my late 20s. But it's nice to have a day to celebrate yourself, we all deserve it, but it can be any day you feel like pampering yourself.
kn33@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 172d
I don't need to celebrate too much, but taking the day off work and going out for dinner somewhere nice is something I like to do.
HobbitFoot@thelemmy.club · 4 pts · 173d
I kind of dread people celebrating me, usually in part because the times around that celebration are busy and stressful for me so I can do the performative gratitude that people expect when it happens.
Then it devolves into conversations of what is wrong with you (why are you broken) or what is wrong with this (why do you hate me).
Marshezezz@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 4 pts · 173d
gtr@programming.dev · 2 pts · 173d
Doesn't it seem so selfish? If OTHERS want to celebrate MY birthday that's nice and up to them, but I've always felt weird inviting my friends to MY OWN BIRTHDAY party jfc. XD
Marshezezz@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 171d
ageedizzle@piefed.ca · 3 pts · 173d
HobbitFoot@thelemmy.club · 2 pts · 173d
Oh, I try keeping my friends away from her.
ageedizzle@piefed.ca · 2 pts · 173d
HobbitFoot@thelemmy.club · 1 pts · 173d
Her birthday is close enough.
howrar@lemmy.ca · 3 pts · 172d
I like to keep to the same routine when possible. Birthdays and holidays interrupt that. No good. I can't do much for holidays, but since my birthday is supposed to be my day, i can demand this from everyone around me.
daggermoon@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 171d
No. I won't tell people when my birthday is.
Corporal_Punishment@feddit.uk · 1 pts · 171d
I'll be 43 soon.
I really don't give a fuck about birthdays anymore
AoxoMoxoA@lemmy.world · 0 pts · 172d
Birthdays are for children and 100 year olds