How would you react to finding out your bf was into diapers? NSFW

Look, when I was dating as an unemployed, trans, vegan with severe mobility problems I thought no one would ever love me. Yet I'm happily married to a beautiful woman who somehow does.

You'll find someone.

My initial instinctive reaction would be to find it weird, but I wouldn't be an asshole about it. It's squarely in the "your kink is not my kink and that's okay" territory for me. There have been times where I have done kinky stuff that I'm not especially into for a partner (and also times where I ended up liking that stuff more than expected), but I'm not sure I'd feel comfortable doing that in this case.

However, I'm also poly, so if my partner did reveal this to me, I would support them to find someone with whom they could explore this kink. I'd also be interested in discussing with you what it is that it does for you, and potentially open to play of an adjacent sort that scratches a similar itch.

Though as a final note, I want to add that I think I'd be much more weirded out if you revealed it to me as if it were a shameful thing. I think that primes a person to act in a certain way. I know it's hard to not feel ashamed about one's kinks when they're outside of the mainstream (I have my own experience here, just with different kinks), but try your best to not berate yourself for being into this stuff. Human sexuality is weird as hell, but that doesn't need to be a problem as long as we cultivate good communication skills and a healthy curiosity about other people's perspectives

I already know my fiance is :3 but so am I, and I met him in an ABDL community, so there's that lol. My opinion is probably not worth much for that reason, but yeah ^^

It’s not my thing, but I’d entertain it enthusiastically for sure, as long as there’s no poo involved. Poo, vom, and needles are my hard limits. I don’t mind that people are into that and I don’t find anything wrong with it, but I won’t be involved in the actual practice.

Just wearing diapers or peeing in them? Sure, I’m down if my partner wanted to.

That's a hard no for me dawg, but I did once fool around with a woman whose bf was into abdl and she was down for it with him.

You're probably gonna want to be looking in kink communities and very upfront about what you want.

I’m not into this, nor have I been in the dating world in a long time, so take my opinion with as many grains of salt as you want. For the record, nothing wrong with it, just not for me.

This one is going to be a hard one for many to accept, particularly if you want it to involve defecation.

If this is something you need to share with a partner to be fulfilled, you need to roll it out early.

I don’t know what your overall chances are, but I suspect they’d be much higher in ABDL or kink specific spaces.

My ex-gf was and I told her "find someone else to do that with, it ain't gonna be me"