"Live with a man 40 years. Share his house, his meals. Speak on every subject. Then tie him up and hold him over the volcano's edge. And on that day, you will finally meet the man."
That doesn't change the fact that the quote was originally attributed to Shan Yu by Shepherd Book, then by Niska, IIRC. If they exist in a fictional world, then attributing the fictional reference correctly only seems accurate. 🥴🖖🏽
This is something I've thought about a lot, is this really true? People say you don't know someone unless things get bad, but like... if someone improves my life 95% of the time, but then they don't get sleep or are having a rough time and they treat me really badly, is that 5% the "real them?" Idk just something about that doesn't sit quite right with me.
My wife's family was not as well off as mine, her older brother was killed by a drunk driver before I met her, and I held her hair back while she vomited when she got sick when we were supposed to be on a date.
I think I've got it all covered.
It took her longer to know me, but over the past 40 years, I think we've hit every one.
My S/O , an otherwise confident, intelligent, independent, strong willed and tough as nails bitch becomes an absolute monster incapable of caring for themselves when they get sick.
35 Comments
Dadifer@lemmy.world · 53 pts · 182d
"Live with a man 40 years. Share his house, his meals. Speak on every subject. Then tie him up and hold him over the volcano's edge. And on that day, you will finally meet the man."
huppakee@piefed.social · 12 pts · 181d
40 years?? I just learned you only need 1 date if you prepare well enough.
HotsauceHurricane@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 181d
In this scenario I would 100% be like," omg please just order some tacos. You haven't eaten today. Let's snack and watch 30-rock".
TheLeadenSea@sh.itjust.works · 3 pts · 182d
I don't understand, what is supposed to happen?
Dadifer@lemmy.world · 12 pts · 182d
It's a quote from Firefly
BjornBjorkeson@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 182d
It's a quote from Adelai Niska. Ftfy.
Dadifer@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 182d
Shepherd Book says it
5too@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 181d
They're both quoting a (fictional?) author
Sharkticon@lemmy.zip · 2 pts · 181d
Yes fictional.
otter@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 1 pts · 181d
Shao Yu*
Sharkticon@lemmy.zip · 2 pts · 181d
Shan Yu I believe. I remember because it's the same name as the villain in Mulan.
otter@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 1 pts · 181d
Wasn't that
Xiao/ShaoShan* Yu?Dadifer@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 181d
I don't think the attributed quote was real.
otter@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 2 pts · 181d
That doesn't change the fact that the quote was originally attributed to Shan Yu by Shepherd Book, then by Niska, IIRC. If they exist in a fictional world, then attributing the fictional reference correctly only seems accurate. 🥴🖖🏽
ickplant@lemmy.world · 41 pts · 182d
I also remember the meme that said you never truly know someone unless you’ve seen them deal with shitty wi-fi.
I think this is the way to test your potential future life partner.
village604@adultswim.fan · 23 pts · 182d
The way people handle minor inconveniences is definitely a good tell.
Another good metric is how they treat wait staff when there's an issue.
otter@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 3 pts · 181d
No tip == not even the tip.
TaterTot@piefed.social · 14 pts · 181d
Everyone loves to pick the most extreme circumstances to define a person's character.
I rather feel it's the opposite. You never truly know someone until you've seen how they deal with the mundanity of life for a few years.
Eat_Your_Paisley@lemmy.world · 13 pts · 182d
Do I get to choose which loved one?
ThePantser@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 182d
Only the most
starelfsc2@sh.itjust.works · 10 pts · 181d
This is something I've thought about a lot, is this really true? People say you don't know someone unless things get bad, but like... if someone improves my life 95% of the time, but then they don't get sleep or are having a rough time and they treat me really badly, is that 5% the "real them?" Idk just something about that doesn't sit quite right with me.
Drusas@fedia.io · 6 pts · 181d
No, but it's a real part of them. A part you might not have previously known.
NABDad@lemmy.world · 9 pts · 181d
My wife's family was not as well off as mine, her older brother was killed by a drunk driver before I met her, and I held her hair back while she vomited when she got sick when we were supposed to be on a date.
I think I've got it all covered.
It took her longer to know me, but over the past 40 years, I think we've hit every one.
otter@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 4 pts · 181d
You've held her over a volcano?! 🥹
Slovene85@sh.itjust.works · 6 pts · 181d
What bullshit advice. Some people might wait decades to get married then.
Lushed_Lungfish@lemmy.ca · 5 pts · 181d
This sounds like a pitch for one hell of a movie.
Drusas@fedia.io · 5 pts · 181d
Add until you've lived with them for a few years and until you've traveled with them.
sin_free_for_00_days@sopuli.xyz · 5 pts · 181d
The best advice I received, when I was still impressionable, was,"You'll never truly know someone. And that's OK."
panda_abyss@lemmy.ca · 5 pts · 182d
Hold hour horses there Walder Frey
remotedev@lemmy.ca · 4 pts · 181d
N - Nurturing dependence
Formfiller@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 181d
Trauma bond be like…
HotsauceHurricane@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 181d
My S/O , an otherwise confident, intelligent, independent, strong willed and tough as nails bitch becomes an absolute monster incapable of caring for themselves when they get sick.
I love them so much.
diabetic_porcupine@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 180d
Woah woah sloooow down Mr fancy pants. I don’t crush the cyanide tablet until the THIRD date, okayyy?!?!
Proprietary_Blend@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 181d
Keeper!