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Trans guy here. I haven't had to bind in a while (top surgery), but I wore binders from gc2b for years. I always found them pretty comfortable (as comfortable as a binder is going to get, anyway), and liked that they came in a bunch of different colors, including multiple skin shades. It's also trans owned, if that's important to you.

In terms of what to look for:

  • It's really worth it to get a binder from a reputable brand. I wore a cheap Amazon binder for a few months and it was painful, I really don't recommend it.
  • Shape can matter for comfort. I preferred a half tank style because I wanted as little extra fabric as possible (I'm a sweaty guy), but a full tank style can be less dysphoric because it looks less like wearing a bra. Same with racerback or full back styles.
  • It's useful to have a few different colors. White and nude are both useful when trying to hide the binder under certain types of shirts, black or colors will hide their age better. Shape can also matter here - do you wear crop tops? You'll want at least one half tank. Tank tops? A racerback will show less under those thin straps.
  • A compression bra might be more comfortable when working out, even if it's less good for binding.

I don't know your friend, but if they're just getting one binder to try it out, I'd recommend a half tank in a nude color that best matches the skin tone on their chest. That's going to be the most versatile under the most clothing. If they like binding, they can pick up more binders once they know more of what they're looking for.

Putting on a binder for the first time was life changing for me. I nearly cried from how good it felt to look in a mirror and see a flat(ter) chest. Best wishes for your friend!!

P.S. You can use tape for binding, but you shouldn't wrap your chest up in tape. The safe way to do it is to use a couple strips to "pull" your chest tissue into a more comfortable shape. There's tutorials online for this. You have to use skin safe tape - the kind athletes use for muscle injuries is available at most drug stores. (This works best if your chest is relatively small – mine was too big for this.)

This isn't true. Crops with multiple harvests give experience for every harvest. (In the first paragraph under Experience Points.)

Maybe you're thinking of how crops that give multiple fruits per harvest (like blueberries and cranberries) only give Exp once per harvest? But if you plant cranberries at the start of the month, you will harvest them 5 times and get Exp every time. I leveled farming to 10 this way in my most recent playthrough.

Multiple answers to that question:

  • There are women on Grindr - in my experience, mostly trans women or m/f couples looking for a third. So men can find straight sex on Grindr, but it's rare. Women are definitely a scant minority of the users.
  • There are plenty of "straight" men on Grindr. You'd have to ask them why - I usually block them.
  • The reason why dating apps marketed towards straight people don't allow this kind of messaging (and the reason there aren't more women on Grindr) is because women, generally speaking, won't put up with the same kind of shit that gay men will. A straight dating app where men could send horny messages and dick pics to every woman they saw wouldn't have any women using it.

Grindr doesn't really have a "match" system. You can send a message to anyone whose profile you can see (unless/until they block you). Think of it less like a traditional dating app and more like an interactive billboard of horny people in your area.

This is a state crime, not federal, so he can't pardon himself as president. I think he could if he was governor of New York, which seems like a long shot.

And New York's AG has seemed pretty keen on seizing his property if he wouldn't pay before. Idk if they can do that for these types of fines but I'm sure they will if they can.

I don't think Jenny is on Nebula. She's got a patreon where she releases smaller videos every month, but to my knowledge she's never "left" YouTube - she just takes a long time to create and edit these videos so she can only release them pretty infrequently. She's got a comment pinned on this video saying about as much.

Are you thinking of Lindsay Ellis? She's still Nebula (and maybe patreon) exclusive.

Disney opened an incredibly expensive Star Wars "hotel experience", charging $5k plus for two nights. Jenny Nicholson visited (paying full price) and documented the experience, plus background on how and why the hotel was made, some research into what was going on behind-the-scenes, and the spectrum of fan reactions to the experience. The hotel closed down permanently while she was editing the video, and she also goes into why that happened and some larger trends at Disney surrounding the closure.

Jenny Nicholson is a really popular video essayist. She only releases like one of these essay videos a year because she spends so long working on them. (She's got a patreon where she releases a smaller, lower effort video every month.)

The big videos routinely pull in millions of views, so I'm not surprised the algorithm spams it in people's feeds. She's got a lot of followers that watch it right away because they've been waiting for a year to see it, so it shoots to the top of the recommendations for other people in that niche. Then there's a snowball effect where YouTube starts recommending it, more people watch it, so it gets recommended more, etc. You see the same thing on Hbomberguy's yearly video.

As one of her subscribers, I can tell you that this video has been in the works for years, so we've been hearing about it for a long time and were hyped. I just finished it today - broke it up into three different viewings. She breaks all her essays down into chapters so it's easy to watch just a portion of it at a time.

on Pronouns · c/microblogmemes · -1 pts · 2y

Oh, you're the same user who was lying in another comment thread about trans people beating you up in a coffee shop.

Ironic that you're commenting about politicians making up stories about trans people to scare voters, seeing as you're doing the same thing to win an argument on the Internet.

on Pronouns · c/microblogmemes · 2 pts · 2y

I mean... I care about pronouns, so do most of my trans friends, and I'd like to think we're all "decent" trans folks. It sucks when someone misgenders you. I would also like the conservatives in my country to stop using trans rights as a wedge issue. I can care about both of these things at the same time.

on saving lives is hot · c/memes · 2 pts · 2y

Quoting from the red cross FAQ:

The waiting period is required due to these drugs interfering with viral replication and thus possibly altering the detectability of diagnostic and screening tests for HIV, including extending the window period prior to detectable infection or a delay in producing antibodies.

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The Red Cross and the FDA support individuals making responsible choices for their health and the broader health of our communities. The Red Cross and FDA are involved in ongoing research, data collection and assessment related to transfusion safety, including the use of HIV preventative medications, and will continue to seek opportunities that could potentially help lead to additional changes. The Red Cross does not encourage individuals to stop taking these medications in order to donate blood.

on saving lives is hot · c/memes · 5 pts · 2y

Just discovered these rule changes based on your comment. Unfortunately my partner and I still can't donate blood (they're on PREP, and I was in a vaccine trial that disqualifies me), but it's cool that they've finally eliminated the worst of the queerphobia in the US.

I experienced the reverse of you - as soon as I transitioned I was disqualified as a trans man who has sex with men, even if the sex was identical pre- and post-transition. These were the previous "updated" rules that were supposed to be less queerphobic, but obviously weren't hitting the mark.

on Ignorance or enlightenment? · c/funny · 13 pts · 2y

Pretty sure they mean that this post is "rage bait" or something similar - controversial content that is designed to provoke arguments in the comments section. For example, the "from the river to the sea" comment could provoke comments about the war in Gaza. Or the entire post could provoke arguments about whether it is good or bad to participate in social media.

Love making risotto in mine. Easy weeknight meal (depending on the recipe).

Loved this list and just added those measuring spoons to my house's wish list. To the home automation front, for Home Assistant users I really like IKEA's line of zigbee controllers. With HA and a cheap dongle you can control any smart device with them, not just IKEA stuff.

  • I have one of their speaker controllers hooked up to my partner's Google smart speakers, so I can turn down the volume and play/pause without shouting at the voice assistant.
  • We have a five-button light controller on each of our nightstands so we can control our lamps and overhead lights (on/off, brightness, color) without getting out of bed. Great when my partner leaves their lamp on - I don't have to reach over them to turn it off. (Now if only I could turn off their TikTok stream when they fall asleep watching it...)
  • Their $10-$12 light switches to control the lamps and overhead lights in all of our rooms. Tap once to turn everything on or off, double tap to turn on just the lamps for some gentler lighting.

And this isn't IKEA, but I need a colder bedroom to fall asleep, and my partner wakes up pretty early and wants it to be warm. I have a space heater connected to a smart outlet and a Bluetooth thermometer. At 4am it will start heating the room until we reach a comfortable temperature, idle until the temp drops, and turn itself completely off after I'm out of bed at 9am. If you need to buy the space heater or equipment to set up Home Assistant, this definitely breaks the $50 budget, but if you've already got those the thermometer and 15A rated smart plug will be maybe $30 total (cheaper if you can wait for longer shipping).