Guys and Girls of the fediverse who have made the decision to end a toxic relationship, did you choose to go to the gym? If so what has been the out come for you since then?
I chose to go to the other side of the continent and back, with my faithful furball by my side. (Took nearly a year) Now, we're putting down roots in a far better city, thousands of miles and innumerable degrees of separation from her crazy ass. Winning. Tough AF, but finally winning, I think. 🥲
Wasn't my choice to end it, but working out did help, the physical discomfort dulls the emotional pain. Although I did it at home rather than going to a gym. Years later I'm still more in shape than I was before that episode.
Ran on a treadmill a couple of times, but then lost steam. Drank and spent time with strippers instead. Still wound up meeting and falling in love with the kindest and most beautiful girl I’ve ever been with, and now I don’t feel the need for the liquor and loose women anymore.
“Hit the gym” is a lie that Big Gym tells you so you’ll get stuck in an un-cancellable subscription. /s
I suppose it’s down to each person and what they feel will work best for themselves, personally I’ve gone back to the gym after two years because of multiple events (including me having to end a toxic relationship) and I found that channeling any anger along with all them feelings that are picking away at your mind into Woking out, really does give you a boost and for me has 100% helped me feel better and is helping me recover from what in my opinion put me into a very dark place in my mind.
I did not hit the gym, but after dumping her I suddenly had no problems in life and found the energy to start jogging, lifting weights, doing bodyweight fitness exercises, cooking, reading, professional self-improvement, and now I have a new higher-paying career and a much better social life with my friends. Only thing that hasn't yet panned out is finding a new girlfriend, but I'm optimistic that could happen soon too. 🤞
I went for myself, but I do channel a lot of anger I built up into working out, because that’s where I can vent it all.
Going to the gym in order to get shredded so that you can show off to your ex just isn’t worth it. So I agree you need to go for yourself. The looks are just a cherry on top.
I did! The outcome has been that I go to the gym now lol, these days about 2-4 times a month depending on how I feel. I was trying to chase the dragon of a tight tummy for the first
six months and was regularly going 3 times a week, but slowed down once I realized that my bloating probably has other causes.
Eating and not wanting to do anything is common, but believe me force yourself to do something out of your comfort zone or simply force yourself to go out somewhere. I know it’s hard to do but it’ll help you I promise.
Firstly it’s something I’ve experienced recently (having to end a toxic relationship) and secondly I’m intrigued on how many people choose to go to the gym to better themself after a similar event.
And I feel like it can be motivation for some people reading stuff like this because it shows that they aren’t alone and that other people are in similar positions, and I suppose it shows people what experiences others has had and will maybe help them choose to go to the gym or something other than that.
Yes. It was unrelated to the relationship though. The result is that most of my random aches and pains are gone. I can do a lot of strength related things I used to have to ask for help with, and I look great when I take my shirt off.
22 Comments
otter@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 21 pts · 270d
I chose to go to the other side of the continent and back, with my faithful furball by my side. (Took nearly a year) Now, we're putting down roots in a far better city, thousands of miles and innumerable degrees of separation from her crazy ass. Winning. Tough AF, but finally winning, I think. 🥲
Ste41th@lemmy.ml · 6 pts · 270d
I hope everything works out for you, and I’m positive you’ll be okay.
chicken@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 9 pts · 270d
Wasn't my choice to end it, but working out did help, the physical discomfort dulls the emotional pain. Although I did it at home rather than going to a gym. Years later I'm still more in shape than I was before that episode.
Ste41th@lemmy.ml · 2 pts · 269d
I’m happy for you, I’m glad working out made you feel better
WeirdGoesPro@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 9 pts · 270d
Ran on a treadmill a couple of times, but then lost steam. Drank and spent time with strippers instead. Still wound up meeting and falling in love with the kindest and most beautiful girl I’ve ever been with, and now I don’t feel the need for the liquor and loose women anymore.
“Hit the gym” is a lie that Big Gym tells you so you’ll get stuck in an un-cancellable subscription. /s
Ste41th@lemmy.ml · 4 pts · 270d
I suppose it’s down to each person and what they feel will work best for themselves, personally I’ve gone back to the gym after two years because of multiple events (including me having to end a toxic relationship) and I found that channeling any anger along with all them feelings that are picking away at your mind into Woking out, really does give you a boost and for me has 100% helped me feel better and is helping me recover from what in my opinion put me into a very dark place in my mind.
TheReanuKeeves@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 270d
I actually only have motivation to workout hard when I'm in a relationship and happy
Admetus@sopuli.xyz · 3 pts · 270d
It doesn't surprise me that marketers figured out that people going through a break up is an audience to profit from.
HubertManne@piefed.social · 1 pts · 268d
Thats funny because drinking and going to strippers is what I hear from big jim.
dditty@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 6 pts · 269d
I did not hit the gym, but after dumping her I suddenly had no problems in life and found the energy to start jogging, lifting weights, doing bodyweight fitness exercises, cooking, reading, professional self-improvement, and now I have a new higher-paying career and a much better social life with my friends. Only thing that hasn't yet panned out is finding a new girlfriend, but I'm optimistic that could happen soon too. 🤞
clay_pidgin@sh.itjust.works · 3 pts · 269d
Well, you sound like a catch!
Ste41th@lemmy.ml · 2 pts · 268d
Hey congrats, I’m glad things are working out for you, and good luck on the possible future girlfriend!
dil@lemmy.zip · 5 pts · 270d
Youll be better off going to the gym for yourself and not revenge or whatever
Ste41th@lemmy.ml · 2 pts · 269d
I went for myself, but I do channel a lot of anger I built up into working out, because that’s where I can vent it all.
Going to the gym in order to get shredded so that you can show off to your ex just isn’t worth it. So I agree you need to go for yourself. The looks are just a cherry on top.
djsoren19@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 4 pts · 269d
I did! The outcome has been that I go to the gym now lol, these days about 2-4 times a month depending on how I feel. I was trying to chase the dragon of a tight tummy for the first six months and was regularly going 3 times a week, but slowed down once I realized that my bloating probably has other causes.
Ste41th@lemmy.ml · 1 pts · 268d
First off I’m happy for you, secondly I hope you achieve all the goals you set out to achieve at the gym!
pyria@kbin.melroy.org · 3 pts · 269d
Ste41th@lemmy.ml · 3 pts · 269d
Eating and not wanting to do anything is common, but believe me force yourself to do something out of your comfort zone or simply force yourself to go out somewhere. I know it’s hard to do but it’ll help you I promise.
mistermodal@lemmy.ml · 2 pts · 269d
I feel like you're kind of teeing people up too much with this question like why does it need to be toxic
Ste41th@lemmy.ml · 6 pts · 269d
Firstly it’s something I’ve experienced recently (having to end a toxic relationship) and secondly I’m intrigued on how many people choose to go to the gym to better themself after a similar event.
And I feel like it can be motivation for some people reading stuff like this because it shows that they aren’t alone and that other people are in similar positions, and I suppose it shows people what experiences others has had and will maybe help them choose to go to the gym or something other than that.
lightnsfw@reddthat.com · 2 pts · 269d
Yes. It was unrelated to the relationship though. The result is that most of my random aches and pains are gone. I can do a lot of strength related things I used to have to ask for help with, and I look great when I take my shirt off.
Ste41th@lemmy.ml · 2 pts · 268d
Oh nice, I’m happy for you!
aceshigh@lemmy.world · 0 pts · 269d
What does the gym help with? The problem is that you’re attracted to toxic people and this pattern will continue until you get professional help.