I like it. It's fun, sometimes you make a real connection and it feels really good. Sometimes not and it's meh. But still it beats sitting at home alone.
I do really like to take my time though. Which can be an issue because surprisingly many people really want quickies.
For me it's not right if I don't spend at least an hour on foreplay, teasing etc. Chatting. Give an erotic massage, go down etc. I even like that better than intercourse. The whole bang bang bye in 10 minutes doesn't really do it for me. But even in the very promiscuous culture it doesn't have to be like that. Especially in the hetero scene.
When you find someone nice the mood can easily go that way and then it's amazing. Also, it's nice to share intimacy with different people, different energies. Sometimes it doesn't happen but still it's worth the try.
There's nothing wrong with them as long as they are consensual. You spend a few hours with someone who you like. You both treat sex as a pleasant activity. Not a big emotional drama. You fuck. It's fun. And then it's over.
You have a few drinks with someone that you are meeting for the first time. You could go to a movie. But why not just fuck. Costs less and much more fun
I feel like we shouldn't be so dramatic about sex (while it's between consenting adults).
I should be seen as a simple physical activity, healthy and pleasant, that demands skills and practice, with preventable risks.
Like lots of non competitive physical activities, actually.
Due diligence. Find the best places to cruise, the best techniques. Learn where the shitty people are, etc.
It can be so much fun when everything is consensual and all of like mind. Get tested on the regular, and expect the same.
i feel it's 70/30 between fun/fine/neutral and awful. Though there is very little in between neutral and awful and that never has to do with the quality of the sex.
That said if it was good both sex and connection it wouldn't end up a one-night stand so 🤷
As far as I know, it's part of gay culture. It involves frequenting places well known to the community (parks, bars, saunas, etc.) where other men look for partners for quick sex.
It's fun, but condoms suck and the best sex is after you figure out what the other person likes, which can be hard to do after a few drinks and not much time.
I wouldn't turn it down, but I prefer medium to long term friends with benefits.
Norwegians are weird socially. You normally sleep together a couple of times before deciding if you'd want to date each other, and if not, but the connection is good, a friendship can form from it.
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AnchoriteMagus@lemmy.world · 30 pts · 219d
Not my kind of thing, but people should be able to have whatever fun they want with their bodies as long as they're not hurting anyone.
DavidDoesLemmy@lemmynsfw.com · 12 pts · 219d
Go wild, just be safe.
Nickelalloy@lemmy.world · 10 pts · 219d
When I was dating I avoided it, so not my thing really but I do not mind other people doing it as long as they show respect.
ExhibiCat@lemmynsfw.com · 10 pts · 219d
I like it. It's fun, sometimes you make a real connection and it feels really good. Sometimes not and it's meh. But still it beats sitting at home alone.
I do really like to take my time though. Which can be an issue because surprisingly many people really want quickies.
For me it's not right if I don't spend at least an hour on foreplay, teasing etc. Chatting. Give an erotic massage, go down etc. I even like that better than intercourse. The whole bang bang bye in 10 minutes doesn't really do it for me. But even in the very promiscuous culture it doesn't have to be like that. Especially in the hetero scene.
When you find someone nice the mood can easily go that way and then it's amazing. Also, it's nice to share intimacy with different people, different energies. Sometimes it doesn't happen but still it's worth the try.
Mickey7@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 219d
There's nothing wrong with them as long as they are consensual. You spend a few hours with someone who you like. You both treat sex as a pleasant activity. Not a big emotional drama. You fuck. It's fun. And then it's over.
You have a few drinks with someone that you are meeting for the first time. You could go to a movie. But why not just fuck. Costs less and much more fun
Klnsfw@lemmynsfw.com · 6 pts · 218d
I feel like we shouldn't be so dramatic about sex (while it's between consenting adults). I should be seen as a simple physical activity, healthy and pleasant, that demands skills and practice, with preventable risks. Like lots of non competitive physical activities, actually.
Shave_MyBeever@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 218d
Due diligence. Find the best places to cruise, the best techniques. Learn where the shitty people are, etc. It can be so much fun when everything is consensual and all of like mind. Get tested on the regular, and expect the same.
RepressedLemmier@lemmynsfw.com · 4 pts · 219d
I have my hands for simple pleasures. It's more fun to actually get to know who you are fucking.
Antwares@lemmynsfw.com · 4 pts · 218d
i feel it's 70/30 between fun/fine/neutral and awful. Though there is very little in between neutral and awful and that never has to do with the quality of the sex.
That said if it was good both sex and connection it wouldn't end up a one-night stand so 🤷
figjam@midwest.social · 4 pts · 218d
Grown ass consenting adults can do whatever they want in their private spaces.
klymilark@herbicide.fallcounty.omg.lol · 3 pts · 218d
More effort than they're worth for me, and what other people do with their spare time isn't my concern
cherry001@lemmynsfw.com · 3 pts · 218d
I need explanation on "Cruising Culture"
Klnsfw@lemmynsfw.com · 3 pts · 217d
As far as I know, it's part of gay culture. It involves frequenting places well known to the community (parks, bars, saunas, etc.) where other men look for partners for quick sex.
playfulkittykat@pawb.social · 2 pts · 217d
Cruising culture is mostly a gay man thing (as far as I'm aware). Trying to find sex in public places.
I'm not really qualified to explain beyond that.
deezcashews@lemmynsfw.com · 2 pts · 217d
It's fun, but condoms suck and the best sex is after you figure out what the other person likes, which can be hard to do after a few drinks and not much time.
I wouldn't turn it down, but I prefer medium to long term friends with benefits.
Griffus@lemmy.zip · 2 pts · 217d
Only way to get to know new people in Norway.
RepressedLemmier@lemmynsfw.com · 1 pts · 217d
One-night stand means one-time
Griffus@lemmy.zip · 0 pts · 217d
And the normal is to get new friends through sex, but not having sex with friends, making the sex a one time thing.
RepressedLemmier@lemmynsfw.com · 1 pts · 216d
And you are just...friends after, and never do anything?
Griffus@lemmy.zip · 2 pts · 215d
Normally yes, several of my closest friends today started out that way.
RepressedLemmier@lemmynsfw.com · 1 pts · 215d
Holy fucking shit...
...what? Fucking each other was the only thing you had incommon?
And that friendship held together after?
Well, glad it did. But that is quite unusual.
Griffus@lemmy.zip · 2 pts · 215d
Norwegians are weird socially. You normally sleep together a couple of times before deciding if you'd want to date each other, and if not, but the connection is good, a friendship can form from it.
RubberElectrons@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 218d
Nah. I want to stay healthy and keep our relationship for just us. Have fun though 😎
pm_uneven_labia@lemmynsfw.com · 1 pts · 218d
personally I wouldn't put my dick in a woman's vag unless she offered a long term relationship. I'd happily do other things though!
playfulkittykat@pawb.social · 1 pts · 218d
Why is that the line?
pm_uneven_labia@lemmynsfw.com · 2 pts · 218d
mostly safety reasons. Plus I don't have an impressive penis so it would theoretically filter out superficial bitches