Do you feel that way because you're being abused? Or do you feel that way because you might be an undiagnosed psychopath (and I do mean that in the clinical sense)? Because that's two very different things.
I'm not qualified to tell you what to do if it's the former; I don't know how unsafe you are but I would encourage you to get out of the situation. I hope others can be mor helpful.
If it's the latter, then you need to start seeing a therapist. If you want to be able to continue to be a part of civil society, you'll need to do a lot of work to curtail those impulses. Again, like the other scenario I hope others more qualified than I can be more helpful
Because that should be a result or conclusion or at least a freaking product of the investigation and the facts, its being forced into the narrative otherwise regardless of whether it is actually a relevant factor
Why do you think its okay to jump to a conclusion even if its a lie and fuckup or compromise an entire investigation or introduce unnecessary gender politics just so you get to say the F-word (femicide)
Being so angry you feel like you can kill someone I think is common but I don't think folks will ever admit they ever felt that way. Especially when younger and full of hormones. Then you have that the closer you are to someone the angrier they can make you. Pushing buttons and all. You cope by realizing murder is wrong. That your brain is wierd and you don't act on high emotion. You get yourself away from the emotional situation and calm yourself however you best find to do that. You try to discuss when you and the other person are less emotional and see if you can come to a common understanding. Granted if you a kid its not an equal footing but if don't think you can get to where you are treated fairly then just put your energy into gaining independence as soon as you can.
I am familiar with a child abuse victim who feels this way. Not like actively seeking it out, but they wouldn't regret it much if it came to that point.
But I'm not personally qualified to comment on it. If it's becoming more than a passing thought and starting to bother you in everyday life or causing actively homicidal thoughts, it's a good time to seek professional help before it gets you into trouble.
love isn't the opposite of hate, apathy is.
If you truly despise her, cut off contact, she is your mother and this will cause her profound pain. I'm assuming you're pretty young to be feeling this way, whatever the problem is, you will understand it and its roots better as you get older. One day you might think about her differently as you understand her more. There's always a reason why broken people do broken things.
Good luck and don't do anything dumb
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SmokeInFog@midwest.social · 17 pts · 230d
Do you feel that way because you're being abused? Or do you feel that way because you might be an undiagnosed psychopath (and I do mean that in the clinical sense)? Because that's two very different things.
I'm not qualified to tell you what to do if it's the former; I don't know how unsafe you are but I would encourage you to get out of the situation. I hope others can be mor helpful.
If it's the latter, then you need to start seeing a therapist. If you want to be able to continue to be a part of civil society, you'll need to do a lot of work to curtail those impulses. Again, like the other scenario I hope others more qualified than I can be more helpful
buttholechris@lemmy.ml · 1 pts · 230d
I mentioned to this past therapists and they didn't do shit. Good ol' Hawaii.
manuallybreathing@lemmy.ml · 9 pts · 230d
Please speak to a counsellor, and move out of your mothers house. Mass murder almost always starts with hurting the womem in your home
if the only thing stopping you from hurting people is legality and morality you need help
Walk_blesseD@piefed.blahaj.zone · 5 pts · 230d
Femicide, amirite fellas?
sopularity_fax@sopuli.xyz · -2 pts · 230d
Homicide
Walk_blesseD@piefed.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 230d
You don't think specifying "mother" where the neutral "parent" exists is of any relevance? 🤨
sopularity_fax@sopuli.xyz · -2 pts · 229d
Femicide is just silly in this context, a son kills the parent, homicide.
Its most likely not a hate thingie, children kill parents all the time in America. Everyone kills everyone
This rush to always be creating a gender or racial tone is irritating
I think if they said parent people would be annoyed they didnt specify and wonder if theres some sort of coverup or reason for not doing so
Walk_blesseD@piefed.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 229d
Why do you think it's irritating to acknowledge that domestic violence is heavily influenced by gendered dynamics?
sopularity_fax@sopuli.xyz · -2 pts · 229d
Because that should be a result or conclusion or at least a freaking product of the investigation and the facts, its being forced into the narrative otherwise regardless of whether it is actually a relevant factorWhy do you think its okay to jump to a conclusion even if its a lie and fuckup or compromise an entire investigation or introduce unnecessary gender politics just so you get to say the F-word (femicide)
HubertManne@piefed.social · 3 pts · 230d
Being so angry you feel like you can kill someone I think is common but I don't think folks will ever admit they ever felt that way. Especially when younger and full of hormones. Then you have that the closer you are to someone the angrier they can make you. Pushing buttons and all. You cope by realizing murder is wrong. That your brain is wierd and you don't act on high emotion. You get yourself away from the emotional situation and calm yourself however you best find to do that. You try to discuss when you and the other person are less emotional and see if you can come to a common understanding. Granted if you a kid its not an equal footing but if don't think you can get to where you are treated fairly then just put your energy into gaining independence as soon as you can.
Diddlydee@feddit.uk · 3 pts · 230d
No. My mum is unabashedly lovely.
monovergent@lemmy.ml · 2 pts · 230d
I am familiar with a child abuse victim who feels this way. Not like actively seeking it out, but they wouldn't regret it much if it came to that point.
But I'm not personally qualified to comment on it. If it's becoming more than a passing thought and starting to bother you in everyday life or causing actively homicidal thoughts, it's a good time to seek professional help before it gets you into trouble.
TheLeadenSea@sh.itjust.works · 1 pts · 230d
I do really dislike my mother (for valid reasons), but I don't want to kill anybody. That would make me feel sick
sopularity_fax@sopuli.xyz · 1 pts · 230d
I dont think its so bad to (in Stewie Griffin's words) "like very much for them not to be alive anymore". At worst its amoral
flamingleg@lemmy.ml · 1 pts · 229d
love isn't the opposite of hate, apathy is. If you truly despise her, cut off contact, she is your mother and this will cause her profound pain. I'm assuming you're pretty young to be feeling this way, whatever the problem is, you will understand it and its roots better as you get older. One day you might think about her differently as you understand her more. There's always a reason why broken people do broken things. Good luck and don't do anything dumb