Black Trans Activist and Drag Performer Shyyell Diamond Sanchez-McCray Killed in Virginia
https://www.them.us/story/black-trans-activist-and-drag-performer-shyyell-diamond-sanchez-mccray-killed-in-virginia
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Ageroth@reddthat.com · 83 pts · 159d
Damn, almost seems targeted
Cocodapuf@lemmy.world · 40 pts · 158d
As a person of color, I make it a point to avoid the south altogether. But Virginia's not even that far south, it's practically DC area (which I view as the border on the east coast).
I actually have a major life goal to that effect, "live my entire life without being stabbed or shot". This is partly because I don't want to be stabbed or shot, but also partly because I feel it's an indicative event, that if my life has led to a point where stabbing is a serious concern, I have already made some poor choices. In my efforts to achieve this goal, there are now a lot of places on my no-go list.
I could probably consolidate the list by saying "any place where my ethnicity or spoken language would cause people to instantly distrust me, or where violence is widespread or indiscriminate", but truth be told, that's most of the world.
I also try to avoid bars & pubs.
Bytemeister@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 158d
Mexico is alright. Never worried about getting stabbed there.
However, I did have to go through a federales checkpoint, and it was pretty sketchy having a few guys with submachine guns checking the car out for a few minutes.
fritobugger2017@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 158d
Since you are a POC, you might just want to avoid East Asia and SE Asia, if you are trying to avoid racism. But even with the racism, you are highly unlikely to get attacked/injured/killed because of the POC issue. Far less likely than probably anyplace in the USA. These places are incredibly safe for all regardless of skin color.
protogen420@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 158d
why mexico?
Cocodapuf@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 158d
Drug cartels seem to have more power than authorities. For a while they were blatantly killing political candidates they didn't like (and beheading them if I remember correctly...), that shit is scary.
TwilitSky@lemmy.world · -10 pts · 158d
Why Russia, though?
There are lots of nice places in Mexico. Prison in Norway is downright rehabilitative. You missed North Korea.
Quill7513@slrpnk.net · 11 pts · 158d
Russian Project is effectively equivalent to manifest destiny, and the government has existed in service to white supremacy for a while. they call it "russian chauvanism" in the places it influences, but the Russian federation acts as a colonial imperial state
RampantParanoia2365@lemmy.world · 11 pts · 158d
Is homosexuality not still literally outlawed in Russia?
TwilitSky@lemmy.world · -8 pts · 158d
It's a terrible and gross law but there's also a rich history I want to explore.
froufox@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 17 pts · 158d
I'm Russian, and even though i'm flattered that you'd like to explore the history of my country, nowadays i would advise doing that from outside. Until that imperialist dictator gnome is dead
Quill7513@slrpnk.net · 1 pts · 158d
see also: don't come visit my country right now. we're cleaning some shit up and aren't a safe place to visit.
someday when all the fascists are dead maybe i'll come visit you
Saryn@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 158d
So if know why, then why ask why in the first place?
RampantParanoia2365@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 158d
Ok, well if you're not a straight person, not being imprisoned in a Russian jail seems like a good reason to avoid it.
TwilitSky@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 158d
Well, I'm not a straight person. I guess I would just stick to museums and daytime activities anyway.
Cocodapuf@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 158d
Well, I think Russia is another one of those places where my ethnicity or language could make me a target. Truthfully, I think I'd be more worried about the govt/police than the average citizens.
There are totally safe parts of Mexico. I'll stay out all the same.
Heh, I did skip right past NK, I guess I didn't figure it needed to be said.
There's a Spike Lee film called "The 25th Hour", great movie. It takes place in NYC and has this one line delivered by someone playing a Russian Mob boss, a real intimidating character:
But I'm sure Norway is nice 😉
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world · -28 pts · 158d
Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 23 pts · 158d
That youre a metaphorical offensive driver while this person is defensive?
what does opening a comment on here with "fuck you" say about you?
one way is not inheritently better than the other
Saryn@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 158d
The good thing about it is you don't need to read past the first few words. Which saves us all a lot of time and effort in the long-run. A weird sort of way, it's honest (albeit impulsive) discourse. Most people nowadays seem to hide what they really mean behind double-speak.
The bad thing is reading the rest of their comments makes me actually worried. We've all been in a bad place in our heads and some of us know just how f***ed up it can get.
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world · -10 pts · 158d
what were my poor choices?
Cocodapuf@lemmy.world · 11 pts · 158d
You can make admirable choices that also put you in danger, that's entirely valid, but that is making a deliberate choice. Routinely making poor choices however will put you into dangerous situations whether you intended to or not. Again just to be clear, I think doing humanitarian work like working with the homeless is absolutely a fantastic way to give back to your community and is in no way a poor choice.
All that said, I'm not certain I believe you. My mother did a lot of work with the homeless too, as part of a meal program run by her church. As she did that, I used to spend evenings at the church several times a week. All that is to say, I know that community fairly well, I know the kind of people who helped out there. I know they were all kind, forgiving, understanding people. They understood that people can end up needing their service for all kinds of reasons. You on the other hand, came out swinging, ready for an argument. You called me a coward without really having any idea what kind of person I am. It didn't strike me as "kind" or "understanding".
To sum up: "dude, chill"
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world · -14 pts · 158d
Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 13 pts · 158d
Do you enjoy negative attention?
Scotty_Trees@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 158d
dude fuck you.
RampantParanoia2365@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 158d
Why the fuck are you getting angry at others for your own hallucinations? What the holy fuck are you even talking about?
RampantParanoia2365@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 158d
How about getting defensive over what someone is doing in their own life?
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world · -4 pts · 158d
RampantParanoia2365@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 158d
Well...yeah, maybe. Lots of people get stabbed for being a total prick like you, so definitely a possibility. No problem.
Hossenfeffer@feddit.uk · 18 pts · 158d
Surely all it says is that regardless of our hopes, plans, and intentions sometimes shit hits our fan and we have no control over it?
Cocodapuf@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 158d
Uh, I think it says nobody can predict the future. My system is not guaranteed to work, it's aspirational. But it has worked for me up to this point, so I'm calling it a success so far.
I'm glad you do work for the homeless, that's great.
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world · -6 pts · 158d
what were my poor choices? I don't hold every single PoC responsible, but i was stabbed by a PoC so if you say "homeless people" i'ma come at you hard, considering i have never been a victim of crime from a single homeless person.
NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 158d
Nobody said anything about homeless people…
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world · -7 pts · 158d
read a little closer. i did. twice. no three times. wait. it's practically all i talk about. why? because people are terrified of homeless people because they're scared they'll catch the poor from them. they think they are dangerous because of, well, bigotry.
i thought i'd give an example of something most people view as a terrible life choice (i haven't made a cent from it) that has been some of my life's most rewarding work.
NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 158d
You’re not clever. You can’t pull off playing at being that obtuse, it just makes you look stupid.
Nobody else mentioned them, they were not part of the conversation, you injected the subject and then chose to be offensively pissed off about it.
TwilitSky@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 158d
I think you could approach this a little less angrily given this person never actually directed any vitriol toward you.
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world · -8 pts · 158d
what's that
Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 10 pts · 158d
They dont know you. They were sharing their own expierence.
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world · -6 pts · 158d
so what in your opinion was the poor choice i made that led to me getting stabbed?
TwilitSky@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 158d
Did anyone in fact say to you directly that you made a poor choice or earned your stabbing?
RampantParanoia2365@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 158d
NO ONE SAID ANYTHING ABOUT YOUR LIFE CHOICES. YOU JUST INJECTED YOURSELF INTO THEIR STATEMENT, AND GOT ANGRY ABOUT IT.
Saryn@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 158d
We don't know and we won't find out.
magic_smoke@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 158d
Poor choices can lead to getting you stabbed but that isn't the only way.
Krzd@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 158d
You know what, judging by your behaviour in this thread I kinda get why you got stabbed..
hardcoreufo@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 158d
Working with homeless is probably an acceptable stabbing risk.
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world · -3 pts · 158d
yup. once they know you and know you help, the risk goes to zero
KuroiKaze@lemmy.world · -6 pts · 158d
I can't believe that you're down voted and they are upvoted.
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world · -4 pts · 158d
way she goes
ReHomed@lemmy.cafe · 24 pts · 158d
It is, I'm betting actual fucking money and organs that it is
The right has been dreaming of this shit for fucking YEARS. They DREAM of murdering minorities, and with Trump in the seat, they WILL NOT GET PUNISHED
QueenMidna@lemmy.ca · 38 pts · 159d
Fuck.
samus12345@sh.itjust.works · 26 pts · 158d
Tragic, but TIL that women can also be drag queens. RIP.
Gladaed@feddit.org · 5 pts · 158d
One of 10000, what a privilege. https://xkcd.com/1053/
TwilitSky@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 158d
I don't know that this is a "but" situation It's still tragic even when you've learned something.
samus12345@sh.itjust.works · 22 pts · 158d
It's a "but" situation because I learned something, which is good, but it was from finding out about a tragic event, which is bad.
TwilitSky@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 158d
I kind of feel like we're in the Simpsons Frogurt Sketch.
samus12345@sh.itjust.works · 9 pts · 158d
Yes, that played in my head as I wrote the comment!
sik0fewl@lemmy.ca · 6 pts · 158d
Can I go now?
samus12345@sh.itjust.works · 3 pts · 158d
melsaskca@lemmy.ca · 3 pts · 158d
R.I.P.