Often people want to vent and they’re not looking for a fix but commiseration. It’s Not About the Nail is an extremely obvious case on purpose, but learning to first commiserate with someone and then ask if they need help before offering solutions is a good communication skill.
I’m not sure that makes them immature assholes. But this extreme example certainly does. 🤣
If one vents and needs commiseration over problems with glaringly obvious solutions, especially if the problems are self-caused/imposed, they are immature assholes who don't want to or have the capacity for self-reflection, nor respect for others' time.
This only my opinion about this video; it's not gospel.
I did say the extreme example in the video was immature.
Calling someone immature may be accurate, but it isn’t going to help anyone. Again, the better approach is to commiserate, then ask if they want help, then provide that help.
Every one of us will have blind spots when it comes to self-reflection. It’s why therapy is so useful. But people seek out therapy, they generally don’t want it from their friends and family without prompting.
But people seek out therapy, they generally don’t want it from their friends and family without prompting.
Let me be clearer and more concise then.
Yes, people shouldn't give unsolicited advice by default, but if one wants a precise style of listening without reaction, the onus is on one to say that up front, or pay a therapist, and, finally, venting will elicit comments and/or criticism regardless of the taboo of advice, depending on the nature of one's culpability.
18 Comments
Alexstarfire@lemmy.world · 34 pts · 270d
cRazi_man@europe.pub · 2 pts · 270d
Red and Hyde......name a more iconic duo.
oyo@lemmy.zip · 9 pts · 270d
Hyde and... Jekyll?
Hyde and rape?
Alexstarfire@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 270d
Why do you think he wants to keep yelling?
TheRealKuni@piefed.social · 13 pts · 270d
It’s not about the nail!
NeilBru@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 270d
People are immature assholes, and, truthfully, it's really funny to me.
TheRealKuni@piefed.social · 6 pts · 270d
Often people want to vent and they’re not looking for a fix but commiseration. It’s Not About the Nail is an extremely obvious case on purpose, but learning to first commiserate with someone and then ask if they need help before offering solutions is a good communication skill.
I’m not sure that makes them immature assholes. But this extreme example certainly does. 🤣
NeilBru@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 270d
If one vents and needs commiseration over problems with glaringly obvious solutions, especially if the problems are self-caused/imposed, they are immature assholes who don't want to or have the capacity for self-reflection, nor respect for others' time.
This only my opinion about this video; it's not gospel.
TheRealKuni@piefed.social · 2 pts · 270d
I did say the extreme example in the video was immature.
Calling someone immature may be accurate, but it isn’t going to help anyone. Again, the better approach is to commiserate, then ask if they want help, then provide that help.
Every one of us will have blind spots when it comes to self-reflection. It’s why therapy is so useful. But people seek out therapy, they generally don’t want it from their friends and family without prompting.
NeilBru@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 270d
Let me be clearer and more concise then.
Yes, people shouldn't give unsolicited advice by default, but if one wants a precise style of listening without reaction, the onus is on one to say that up front, or pay a therapist, and, finally, venting will elicit comments and/or criticism regardless of the taboo of advice, depending on the nature of one's culpability.
malware@lemmy.zip · 6 pts · 270d
Can I have that solution, please? That'd be great
FuyuhikoDate@feddit.org · 4 pts · 270d
Plot twist: staying mad is the solution
iAmTheTot@sh.itjust.works · 4 pts · 270d
One of my single favourite comics.
ZoopZeZoop@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 270d
Is it choosing to remain single, or is it open to dating. I might know just the three-frame to set it up with.
iAmTheTot@sh.itjust.works · 1 pts · 270d
That joke would make more sense if I said "favourite single comics". Adjective order in English informs a lot.
ameancow@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 270d
pfc_hudson@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 269d
Sigh...yup.
SlurpingPus@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 270d
My brain when I'm trying to sleep.
MadMadBunny@lemmy.ca · 1 pts · 270d
Me too bro, me too…