Love this. Was thinking about jokingly saying I don’t want to fuck a Monet, but decided against it. I’m glad someone else went with it and did a better job.
Ew. Monet? That slutty art just puts it all out there for anyone to get it. I prefer that punishing dom, Magritte. Yeah baby, tease me with your gestalt. Show me that pipe and then deny my inferences. "Oh yeah, nice fucking flower, Monet. What, am I supposed to just imagine there's a face hidden behind those lilies, all by myself?"
Being able to compliment another man on his looks and not think of it as somehow a bad thing is a sign of being confident in your own sexuality to not be scared that you might "turn" yourself.
Real men can give and take any compliment and not think it makes them less of who they are.
I'm straight, married etc., and I can barely say a guy is hot or has a great body without sexualising it. Hell, my wife and I sometimes both turn around when we walk past someone hot on the street (does not matter the sex), and can both agree that damn, that person was sexy as fuck! Again, not sexualising. It's not that hard...
As a straight guy I can totally tell when another guy is hot and would have no problem telling him he’s attractive. But if I’m turned on by it I’m thinking that would negate me being straight. Pretty sure that at least crosses into the bi category.
In my book, a guy being turned on by women and not guys is the definition of straight.
I recognize a certain type of Hollywood hot, like Chris Hemsworth is full of muscles and to me seems likely to be seen as attractive. Same with Henry Cavill, etc. But I know that stereotype from being exposed to it, nothing innate like when I see a beautiful woman and immediately feel how attractive she is.
And besides that one stereotype, I can't tell a hot guy from average. For example, when Ryan Reynolds was named People magazine's Sexiest Man Alive in 2010 it caught me completely by surprise, I had no idea. Similarly when people talk about George Clooney as a paragon of male attraction, I wouldn't have guessed that before hearing about it. (I don't at all doubt that it's true, I simply don't experience it myself.)
It's subjective and context based, on a person to person basis and in the aggregate societal norms.
It's the same as if you were talking about whatever broader group you were personally into. Just with the erotic attraction part removed.
If you, personally, have no criteria for judging you can try and work with what you understand the conversation partners tastes to be.
If you are talking to someone you think appreciates Hollywood hot then you can way "they are hot" with the understanding that you are commenting from a shared context of hot.
If you were to say "I think they are hot" that's a different context and implies you, personally, think they are hot.
To be clear, neither of those explicitly states an erotic attraction, though it can be taken that way, depending on the context.
Yes, this is one of those odd double standards I don't understand. I can comment on a hot woman, call her sexy and nobody bats an eye. I am not turned on by women who look hot but it's like I know what I would like if I was? My husband will say things like "ideal build" for both men & women but would only comment on the sexiness of a lady not a guy.
I have a theory that almost all sexual life is pan and monosexuality is more a matter of culture than anything else. I am pan so my self-centered anecdotal theories are very questionable at best. Still, I see things like this regularly and gladly self-validate.
Possible to recognize without being sexually attracted to them? Absolutely.
Using incredibly descriptive language to describe said aesthetic qualities? I mean....
It's perfectly normal to say "The guy with the ass", but to say "The guy with the incredibly hot ass that I would do anything to wrap my hands around and want my tongue deep inside it" might be a little questionable.
41 Comments
TheTechnician27@lemmy.world · 207 pts · 142d
Dad wants you to know game recognize game.
Straight men should feel comfortable decoupling a) recognizing when another man's hot as fuck from b) being turned on by it.
Dojan@pawb.social · 96 pts · 142d
The amount of times I’ve been met with “but you’re gay” when I’ve been “wow, she’s gorgeous!” or something similar is astonishing.
Like I can recognise when someone or something is aesthetically pleasing, but that doesn’t necessarily mean I want to shag it.
fartographer@lemmy.world · 11 pts · 142d
How are museums legal? Like, why am I the only one who gets in trouble when I fuck the art?
Isn't doing a sex on something the only way to express your appreciation for something?
*picks up an /s* "What's this doing here?"
Dojan@pawb.social · 5 pts · 142d
Love this. Was thinking about jokingly saying I don’t want to fuck a Monet, but decided against it. I’m glad someone else went with it and did a better job.
fartographer@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 142d
Ew. Monet? That slutty art just puts it all out there for anyone to get it. I prefer that punishing dom, Magritte. Yeah baby, tease me with your gestalt. Show me that pipe and then deny my inferences. "Oh yeah, nice fucking flower, Monet. What, am I supposed to just imagine there's a face hidden behind those lilies, all by myself?"
angrystego@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 141d
Ceci n'est pas Magritte.
fartographer@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 141d
Je suis la jeune fille
swab148@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 2 pts · 142d
Van Gogh stans in shambles
prettybunnys@piefed.social · 7 pts · 142d
Did I just become bi?
village604@adultswim.fan · 4 pts · 142d
If you want to shag both men and women, yes.
Darkard@lemmy.world · 51 pts · 142d
Being able to compliment another man on his looks and not think of it as somehow a bad thing is a sign of being confident in your own sexuality to not be scared that you might "turn" yourself.
Real men can give and take any compliment and not think it makes them less of who they are.
This includes "Nice cock bro"
prettybunnys@piefed.social · 18 pts · 142d
Cock has a real nice mouthfeel bruh
TheTechnician27@lemmy.world · 11 pts · 142d
I used to have a gay friend who said his favorite part about giving head was feeling it grow inside his mouth.
And, like, yeah, I could see it.
trublu@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 4 pts · 142d
Oh yeah, it's all about the feedback loop.
ViaGetty@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 2 pts · 141d
Same experience with trans girls' glocks 🤤
P1nkman@lemmy.world · 18 pts · 142d
I'm straight, married etc., and I can barely say a guy is hot or has a great body without sexualising it. Hell, my wife and I sometimes both turn around when we walk past someone hot on the street (does not matter the sex), and can both agree that damn, that person was sexy as fuck! Again, not sexualising. It's not that hard...
hayvan@piefed.world · 27 pts · 142d
Sounds like something is hard
P1nkman@lemmy.world · 12 pts · 142d
Touche!
billwashere@lemmy.world · 16 pts · 142d
As a straight guy I can totally tell when another guy is hot and would have no problem telling him he’s attractive. But if I’m turned on by it I’m thinking that would negate me being straight. Pretty sure that at least crosses into the bi category.
In my book, a guy being turned on by women and not guys is the definition of straight.
pyre@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 141d
that's what the comment you're responding to is saying.
billwashere@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 141d
Not the b) part. That is what I’m contradicting specifically.
pyre@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 141d
i don't think you properly read the entire thing.
billwashere@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 141d
Oh you’re absolutely right. I missed the “from”. My bad.
pyre@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 141d
to be fair it's a misleading way to say it.
davidgro@lemmy.world · 11 pts · 142d
Serious question: How can you tell?
I recognize a certain type of Hollywood hot, like Chris Hemsworth is full of muscles and to me seems likely to be seen as attractive. Same with Henry Cavill, etc. But I know that stereotype from being exposed to it, nothing innate like when I see a beautiful woman and immediately feel how attractive she is.
And besides that one stereotype, I can't tell a hot guy from average. For example, when Ryan Reynolds was named People magazine's Sexiest Man Alive in 2010 it caught me completely by surprise, I had no idea. Similarly when people talk about George Clooney as a paragon of male attraction, I wouldn't have guessed that before hearing about it. (I don't at all doubt that it's true, I simply don't experience it myself.)
trublu@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 5 pts · 142d
I'm pretty queer, and even I don't get the George Clooney thing.
Senal@programming.dev · 3 pts · 142d
It's subjective and context based, on a person to person basis and in the aggregate societal norms.
It's the same as if you were talking about whatever broader group you were personally into. Just with the erotic attraction part removed.
If you, personally, have no criteria for judging you can try and work with what you understand the conversation partners tastes to be.
If you are talking to someone you think appreciates Hollywood hot then you can way "they are hot" with the understanding that you are commenting from a shared context of hot.If you were to say "I think they are hot" that's a different context and implies you, personally, think they are hot.To be clear, neither of those explicitly states an erotic attraction, though it can be taken that way, depending on the context.Communication is hard.
Damaskox@lemmy.world · 10 pts · 142d
I'm a straight man. I do recognize from time to time that some men look good.
Speculater@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 142d
Well yeah, you look in that mirror everyday.
Damaskox@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 139d
Haha.
I think I look decent. But I meant other men 😁
RBWells@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 141d
Yes, this is one of those odd double standards I don't understand. I can comment on a hot woman, call her sexy and nobody bats an eye. I am not turned on by women who look hot but it's like I know what I would like if I was? My husband will say things like "ideal build" for both men & women but would only comment on the sexiness of a lady not a guy.
BlameTheAntifa@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 141d
I have a theory that almost all sexual life is pan and monosexuality is more a matter of culture than anything else. I am pan so my self-centered anecdotal theories are very questionable at best. Still, I see things like this regularly and gladly self-validate.
lepinkainen@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 141d
Hot is hot. Gender, race, etc. isn’t a factor.
troglodytis@lemmy.world · 53 pts · 142d
Yes, Dad wants to tell you that the weatherman married his bf, which was news to Dad
Rooster326@programming.dev · 14 pts · 142d
And he was G A Y
renzhexiangjiao@piefed.blahaj.zone · 28 pts · 142d
picture of the weatherman please? for research purposes only, of course
FreddiesLantern@leminal.space · 15 pts · 142d
Just making smalltalk about the weather…
VibeSurgeon@piefed.social · 7 pts · 141d
It's fully possible to recognize someones aesthetic qualities without being sexually attracted to them
PhoenixDog@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 141d
Possible to recognize without being sexually attracted to them? Absolutely.
Using incredibly descriptive language to describe said aesthetic qualities? I mean....
It's perfectly normal to say "The guy with the ass", but to say "The guy with the incredibly hot ass that I would do anything to wrap my hands around and want my tongue deep inside it" might be a little questionable.
humanamerican@lemmy.zip · 6 pts · 142d
The CBS Baltimore weatherman?
art@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 142d
Let dad's be horney for the weatherman, dammit!