Important reminder

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Blaze@piefed.zip · 9 pts · 295d (1 reply)

Hello,

Thank you for sharing!

FYI, !wholesome@reddthat.com is more active

Viking_Hippie@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 6 pts · 295d

Thanks, crossposted there 🙂

moshankey@lemmy.world · 9 pts · 295d

Thank you. My wife tells me this every day. Illness sucks but support makes it a bit easier.

Feathercrown@lemmy.world · 9 pts · 295d (5 replies)

Are these posts helpful for people? I'm curious.

gndagreborn@lemmy.world · 10 pts · 295d

It depends on where you are in life and your current head space. There is a debate about 'toxic positivity propaganda' being used to shift decreased morale from systemic issues onto individuals, but it's very muddy territory.

Some people just shut out this messaging. Others can find it encouraging when no one else is in their corner.

Dadifer@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 295d

They are to me! Probably depends on whether you're depressed or not.

Demdaru@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 295d

The duality of other responses lol

Anyway. It can be, but you need to be in headspace where you are accepting of them. So not to everyone and not always.

user224@lemmy.sdf.org · 4 pts · 295d

No.

Bazell@lemmy.zip · 2 pts · 295d

Yes. They work like a funny joke that can make your mood better.

NABDad@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 295d (1 reply)

I'm the, "could be worse", guy for my wife. No matter how bad things are, I can always imagine something entirely possible that would be worse.

I don't know if it helps her at all, but she seems to be amused by it.

I live in a world of ever-present, looming disaster.

I'm a sysadmin.

Viking_Hippie@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 5 pts · 295d

I live in a world of ever-present, looming disaster.

I'm a sysadmin

That would be a great tagline for your memoir or schlocky mystery novel!

NickwithaC@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 295d

growth rough community

know_your_place@eviltoast.org · 5 pts · 295d (2 replies)

Am I the only one that these empty platitudes make feel worse??

How are people happy to be told all that, based on nothing at all. Cause and effect, if there's no cause the effect is invalid.

rautapekoni@sopuli.xyz · 6 pts · 295d

Nah, I don't respect the parts about it being temporary and me being able to beat it too much either. I don't mind the drive-by positivity as such, but assuming I'll ever be able to get better when the reality is different does not make absorbing the positivity very easy.

Jinarched@lemmy.ca · 6 pts · 295d

I see it just as positive vibes. It's someone throwing a bottle in the ocean hoping it will reach someone who might need the message inside it.

I can totally understand the other way around though, it can feel invalidating like behing told that sleeping 8 hours, meditating 15 minutes per day and eating well will solve every single of your problems when you have to deal with a crippling condition every single day of your life. It can be infuriating.

I try to focus on the non-verbal narrative and tell myself that it's just a person sending positive vibes in their own way.

sircac@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 295d

The unconditionallity of some affirmations damages their credibility...

Johanno@feddit.org · 3 pts · 295d

Thx ❤️

starlinguk@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 295d

No, I will not beat this. Illness isn't something you beat, it's something someone cures. Or not.

I don't like the implication that if you don't get better you're not fighting hard enough.

bunkyprewster@startrek.website · 1 pts · 295d