I know it sounds like a joke but the more erotic stuff with softer and professional lighting and camera angles/focus/depth of field is so much hotter than everything that looks like it was filmed in a wal-mart. Metart/Vixen/etc. A lot of the "taboo" stuff is really well shot, but the themes are usually a turn off.
The posts in !oldensmut@lemmy.world and !retro_nsfw@fedinsfw.app really make me appreciate decent photography. It's way nicer to look at than low budget selfies.
I agree. Actually a lot of my taste in porn was governed by what is actually good cinematography, and I really liked just watching movie sex scenes (e.g r/WatchItForThePlot on reddit).
I avoid AI porn, especially with hentai. It's so easy to tell when something's been generated versus something that actually had effort put into it.
Also, slapping and hitting. I find it immediately unsettling when the guy out of nowhere slaps the girl across the face just when she gets done sucking his dick.
Speaking of dick-sucking, I don't know what performers are trying to prove when they audibly choke and gag on the guy's cock.
I have 2 main complaints. First i hate that non-professional porn has become a safe space for gambling sites' ads (just scroll through the pornhub homepage and you'll see what i mean). And second roleplay is almost always either incest or cuck if not directly abuse.
That's terrible. I believe porn addiction is a real thing, (especially for ADHD or depressed people), so exposing the already vulnerable to gambling is just completely fucked up. I never really used mainstream porn sites when I used porn because it makes me feel in danger of losing my soul.
Yes, one of the last times I was looking for porn i was specifically seeking out nice authentic moaning... there's no "category" or buzzword you can really search for that, so instead you end up with a bunch of fake stuff. And it has to be fake because they're not engaging in authentic - effective - sex with foreplay.
Choking. I've been watching porn for decades, and choking has only become prevalent in the stuff I watch in the past decade or so. Apparently there's a weird uptick in people doing it, probably because they've seen it in porn.
I'm not going to yuck on the yum of consenting adults, but if the participants don't know what they're doing, they can get hurt.
Similarly people have unsafe anal because porn doesn't show the use of lubrication. It makes me think that school Sex-Ed should go into more detail (mine did on this issue but I know it's an exception to the rule)
oh my god, I read through everything here but this is my biggest gripe too. She comes in wearing the hottest french maid outfit with satin gloves, gets undressed in 0.01 seconds and goes straight to hand/blowjob without gloves or outfit on. At that point they could just film her coming in with 20 different outfits and reuse the sex footage for 20 different porn videos :D
The main annoyance I have when browsing for porn is the onlyfans advertising bots. And it's not even so much their existence, as the fact that they never fit into the niche they're tagged for, it's just vanilla white woman nudes
Other than that, I can't say I have too many complaints
Right, yes. It's a lot worse to browse for porn than it used to be just, idk, 3 years ago - which was already worse than 6 or 7 years ago when Onlyfans had only just been created.
Funnily enough it's part of the reason I stopped engaging with a lot of video/photo based porn communities years ago and went more towards drawings and written smut. Coming back into it more in recent times reminds me how annoying the unrelated spam is lol. Though there's still a lot of good content, it's just a matter of finding something with decent moderation that takes care of the unrelated advertising :3
If the title says "step-x" I'm not clicking. Fine, it's a kink... so why is it in every fucking video?
"amateur" porn used to be couples filming themselves fucking and uploading it. Sometimes it was done without consent which is bad, but it was authentic. It was people who liked each other, having a good time, and resembled real sex. Now it's the same scene with the same porn positions and porn angles and porn choking and porn noises.
Lesbian porn shot entirely for male consumption is awful. Why are you moaning while sucking a dildo? Grow up.
Long nails make me cringe.
The biggest distinguishing factor in porn for me is whether there's a woman who looks like she's having a good time, like she might actually cum at some point. It's pretty rare. What's doubly frustrating is when she looks like she might be starting to actually get into it, and then we get a shot of something else -most often her pussy or arse - instead of her face.
The step-whatever titles exist because it costs them almost nothing to throw it in a single line of dialog and draws in a significant number of people while being easy to ignore for most others. It costs even less to toss it into a description on an already existing video.
Now, I gotta give the caveat that 95% of the porn I see is communities from fedinsfw.app that pop up when they're new, and then I block them. The "fappening" radically shifted my personal tolerance for porn, and the standards I have for it, so I end up not using it very often. It's become a turn off almost entirely.
But, part of what I dislike is the obviousness of the fakeness, and alongside that the lack of ability to believe any of the performers are actually having fun. There used to be porn where, no matter how badly filmed, or if it had a story or not, the performers at least tried to be believable.
Since it all feels so empty and mindless, it makes all the trappings of incest, "dominance", and even amateur role play just bad. Like, I'm so far past done with all of it, but the shit with someone putting their foot on the face of the person they're fucking? Why? Why is that in so many gifs that get posted? It's awkward and stupid. How anyone can see that dozens of times and not have their immersion break enough to lose arousal, I have no idea.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not kink shaming. Like what you like, that's okay. It's the inundation of bad kink videos that's my pet peeve.
I'm just tired of the spitting and the fake moans and the artificial and poorly done sex talk.
And, again, there's the reality that it's really difficult to tell if everyone on screen actually wants to be there. Some performers are public enough that you can know they're doing it professionally, and that's great. But most of them? It's obvious they don't really want to be there, even the men. Yeah, they're maybe enjoying some of the sensations, but it's still empty. And I just don't enjoy that at all.
It seeped into "amateur" porn as well. It's impossible to hope that anything billed as amateur isn't just a job they're doing, desperate to escape the capitalist hellscape of reality by fucking on camera. There's no passion, no love, no goodness and joy to it, just people fucking like robots to sell.
This is rantish, I know, and i swear I'm not shitting in what people enjoy, what they like to do. It's the porn of it that's just so damn badly done that it becomes disgusting. Or akin to watching footage of an insect mate. And that just isn't enjoyable to me
Well most studio porn is just the same scene with a different girl over and over again. Like, you just have to start with a blowjob, then doggy, then riding etc etc. Also you can tell the actresses are just tired of it all 🤠Of course it still gets the pp hard so who cares really. Something I find funny tho with the onlyfans boom is the amount of phone recorded backshots or just a barely comprehensible handheld pov porn. I guess they get points for realism but I get kinda a comical feeling from that stuff.
Step-whatevers and really the fetishization of minorities.
I think it really encourages people to not think at all like people purposefully insulting one of the "actors" in spite of the fact they're super into them.
A nice example of this is Alex Jones getting revealed to have transgender porn on his phone despite being a massive transphobe.
It's just this weird ass crowd of people who really like something and have a fucking chip on their shoulder about it.
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deezcashews@fedinsfw.app · 20 pts · 2d
The cinematography.
I know it sounds like a joke but the more erotic stuff with softer and professional lighting and camera angles/focus/depth of field is so much hotter than everything that looks like it was filmed in a wal-mart. Metart/Vixen/etc. A lot of the "taboo" stuff is really well shot, but the themes are usually a turn off.
ddd@fedinsfw.app · 5 pts · 1d
The posts in !oldensmut@lemmy.world and !retro_nsfw@fedinsfw.app really make me appreciate decent photography. It's way nicer to look at than low budget selfies.
FavouriteShapes@sh.itjust.works · 3 pts · 2d
I agree. Actually a lot of my taste in porn was governed by what is actually good cinematography, and I really liked just watching movie sex scenes (e.g r/WatchItForThePlot on reddit).
lemmyng@lemmy.world · 15 pts · 1d
I avoid AI porn, especially with hentai. It's so easy to tell when something's been generated versus something that actually had effort put into it.
Also, slapping and hitting. I find it immediately unsettling when the guy out of nowhere slaps the girl across the face just when she gets done sucking his dick.
Speaking of dick-sucking, I don't know what performers are trying to prove when they audibly choke and gag on the guy's cock.
FavouriteShapes@sh.itjust.works · 4 pts · 1d
Yeah all those stuff are horrible!
IlRottolo@fedinsfw.app · 12 pts · 2d
I have 2 main complaints. First i hate that non-professional porn has become a safe space for gambling sites' ads (just scroll through the pornhub homepage and you'll see what i mean). And second roleplay is almost always either incest or cuck if not directly abuse.
FavouriteShapes@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 2d
That's terrible. I believe porn addiction is a real thing, (especially for ADHD or depressed people), so exposing the already vulnerable to gambling is just completely fucked up. I never really used mainstream porn sites when I used porn because it makes me feel in danger of losing my soul.
Jhini@fedinsfw.app · 11 pts · 1d
Zero foreplay for the woman, and the "ecstasy level". (Dude here, FWIW).
It's almost always the same low-effort formula: making out > BJ > bouncing/nailing + "OH MAH GAAAAHD!!!" as loud as possible > money shot. Riiiight.
FavouriteShapes@sh.itjust.works · 4 pts · 1d
Yes, one of the last times I was looking for porn i was specifically seeking out nice authentic moaning... there's no "category" or buzzword you can really search for that, so instead you end up with a bunch of fake stuff. And it has to be fake because they're not engaging in authentic - effective - sex with foreplay.
ddd@fedinsfw.app · 10 pts · 2d
Choking. I've been watching porn for decades, and choking has only become prevalent in the stuff I watch in the past decade or so. Apparently there's a weird uptick in people doing it, probably because they've seen it in porn.
I'm not going to yuck on the yum of consenting adults, but if the participants don't know what they're doing, they can get hurt.
https://www.theguardian.com/society/2026/aug/29/choking-sexual-strangulation-research-no-safe-pressure-ntwnfb
FavouriteShapes@sh.itjust.works · 6 pts · 2d
Similarly people have unsafe anal because porn doesn't show the use of lubrication. It makes me think that school Sex-Ed should go into more detail (mine did on this issue but I know it's an exception to the rule)
DoucheBagMcSwag@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 8 pts · 2d
Let's keep the clothes on a little longer eh?
solar@fedinsfw.app · 3 pts · 1d
oh my god, I read through everything here but this is my biggest gripe too. She comes in wearing the hottest french maid outfit with satin gloves, gets undressed in 0.01 seconds and goes straight to hand/blowjob without gloves or outfit on. At that point they could just film her coming in with 20 different outfits and reuse the sex footage for 20 different porn videos :D
TabbsTheBat@pawb.social · 8 pts · 2d
The main annoyance I have when browsing for porn is the onlyfans advertising bots. And it's not even so much their existence, as the fact that they never fit into the niche they're tagged for, it's just vanilla white woman nudes
Other than that, I can't say I have too many complaints
FavouriteShapes@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 2d
Right, yes. It's a lot worse to browse for porn than it used to be just, idk, 3 years ago - which was already worse than 6 or 7 years ago when Onlyfans had only just been created.
TabbsTheBat@pawb.social · 5 pts · 2d
Funnily enough it's part of the reason I stopped engaging with a lot of video/photo based porn communities years ago and went more towards drawings and written smut. Coming back into it more in recent times reminds me how annoying the unrelated spam is lol. Though there's still a lot of good content, it's just a matter of finding something with decent moderation that takes care of the unrelated advertising :3
smaximov@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 2d
The plot is weak.
pandore@fedinsfw.app · 2 pts · 1d
Dialogs too.
FishMouse@fedinsfw.app · 8 pts · 1d
If the title says "step-x" I'm not clicking. Fine, it's a kink... so why is it in every fucking video?
"amateur" porn used to be couples filming themselves fucking and uploading it. Sometimes it was done without consent which is bad, but it was authentic. It was people who liked each other, having a good time, and resembled real sex. Now it's the same scene with the same porn positions and porn angles and porn choking and porn noises.
Lesbian porn shot entirely for male consumption is awful. Why are you moaning while sucking a dildo? Grow up.
Long nails make me cringe.
The biggest distinguishing factor in porn for me is whether there's a woman who looks like she's having a good time, like she might actually cum at some point. It's pretty rare. What's doubly frustrating is when she looks like she might be starting to actually get into it, and then we get a shot of something else -most often her pussy or arse - instead of her face.
_skj@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 1d
The step-whatever titles exist because it costs them almost nothing to throw it in a single line of dialog and draws in a significant number of people while being easy to ignore for most others. It costs even less to toss it into a description on an already existing video.
FishMouse@fedinsfw.app · 1 pts · 7h
Yeah I do know that, I guess it was a rhetorical question...
FavouriteShapes@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 1d
Made me chuckle
southsamurai@sh.itjust.works · 6 pts · 1d
It's a laundry list at this point.
Now, I gotta give the caveat that 95% of the porn I see is communities from fedinsfw.app that pop up when they're new, and then I block them. The "fappening" radically shifted my personal tolerance for porn, and the standards I have for it, so I end up not using it very often. It's become a turn off almost entirely.
But, part of what I dislike is the obviousness of the fakeness, and alongside that the lack of ability to believe any of the performers are actually having fun. There used to be porn where, no matter how badly filmed, or if it had a story or not, the performers at least tried to be believable.
Since it all feels so empty and mindless, it makes all the trappings of incest, "dominance", and even amateur role play just bad. Like, I'm so far past done with all of it, but the shit with someone putting their foot on the face of the person they're fucking? Why? Why is that in so many gifs that get posted? It's awkward and stupid. How anyone can see that dozens of times and not have their immersion break enough to lose arousal, I have no idea.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not kink shaming. Like what you like, that's okay. It's the inundation of bad kink videos that's my pet peeve.
I'm just tired of the spitting and the fake moans and the artificial and poorly done sex talk.
And, again, there's the reality that it's really difficult to tell if everyone on screen actually wants to be there. Some performers are public enough that you can know they're doing it professionally, and that's great. But most of them? It's obvious they don't really want to be there, even the men. Yeah, they're maybe enjoying some of the sensations, but it's still empty. And I just don't enjoy that at all.
It seeped into "amateur" porn as well. It's impossible to hope that anything billed as amateur isn't just a job they're doing, desperate to escape the capitalist hellscape of reality by fucking on camera. There's no passion, no love, no goodness and joy to it, just people fucking like robots to sell.
This is rantish, I know, and i swear I'm not shitting in what people enjoy, what they like to do. It's the porn of it that's just so damn badly done that it becomes disgusting. Or akin to watching footage of an insect mate. And that just isn't enjoyable to me
tantricgooner@fedinsfw.app · 5 pts · 2d
Well most studio porn is just the same scene with a different girl over and over again. Like, you just have to start with a blowjob, then doggy, then riding etc etc. Also you can tell the actresses are just tired of it all 🤠Of course it still gets the pp hard so who cares really. Something I find funny tho with the onlyfans boom is the amount of phone recorded backshots or just a barely comprehensible handheld pov porn. I guess they get points for realism but I get kinda a comical feeling from that stuff.
PussyCreampi3@fedinsfw.app · 5 pts · 1d
Also i don't need to see 30 min of cock sucking. If the blowjob takes 70% of the video, it's not a very good blowjob...
FavouriteShapes@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 2d
Somehow it's more enjoyable than a lot of the studio stuff, most of the studio stuff
Sordid_Seraphim@fedinsfw.app · 5 pts · 2d
Step-whatevers and really the fetishization of minorities.
I think it really encourages people to not think at all like people purposefully insulting one of the "actors" in spite of the fact they're super into them.
A nice example of this is Alex Jones getting revealed to have transgender porn on his phone despite being a massive transphobe.
It's just this weird ass crowd of people who really like something and have a fucking chip on their shoulder about it.