I think it can be healthy if you truly can set aside the disagreement for the sake of the relationship, but that’s not always possible or even appropriate. In my case, I just shoved down years of arguments and jabs in the name of “the big picture” or “being the bigger person” until my wife and I were left with a pile of resentment and a husk of a relationship with few redeeming qualities.
We’re in counseling and I still don’t know if we’ll be able to fix things. Just don’t be like me. Have some self-respect and communicate your feelings when you feel them.
I failed to state I was referring to the unconditional part. As you say, one must respect their limits and that includes in love as well. I hope you're able to find your way @Impleader@lemmy.world
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Calfpupa@lemmy.ml · 5 pts · 9d
My therapist tells me this is not healthy :(
Impleader@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 9d
I think it can be healthy if you truly can set aside the disagreement for the sake of the relationship, but that’s not always possible or even appropriate. In my case, I just shoved down years of arguments and jabs in the name of “the big picture” or “being the bigger person” until my wife and I were left with a pile of resentment and a husk of a relationship with few redeeming qualities.
We’re in counseling and I still don’t know if we’ll be able to fix things. Just don’t be like me. Have some self-respect and communicate your feelings when you feel them.
Calfpupa@lemmy.ml · 3 pts · 9d
I failed to state I was referring to the unconditional part. As you say, one must respect their limits and that includes in love as well. I hope you're able to find your way @Impleader@lemmy.world