I struggled with depression a lot when I was growing up. And to deal with it, I ate my feelings, and gained a ton of weight. Even though I've lost most of the weight, (down from 350lbs to 200lbs) my body is never going to look good due to the stretch marks and loose skin.
Hey, you're killing it. I'm proud of you.
Stretch marks and loose skin are signs of your achievement, as far as I'm concerned.
But i also understand that lack of alignment with conventional beauty srandards can be frustrating, and that's valid.
Maybe you wont quite attain your 'ideal' form but that doesn't mean you cant "look good". Looking good is more about fit than form and getting a good fit is absolutely attainable. I've seen so many imperfect-bodied people looking downright snazzy in what they wear.
Remember: our flaws are magnified in our own vision and others may not even notice.
Addicted to nicotine for about 33 years. I've been vaping only for a year now but I have no way of stopping and, unlike a cigarette, they never go out, so the addiction is only getting worse. I quit smoking for 3 months a few years ago and wore patches but I cried for minimum 6 hours a day the entire time. Once I forgot to put on my patch and cried through a whole shift at work, couldn't stop. I didn't even bother asking someone for a smoke on break because I knew that unending despair was my entire future so temporary relief was pointless. I have no health problems yet but by the time I stopped smoking it was costing me more than rent.
I've recently had a bone graft on my knee the pain has been excruciating. I've looked into it it's a long slow heal nothing I can do, just do my physio and plod along
Considering that one branch of my family runs towards joint and spinal issues, it might not have been the best of ideas to power lift, or pick a job that involved picking people up in awkward conditions. Or a martial art that involves hitting the ground hard and repeatedly.
Yeah. So, while I would have had the same issues eventually, I likely would have had another ten to fifteen years before it got bad with different choices.
DIY strongman competition at university: farmers walk through a sand volleyball court. Dropped the weight, picked it up in one of those twisting motions your lumbar spine really likes because of shifting sand and tore a disc. I've now got low disk height, arthritis, and bone degeneration in that area with some pretty constant sciatica. I did it when I was 22.
I just wish i took better care of mine. I do my best but my best isn't great.
Something specific, though:
::: spoiler TMI
I wish i had better sexual education when i was young. I wish i had known about/had access to a sleeve. Now I have reduced feeling and spots of numbness.
:::
Ate and drank too much without enough exercise when I was younger.
Had a tattoo which although not a name, represents the name of former controlling partner. When I can afford it it's getting a cover up. Luckily it's on my chest and I'm not a Geordie so people don't see it. Otherwise it'd be gone now.
18 Comments
LadyButterfly@lazysoci.al · 16 pts · 1y
Overexerted and overtrained when exercising a few years ago, fucked up my knee. Endless issues since then.
Carbonizer@lemmy.world · 11 pts · 1y
I struggled with depression a lot when I was growing up. And to deal with it, I ate my feelings, and gained a ton of weight. Even though I've lost most of the weight, (down from 350lbs to 200lbs) my body is never going to look good due to the stretch marks and loose skin.
Mac@mander.xyz · 4 pts · 1y
Hey, you're killing it. I'm proud of you.
Stretch marks and loose skin are signs of your achievement, as far as I'm concerned.
But i also understand that lack of alignment with conventional beauty srandards can be frustrating, and that's valid.
Maybe you wont quite attain your 'ideal' form but that doesn't mean you cant "look good". Looking good is more about fit than form and getting a good fit is absolutely attainable. I've seen so many imperfect-bodied people looking downright snazzy in what they wear.
Remember: our flaws are magnified in our own vision and others may not even notice.
SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world · 10 pts · 1y
Poured all of the alcohol into it
All of the alcohol
Lembot_0002@lemm.ee · 2 pts · 1y
SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 1y
No, just dealing with the alcoholism
Lembot_0002@lemm.ee · 0 pts · 1y
Kayel@aussie.zone · 9 pts · 1y
Sat at a desk all day.
Manual labour all day
Both
Character_Locked@lemm.ee · 8 pts · 1y
werty@sh.itjust.works · 7 pts · 1y
Addicted to nicotine for about 33 years. I've been vaping only for a year now but I have no way of stopping and, unlike a cigarette, they never go out, so the addiction is only getting worse. I quit smoking for 3 months a few years ago and wore patches but I cried for minimum 6 hours a day the entire time. Once I forgot to put on my patch and cried through a whole shift at work, couldn't stop. I didn't even bother asking someone for a smoke on break because I knew that unending despair was my entire future so temporary relief was pointless. I have no health problems yet but by the time I stopped smoking it was costing me more than rent.
AtHeartEngineer@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 1y
ZDL@ttrpg.network · 7 pts · 1y
LadyButterfly@lazysoci.al · 3 pts · 1y
Oh blimey you've been through it! What was the recovery like after surgery?
ZDL@ttrpg.network · 3 pts · 1y
LadyButterfly@lazysoci.al · 2 pts · 1y
I've recently had a bone graft on my knee the pain has been excruciating. I've looked into it it's a long slow heal nothing I can do, just do my physio and plod along
southsamurai@sh.itjust.works · 5 pts · 1y
Pushed it too hard for too long.
Considering that one branch of my family runs towards joint and spinal issues, it might not have been the best of ideas to power lift, or pick a job that involved picking people up in awkward conditions. Or a martial art that involves hitting the ground hard and repeatedly.
Yeah. So, while I would have had the same issues eventually, I likely would have had another ten to fifteen years before it got bad with different choices.
Don't really regret much of it though.
fjordo@feddit.uk · 5 pts · 1y
Destroyed my back 15 years ago working retail. It never healed right and still bothers me daily.
cornshark@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 1y
In what way did working retail mess up your back?
fjordo@feddit.uk · 2 pts · 1y
Pulled a cart full of product wrong, it tore all my back muscles up.
dream_weasel@sh.itjust.works · 4 pts · 1y
DIY strongman competition at university: farmers walk through a sand volleyball court. Dropped the weight, picked it up in one of those twisting motions your lumbar spine really likes because of shifting sand and tore a disc. I've now got low disk height, arthritis, and bone degeneration in that area with some pretty constant sciatica. I did it when I was 22.
Oops.
Mac@mander.xyz · 2 pts · 1y
I just wish i took better care of mine. I do my best but my best isn't great.
Something specific, though:
::: spoiler TMI
I wish i had better sexual education when i was young. I wish i had known about/had access to a sleeve. Now I have reduced feeling and spots of numbness.
:::
baggins@beehaw.org · 1 pts · 1y
Ate and drank too much without enough exercise when I was younger.
Had a tattoo which although not a name, represents the name of former controlling partner. When I can afford it it's getting a cover up. Luckily it's on my chest and I'm not a Geordie so people don't see it. Otherwise it'd be gone now.
apotheotic@beehaw.org · 1 pts · 1y
Male puberty
Also not taking care of my ears, fuck tinnitus
intelisense@lemm.ee · 1 pts · 1y
I am deaf in one ear because I stood too close to the bass bin in a notorious London club. I have a hearing aid that helps a bit.