I just provably passed for the first time since starting my transition. Got a match on Taimi and after an initial compliment (apparently I have a nice smile 🥹) I got a "you aren't a woman?!?" "I am a woman, but I'm trans". . I'm not a fan of the passing culture, but it still felt damn good.
First pass rule
17 Comments
HuntressHimbo@lemmy.zip · 30 pts · 271d
Passing culture might not be the best, but take your gender euphoria where you get it. It's not worth second guessing your elation 😊 Not only did you pass, but they thought you were hot!
katja@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 15 pts · 271d
Yeah, I've been on cloud nine since it happened. 🏳️⚧️
Didn't even think to thank him for possibly the biggest compliment I've ever received, and I don't mean the nice smile one.
decipher_jeanne@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 24 pts · 271d
Are you Marilyn Monroe?
katja@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 17 pts · 271d
No, I'm just camera shy. We look very much nothing like each other though.
FloMo@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 271d
I mean this as a sincere compliment when I say I thought I was scrolling past a photo of Marilyn for a moment - or someone doing a fabulous impersonation.
Either way you look amazing and like you’re living your best life - absolutely love that for you!
tja@sh.itjust.works · 11 pts · 270d
That is a photo of Marilyn. Op said she did not want to upload a photo of herself
FloMo@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 270d
Looks like I need to pick up a book and practice reading more LOL thank you for the clarification!
katja@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 7 pts · 270d
That is Marilyn. I just got so damn euphoric about some hick dude failing to clock me that I had to make my first post here and didn't think too hard about what pic I used.
FloMo@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 270d
Totally understandable and still very happy for you! <3
katja@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 270d
Thanks babe 🥰
stardustpathsofglory@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 270d
hodgepodgin@lemmy.zip · 14 pts · 270d
I would advertise you’re trans so you don’t surprise the other person tbh
katja@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 9 pts · 270d
Yes, I realize that now. I assumed that it was blindingly obvious and I did indicate I'm trans, both in the text and as my gender. Seems the freeloaders don't see any text or even info before a match so some visual aid is probably warranted, like a trans pride flag or something.
SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 4 pts · 270d
They actually just changed this. I have been on Taimi for a year as an unpaid member and I could see things like gender, location, actual profiile info and such and as of last week all that info is now hidden...
But I am not even entirely sure that it only applies to unpaid members because I had a gold membership for a week and that info stopped showing up about three days before the gold membership ended and two days before I cancelled the membership.
I want to like Taimi more but god damn they are pricey just to see basic ass info about each other.
And for what it's worth, yes, you absolutely are a woman, and would be even if you didn't "pass." I am glad however that it helped boost your self confidence.
Finally... If you're entirely straight and on Taimi what the fuck are you even doin (not you-you, but the guy who had the audacity to say something as stupid as "you're not a woman")? I'm only "straight" in the sense that I am attracted to women and transwomen are women so you get the idea.
katja@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 4 pts · 270d
If that change is permanent, I'm leaving. Platinum is way too expensive and gold just became completely worthless.
They're going to lose a lot of customers on this.
SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 270d
Do you have any suggestions for a Taimi replacement? I tried Hinge but nobody is on it in my area except "non-political" Christians and it makes me want to die. On the plus side unlike Taimi, Hinge actually has a "gynesexual" option for sexual preferences.
katja@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 270d
I've had more luck on Hinge than on Taimi, but that may be a regional thing. I'm on greed too, but that is about as dead as it gets. I paid for six months right off the bat without even checking the app too closely first. Mistake. Also, greed is such a bad name.
I'm on "Her" too, but I've drifted more towards guys lately so I'm not using it much.
its_kim_love@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 5 pts · 271d
Phobes gonna phone.