It's been years since I was on dating apps but I'm hardly shocked. I got plenty of bumble matches and I'm pretty certain I never exchanged more than 5 messages on the app. The vast majority of women simply never sent a first message or the rare ones that did hit me with "hi" or "hey" which is honestly worse than having me initiate the conversation because I have to awkwardly respond and start a conversation. It's a fun idea in theory, but reality is a real slap in the face
Making the first move is a skill. Many women are not practiced in that skill, for various reasons. Anyone's early attempts at a skill will likely be awkward and ineffective.
Thus, many women are bad at first messages and find the experience unpleasant.
On top of that, many men are shit. Just absolute trash to talk to.
So not only are many women floundering with this new skill of "send a good first message", when they get responses it's often men responding badly.
So it makes sense they'd give up. They're not going to fight against all the social norms.
14 Comments
Asafum@lemmy.world · 30 pts · 24d
"Bumble decides to become tinder clone #2647264843862 following in the footsteps of literally every other dating site."
certified_expert@lemmy.world · 9 pts · 24d
They are the same companyedit: I stand corrected. They are (still) not the same company
goondaba@lemmy.world · 17 pts · 24d
While Match Group owns a lot of dating apps (match.com, Tinder, Hinge, OkCupid, Plenty of Fish), Bumble is not one of them.
Though apparently Match did at one point try to buy Bumble.
LodeMike@lemmy.today · 10 pts · 24d
Bumble is famously the only dating app that is not match group
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world · 9 pts · 24d
they are not the same company.
Asafum@lemmy.world · -1 pts · 24d
It's match group isn't it... I tend to forget sometimes that in this world every company gets bought by some gigantic asshole company
makeshiftreaper@lemmy.world · 25 pts · 24d
It's been years since I was on dating apps but I'm hardly shocked. I got plenty of bumble matches and I'm pretty certain I never exchanged more than 5 messages on the app. The vast majority of women simply never sent a first message or the rare ones that did hit me with "hi" or "hey" which is honestly worse than having me initiate the conversation because I have to awkwardly respond and start a conversation. It's a fun idea in theory, but reality is a real slap in the face
N0t_5ure@lemmy.world · 11 pts · 24d
Looks like they bumbled that one from the outset.
nodiratime@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 24d
Skill issue
AdolfSchmitler@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 24d
I mean the first messages were usually something like "Hey"
OldChicoAle@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 24d
Then use a different app? There's like a 100 of them.
jtrek@startrek.website · 4 pts · 24d
Making the first move is a skill. Many women are not practiced in that skill, for various reasons. Anyone's early attempts at a skill will likely be awkward and ineffective.
Thus, many women are bad at first messages and find the experience unpleasant.
On top of that, many men are shit. Just absolute trash to talk to.
So not only are many women floundering with this new skill of "send a good first message", when they get responses it's often men responding badly.
So it makes sense they'd give up. They're not going to fight against all the social norms.
Viceversa@lemmy.world · -3 pts · 24d
Men bad.
jtrek@startrek.website · 2 pts · 24d
Seems like your reading comprehension is lacking.