Yeah, I’m trying to decide if being more authentically myself is worth losing the cis buff (or the “cis” buff, if you prefer), and so far it hasn’t seemed like it for me yet. It looks like it’s getting closer to the tipping point, but I don’t know if it’ll ever get there.
I wouldn’t be ashamed of being trans nor do I feel pride in being “cis,” but I’m not sure of my identity and there are a lot of negative externalities associated with being openly trans. I’m just cautious or cowardly, depending on your perspective.
It depends, sadly. I (afab) dress pretty butch, and it doesn’t seem to have an effect most of the time. Men who dress femme definitely gain a debuff in most circumstances because people are shitty.
The legal buff probably remains partially in place, because you won’t have your driver’s license rescinded without notice, but you might face bathroom discrimination or similar.
I'm also happy to be trans, wished I was born Cis as a woman (not a man), but I'm glad that I was born trans, because I would've hated my given name no matter what. At least God made my parents choose the more normal option for deadnames.
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lena@gregtech.eu · 16 pts · 136d
I've been wishing I was cis for the past 2 years.
idiomaddict@lemmy.world · 10 pts · 136d
Yeah, I’m trying to decide if being more authentically myself is worth losing the cis buff (or the “cis” buff, if you prefer), and so far it hasn’t seemed like it for me yet. It looks like it’s getting closer to the tipping point, but I don’t know if it’ll ever get there.
I wouldn’t be ashamed of being trans nor do I feel pride in being “cis,” but I’m not sure of my identity and there are a lot of negative externalities associated with being openly trans. I’m just cautious or cowardly, depending on your perspective.
tr0xy@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 2 pts · 136d
what is cis buff?
idiomaddict@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 136d
The benefits you gain in society at large by being or seeming cis.
tr0xy@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 2 pts · 133d
I guess that I would lose that by presenting GNC despite being cis?
idiomaddict@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 133d
It depends, sadly. I (afab) dress pretty butch, and it doesn’t seem to have an effect most of the time. Men who dress femme definitely gain a debuff in most circumstances because people are shitty.
The legal buff probably remains partially in place, because you won’t have your driver’s license rescinded without notice, but you might face bathroom discrimination or similar.
tr0xy@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 1 pts · 133d
Right, there can be systematic discrimination from the government
Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 12 pts · 136d
My phone storage is 90% TotallyNotJessica posts and 10% pictures of my dog. I like the change of tactic. Crack em with kindness this time.
TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 6 pts · 136d
I make like 2-4% of the memes I post, so I wouldn't call most of them "TotallynotJessica posts"
atopi@piefed.blahaj.zone · 8 pts · 136d
why wish to be cis when you could just wish for transphobia to go away
samus12345@sh.itjust.works · 6 pts · 136d
Good point. Trans people will always exist, but transphobia doesn't have to.
fleurc@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 5 pts · 136d
I'm also happy to be trans, wished I was born Cis as a woman (not a man), but I'm glad that I was born trans, because I would've hated my given name no matter what. At least God made my parents choose the more normal option for deadnames.
webp@mander.xyz · 4 pts · 136d
Based