I don't know if I would be offended, but I'd be willing to let more than a few people control my mute button. I'd certainly get over it in like 10 minutes even if it did bug me... So long as they were genuine.
In truth, I don't really see it as over explaining as much as my need to trace a path of connections through my empirical experiences and heuristics that access that information.
I think most people memorize stuff they do not actually understand. I understand things, but it is more like statistics and heuristics. I want to explain things to ground myself in where I'm at, and because my intent is to collaborate. I want to be wrong and I want you to tell me where exactly I make any wrong turns. I'm fundamentally curious and want to expand upon the subject of interest. I explain because I want to grow, and want to grow with you, collaboratively, and in depth. I'm fishing for someone else like me. I'm embarrassed not because I have over explained, but because I am such a poor judge of the curiosity and motivations of others and I mistook you for someone with infinite capacity for curiosity.
She was telling me about some creator who did something she didn’t like.
The thing she didn’t like would have been a perfectly ok amount of information to give me. I am, and will always be outside of the situation. That ain’t how she rolls though, I had to hear the years long backstory leading to the moment she got upset.
I told her that two pieces of information would have been enough. The part where the dude did a thing, and then the part where he contradicted himself and became a hypocrite.
Many times, especially on Lemmy, I've written some huge elaborate diatribe, reread it, and shortened it into something (hopefully) short and eloquent. It's easier in text than in speech.
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j4k3@lemmy.world · 16 pts · 1y
I don't know if I would be offended, but I'd be willing to let more than a few people control my mute button. I'd certainly get over it in like 10 minutes even if it did bug me... So long as they were genuine.
In truth, I don't really see it as over explaining as much as my need to trace a path of connections through my empirical experiences and heuristics that access that information.
I think most people memorize stuff they do not actually understand. I understand things, but it is more like statistics and heuristics. I want to explain things to ground myself in where I'm at, and because my intent is to collaborate. I want to be wrong and I want you to tell me where exactly I make any wrong turns. I'm fundamentally curious and want to expand upon the subject of interest. I explain because I want to grow, and want to grow with you, collaboratively, and in depth. I'm fishing for someone else like me. I'm embarrassed not because I have over explained, but because I am such a poor judge of the curiosity and motivations of others and I mistook you for someone with infinite capacity for curiosity.
whosepoopisonmybutt@sh.itjust.works · 11 pts · 1y
You'll soon learn that most people will only read the subject line and the first sentence.
CompactFlax@discuss.tchncs.de · 7 pts · 1y
And then get mad when I tell them they fucked it up.
And people wonder why I just do it myself.
theangryseal@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 1y
My daughter haha.
She was telling me about some creator who did something she didn’t like.
The thing she didn’t like would have been a perfectly ok amount of information to give me. I am, and will always be outside of the situation. That ain’t how she rolls though, I had to hear the years long backstory leading to the moment she got upset.
I told her that two pieces of information would have been enough. The part where the dude did a thing, and then the part where he contradicted himself and became a hypocrite.
I couldn’t even remotely retain the rest.
I do try to follow her though. Man, I try.
ohwhatfollyisman@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 1y
it’s a fa-a-a-a-ke!
there’s no way a really neurodivergent person would be able to fit that elegant explanation in so small a tweet.
toynbee@lemmy.world · 11 pts · 1y
Many times, especially on Lemmy, I've written some huge elaborate diatribe, reread it, and shortened it into something (hopefully) short and eloquent. It's easier in text than in speech.