Nope, don't think I like this. No one should have to materially change themselves to conform to a relationship. That's a clear lack of boundaries on their part. At the same time, no one should have to allow themselves to be abused (or poked).
Recognizing when something isn't working, or there are just too many incompatibilies, is a sign of self awareness and personal growth.
This image doesn't show a healthy relationship dynamic, and I think that just needs to be acknowledged.
I sort of feel that the message of the meme is being severely undermined by making the couple a cactus and a balloon. Like, both the cactus' danger and the balloon's vulnerability are fundamental physical properties of them. As you're saying, they probably shouldn't be dating.
they're are a lot of someones outside, try putting a cake under a box propped up with a stick, tie the stick to a string. and when someone goes for the cake, you pull the string.
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JCSpark@lemmy.ca · 70 pts · 143d
Nope, don't think I like this. No one should have to materially change themselves to conform to a relationship. That's a clear lack of boundaries on their part. At the same time, no one should have to allow themselves to be abused (or poked).
Recognizing when something isn't working, or there are just too many incompatibilies, is a sign of self awareness and personal growth.
This image doesn't show a healthy relationship dynamic, and I think that just needs to be acknowledged.
Saledovil@sh.itjust.works · 15 pts · 143d
I sort of feel that the message of the meme is being severely undermined by making the couple a cactus and a balloon. Like, both the cactus' danger and the balloon's vulnerability are fundamental physical properties of them. As you're saying, they probably shouldn't be dating.
IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 143d
i get that vibe too.
no one should be with someone if the relationship is basically forcing them to be someone else.
hitmyspot@aussie.zone · 8 pts · 143d
I think it’s less about changing, more about being mindful of how you affect others and what you can do about that.
Sure, if you’re incompatible, best to recognise that, but sometimes habits or attitudes that aren’t part of your identity can be avoided or tempered.
explodicle@sh.itjust.works · 3 pts · 142d
That's why it's a bad cartoon - the spikes are part of the cactus identity.
Valmond@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 7 pts · 143d
Yeah completely. The "just change" is as good advice as grow a third leg.
ZombiFrancis@sh.itjust.works · 41 pts · 143d
Alternatively: drink sixty bottles of wine.
Valmond@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 6 pts · 143d
Son, I drank you a life vest last year, this year I'll drink you a raft!
Explanation: back in the day people kept the corks to make things.
JesusTheCarpenter@feddit.uk · 2 pts · 143d
This is the way.
beelzebum@lemmy.world · 18 pts · 143d
damn thats a lot of wine bottles
Lauchmelder@feddit.org · 17 pts · 143d
if cactus isn't for hug, then why hug shaped
anomnom@sh.itjust.works · 10 pts · 143d
More high-five shaped, but still not for high-fives either.
Entertainmeonly@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 13 pts · 143d
Step one: be with someone.
Fuck.
IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds@lemmy.world · 9 pts · 143d
they're are a lot of someones outside, try putting a cake under a box propped up with a stick, tie the stick to a string. and when someone goes for the cake, you pull the string.
enjoy your new loving partner
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today · 4 pts · 143d
What is this shit, guess I'm supposed to marry this ferret?
1/10 horrible dating advice.
IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 143d
Mazel tov to you and your ferret husband.
Valmond@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 3 pts · 143d
Meowrl!!
Alexstarfire@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 143d
Why does the cactus not just shave? Seems easier.
explodicle@sh.itjust.works · 3 pts · 142d
Because that's extremely uncomfortable!
(I'm a human, not a cactus)