I'm sure the more cultural anthropologist types will have a more eloquent way of stating it, but the US has a hard time escaping it's religious background, which views nudity as a gateway to sexuality, so people "must remained covered".
And in the same way, if men are naked around each other, people are afraid of it being seen as a sexual thing. I mean non sexual nudity doesn't really exist in "standard spaces" in my part of the country anyway.
And man, if an adult and young person were naked near each other, someone would call the cops!
I think Hollywood sexuality is exactly that, escapist fiction. The US is actually a pretty sexually repressed place.
You can sit around any bar and say "oh that girl is hot, I'd love to fuck her!" But you would get looks you'd get if you said "oh that girl is hot, I'd love if she pegged me!"
Maybe it's changing, but it doesn't really feel like it to me.
The technical term for this is called a collective noun in English. I did some quick googling, which unfortunately returned a ton of AI slop that I won't repost here. But it did return tons of answers.
My thought is, your school probably did teach you it was called a Whisper, but who's to say what's the authority on collective nouns.
I believe truly having no empathy would make it impossible to form anything other than surface level friendships.
The only precious resource I own is my time, and who I spend it with. The thing in life that makes the hard times seem not so bad, and the good times twice as good, is spending with people I care about, and people that I know care about me.
To be pathological about it... My asking questions about you IS a means to an end. It gives a few useful things:
I learn about you
I learn about your worldview, I learn what motivates you
and I learn where you tend to sell yourself short so I know how to encourage you
Talking about yourself is "giving" when only you share vulnerability. 1 word answers is keeping your guard up. Asking about them is "giving" because you get opportunities to learn about/support/uplift them. People like getting questions. It can make them feel cared for.
And I'm not saying anything is wrong with you. Just sharing my perspective.
And I'm a guy, so I guess you'd really be puzzled if we met IRL!
I was just in a group setting where 3 people who all had a tendency for "same sex attraction" described themselves differently.
One individual strongly preferred the term queer.
The second identified as pan because they liked the flag more than the bi flag, but admitted that bi might be a better fit for them.
The third indentified as bi.
The discussion of accurate terminology could be helpful in some settings, but... In casual settings, or even when negotiating intimacy with other people, what YOU mean by the term means more than the term itself, and you are not out of place by feeling "generally fuzzy" on usage.
This is challenging to read as a human. And I know I'm not the only one. So if we can't work out all the letters... no way a computer could either. I liken it to the idea that if I type out "detialed", spell check can suggest "detailed", but if I write "ditaled" it's not going to know.
This is a phenomenal resource! In all my years, I haven't actually heard anyone say "once removed" in story telling. I would almost feel weird saying it, despite it being technically correct. It's like saying "whom" out loud, you might be right, but people start mocking you.
Yes I need better coworkers, what are you gonna do...
The point you raise reminds me of when Signal dropped SMS support, after my efforts to convert all the non techie people in my life over to it. So sad when it happens...
I'll be slightly contrarian to others and give a different perspective: you may find yourself hitting some roadblocks, I'll try to explain.
I set up Linux Mint for my elderly parents. The key thing is, I set it up for them, functioning as the administrator for that machine, making sure they had a non admin account and configured their desktop to only show the shortcuts they cared about (firefox).
It worked fine, and I only got calls once every few months. They got scared if some popup occured, or if they accidentally saved something to their desktop that they wanted to get rid of. I don't know if that really meets the definition of seamless, and I don't know if you'd even consider those problems.
The other thing that can happen, is hardware interfaces. I know that you've listed out your use case. I'm just saying that if your birthday rolls around and someone buys you a 3d printer where you "just plug it in", you're going to be in for a long troubleshooting day, if it isn't natively supported.
With Steam games, you can often get away with enabling proton, but... Small issues like being able to select multiple drive folders have sent me down long troubleshooting avenues as well. And when I use the word troubleshoot, I'm inevitably referring to the command line.
Lots of people are encouraging you to try, and you can make that decision. I just want to toss out that it might not be seamless. But I don't think Windows is seamless either. It's just what most people are used to.
I started talking to them about my problems and feelings. I don't talk about my problems with them for the sake of trying to workshop a solution, but rather to share that I'm going through a difficult time. Socially, atleast where I come from, this isn't something that men normally do.
Let me put it to you this way. You can have a long, entertaining conversation about video games for a few hours with your friends. But at the end of the day when you come home, do you know more about them? I'd argue that you learned more about their thoughts, but you didn't learn much about their feelings.
I slowly became aware of this fact, after a long time in therapy. A friend would ask, "how do you feel about the election?" And I would respond, "I think politician A is going to win because..."
This is no different than the video game conversation. Imagine if instead I had said "I feel a sense of dread about the upcoming election. I am scared that politican A is going to pass legislation that makes my life more difficult".
That's such an awkward thing to say for me, because I'm so uncomfortable talking about how I feel. But the recognition that the wall exists is the first step, and the second is choosing to lead your life differently.
Some of my conversations are "meta" with these friends: "Well, that was an interesting side tangent about steam engines. But I've been trying to make sure I check in with my friends more often about how they're feeling. How are you feeling today?"
And yeah, my friends can sometimes also respond with their thoughts. So I just gently tug it along by then mentioning how I find their answer relatable, because I often respond with feel questions by stating my thoughts, but I am really interested in how they feel.
My friends are quite receptive to this. I get the feeling it's because all people are craving more authentic connections, but are struggling with saying the vulnerable thing, and not wanting to look weak/stupid. I get it, because I'm the same way, but I'm looking to change that. If you can show them that you won't judge, possibilities start to open.
I can't discount this very valid point :D
I'm sure the more cultural anthropologist types will have a more eloquent way of stating it, but the US has a hard time escaping it's religious background, which views nudity as a gateway to sexuality, so people "must remained covered".
And in the same way, if men are naked around each other, people are afraid of it being seen as a sexual thing. I mean non sexual nudity doesn't really exist in "standard spaces" in my part of the country anyway.
And man, if an adult and young person were naked near each other, someone would call the cops!
I think Hollywood sexuality is exactly that, escapist fiction. The US is actually a pretty sexually repressed place.
You can sit around any bar and say "oh that girl is hot, I'd love to fuck her!" But you would get looks you'd get if you said "oh that girl is hot, I'd love if she pegged me!"
Maybe it's changing, but it doesn't really feel like it to me.
The technical term for this is called a
collective nounin English. I did some quick googling, which unfortunately returned a ton of AI slop that I won't repost here. But it did return tons of answers.My thought is, your school probably did teach you it was called a Whisper, but who's to say what's the authority on collective nouns.
I believe truly having no empathy would make it impossible to form anything other than surface level friendships.
The only precious resource I own is my time, and who I spend it with. The thing in life that makes the hard times seem not so bad, and the good times twice as good, is spending with people I care about, and people that I know care about me.
To be pathological about it... My asking questions about you IS a means to an end. It gives a few useful things:
Talking about yourself is "giving" when only you share vulnerability. 1 word answers is keeping your guard up. Asking about them is "giving" because you get opportunities to learn about/support/uplift them. People like getting questions. It can make them feel cared for.
And I'm not saying anything is wrong with you. Just sharing my perspective.
And I'm a guy, so I guess you'd really be puzzled if we met IRL!
I was just in a group setting where 3 people who all had a tendency for "same sex attraction" described themselves differently.
One individual strongly preferred the term queer.
The second identified as pan because they liked the flag more than the bi flag, but admitted that bi might be a better fit for them.
The third indentified as bi.
The discussion of accurate terminology could be helpful in some settings, but... In casual settings, or even when negotiating intimacy with other people, what YOU mean by the term means more than the term itself, and you are not out of place by feeling "generally fuzzy" on usage.
This is challenging to read as a human. And I know I'm not the only one. So if we can't work out all the letters... no way a computer could either. I liken it to the idea that if I type out "detialed", spell check can suggest "detailed", but if I write "ditaled" it's not going to know.
When adult men using the urinal allow their pants to fall down around their ankles while peeing
We've been called out, but deservedly so.
I second this. Fastmail has been a joy to use. Since the users are paying, the company has (less) incentives to enshittify. JMAP? Count me in!
This was such a helpful little example, thank you! Like a peek into another world.
Am I crazy? I'm seeing a github page with commits from 6 days ago. When you unmaintained what do you mean, like no new features?
Love your "moss on building" smudge effect.
With such sharp, acidic wit, you might say the prose is... Lemony.
"He was my fourth cousin, thrice removed. He just couldn't stay away from the bottle and started many brawls at the reunions, baptisms, and funerals."
This is a phenomenal resource! In all my years, I haven't actually heard anyone say "once removed" in story telling. I would almost feel weird saying it, despite it being technically correct. It's like saying "whom" out loud, you might be right, but people start mocking you.
Yes I need better coworkers, what are you gonna do...
The point you raise reminds me of when Signal dropped SMS support, after my efforts to convert all the non techie people in my life over to it. So sad when it happens...
If you don't want to attempt cleaning it, you could just bury them outside?
Edit: Everyone didn't like that.
Keep it on your shelf forever Wrap it in layers of newspaper and toss it out Just clean it. It's glass. Use an ultrasonic
I have a guideline I like to follow when putting together my pizzas, I like something spicy, something savory, and something sweet
Spice: banana peppers, jalepenos, or yes, hot sauce if that's what I've got
Savory: bacon,chicken, pulled pork, sausage, pepperoni, mushrooms,
Sweet: onions, picked red onions, roasted corn, pineapple
You can blend stuff (put tandoori chicken on the pizza) for even more interesting combos!
I feel like one of each gives a great result.
I'll be slightly contrarian to others and give a different perspective: you may find yourself hitting some roadblocks, I'll try to explain.
I set up Linux Mint for my elderly parents. The key thing is, I set it up for them, functioning as the administrator for that machine, making sure they had a non admin account and configured their desktop to only show the shortcuts they cared about (firefox).
It worked fine, and I only got calls once every few months. They got scared if some popup occured, or if they accidentally saved something to their desktop that they wanted to get rid of. I don't know if that really meets the definition of seamless, and I don't know if you'd even consider those problems.
The other thing that can happen, is hardware interfaces. I know that you've listed out your use case. I'm just saying that if your birthday rolls around and someone buys you a 3d printer where you "just plug it in", you're going to be in for a long troubleshooting day, if it isn't natively supported.
With Steam games, you can often get away with enabling proton, but... Small issues like being able to select multiple drive folders have sent me down long troubleshooting avenues as well. And when I use the word troubleshoot, I'm inevitably referring to the command line.
Lots of people are encouraging you to try, and you can make that decision. I just want to toss out that it might not be seamless. But I don't think Windows is seamless either. It's just what most people are used to.
I started talking to them about my problems and feelings. I don't talk about my problems with them for the sake of trying to workshop a solution, but rather to share that I'm going through a difficult time. Socially, atleast where I come from, this isn't something that men normally do.
Let me put it to you this way. You can have a long, entertaining conversation about video games for a few hours with your friends. But at the end of the day when you come home, do you know more about them? I'd argue that you learned more about their thoughts, but you didn't learn much about their feelings.
I slowly became aware of this fact, after a long time in therapy. A friend would ask, "how do you feel about the election?" And I would respond, "I think politician A is going to win because..."
This is no different than the video game conversation. Imagine if instead I had said "I feel a sense of dread about the upcoming election. I am scared that politican A is going to pass legislation that makes my life more difficult".
That's such an awkward thing to say for me, because I'm so uncomfortable talking about how I feel. But the recognition that the wall exists is the first step, and the second is choosing to lead your life differently.
Some of my conversations are "meta" with these friends: "Well, that was an interesting side tangent about steam engines. But I've been trying to make sure I check in with my friends more often about how they're feeling. How are you feeling today?"
And yeah, my friends can sometimes also respond with their thoughts. So I just gently tug it along by then mentioning how I find their answer relatable, because I often respond with feel questions by stating my thoughts, but I am really interested in how they feel.
My friends are quite receptive to this. I get the feeling it's because all people are craving more authentic connections, but are struggling with saying the vulnerable thing, and not wanting to look weak/stupid. I get it, because I'm the same way, but I'm looking to change that. If you can show them that you won't judge, possibilities start to open.