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on Mood rule · c/onehundredninetysix · 18 pts · 5d

Typically, treating us as you would any other person of that gender is a good rule of thumb. I do have some suggestions though!

  1. Compliment things they're choosing where appropriate (i.e. outfit choices, jewelry, nails, hair, etc). A simple "your nails look good" when someone has a manicure, "I like your haircut, it suits you", "nice hat", are all good examples. Honestly, these all work for cis people as well, but having someone see, acknowledge, and compliment you means a lot when feeling dysphoric.

  2. Invite them to typically gendered activities with you (if you do any). For example, being invited along for a girl's day by some of my women friends is always welcome. I've also been invited to get my nails done by a guy friend before, and that was also really nice!

  3. Early in transition, having someone of your same gender take you shopping for clothes is incredibly impactful. I was fortunate to have my mom take me on a shopping trip (I was 28, and it was still an anxiety inducing to go alone to try on clothes alone). If you're different genders, this could work still, but is probably more of a case by case thing.

  4. If you're giving a gift, something like flowers for a trans woman is a good option. I don't really have ideas for men, but maybe a cologne or something?

  5. Probably the biggest thing is making the effort to address them properly. Use their name and pronouns. If you make a mistake, don't make a big deal out of it or try to justify it. Just go "sorry, she/he/they/name" and continue your point. "This is hard for me" from someone is an instant ticket to dysphoria (oh they still see me as deadname) and wanting to get away from them.

  6. Ask them if there's some way you can better support them. Even if they go "I don't know", knowing that you care enough to ask means a lot!

I don't have great general advice when it comes to non binary people, as their dysphoria is often a lot different from people with more binary genders. Point number 5 broadly applies, and point 6 might result in more specifics for that individual person that you can act on.

I had that happen, and it ended up being the valve cover gasket leaking oil into my spark plug wells. I thought it was just the coils but after replacing them, the error came back a few days later. The gasket fixed it until I replaced the car.

It's literally the only thing keeping me on windows on my desktop. I dual booted a while back, but it wasn't worth the hassle of needing to reboot to switch tasks. The day they either allow Linux to work again, or my friends stop playing, is the day I permanently switch to Linux.

Do you have a display and keyboard you can connect to it? If you can get video out, and it accepts keyboard input, you can just log in locally and reboot.

I have a desktop system that crashes similarly, though pings also fail. Unfortunately for me, local access also doesn't work so I simply hard power cycle it like what you've been doing for your Pi.

on HRT and ADHD · c/mtf · 7 pts · 9d

I don't know that it made mine worse, but it made me actually care about how bad it was since life wasn't mostly just terrible anymore.

HRT did push me to take care of myself and get a diagnosis, and meds have been incredibly helpful!

PETG is great and almost as easy to work with as PLA! I got a nicer printer a few months ago and have been using it for more structural prints (hooks, storage bins that I'll probably drop, things for in my car). It holds up a lot better, and doesn't suddenly fracture into pieces when over stressed like PLA does.

For anything decorative, or low impact/stress, PLA works great and typically gives slightly better dimensional accuracy compared with PETG. PLA is a poor choice for anything that'll have extended sun exposure, impacts, or needs to survive moderately high temperatures like in a hot car.

Happy printing!

The main reasons it's used in 3d printing have more to do with cost (it's cheap) and its mechanical properties (low-ish melting temp, low expansion/contraction when heated/cooled, low warping, durable enough), as well as not releasing tons of nasty fumes when heated.

Some other benefits are that it's typically made from corn rather than oil, and can be composted in an industrial setting.

Finamp beta supports android auto and offline play (and can transcode the files while downloading to save space on my phone) in conjunction, so my frequently listened to playlists are available whether I have good data service or not.

Most of the world is hostile to us. Even in its current state, parts of the US are still better to live in as a trans person than many places. Parts of Europe and Canada are less hostile, but that's about it.

She was living in New York City, which until last year was one of the best places in the world you could be for trans rights. It's still one of the best places for trans people in the US.

It's not transwomen or transmen, it's trans women or trans men. Just like it's not tallmen or shortwomen, trans is just an adjective.

With the exception of some non binary people, most of the opeople who want to use the women's bathrooms are typically women, cis women or trans women. These trans men are using the women's bathroom because the law dictates that is the bathroom they are required to use, not because it is the bathroom they want to use.

on King 👑 · c/whitepeopletwitter · 20 pts · 48d
  1. A minor attempted to flirt with them, they literally ran away
  2. You can't be charged with a crime if you do nothing wrong because you physically ran away and are faster than said minor
  3. Running away was the correct thing to do
  4. They were terrified (and sweaty) to the point where they were not capable of communicating coherently, and thus were not able to inform the minor that healthy adults would not be interested in their advances

Does that help explain it?