Children who are parentified take on emotional and instrumental responsibilities before their brain is developmentally ready, but also before they are ready emotionally...
"Instrumental parentification is like practical responsibilities, so caring for siblings, getting meals done, handling household tasks."
Emotional parentification is more damaging, because the child is managing the emotions of the parents.
The article includes the signs of parentification in adults and steps you can take to heal from that childhood experience.
4 Comments
TheHolm@aussie.zone · 0 pts · 39d
Is 'instrumental parentification' a new term for proper child-rearing? If kids don't have responsibilities, they'll never be able to take any responsibility when they grow up. It's just another BS way to let people blame others for their own faults, in this case, their parents.
arbilp3@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 39d
Have you read the article?
TheHolm@aussie.zone · 0 pts · 36d
I did, some usual BS that it harmful for kids to have responsibility. Fact that she took responsibility for whole household does not change a thing. 12 years old can perfectly do it.
arbilp3@aussie.zone · 2 pts · 36d
It's not being able to do it that is the issue, it's that the amount of responsibility is too much and does not give the child enough time to be a child and for the child to be cared for as they should. This goes along with possible repercussions in adulthood.