As someone that worked in hospitality for years, I can tell you we don't care unless you're actively trying to make a mess like sticking gum to the table or throwing food on the carpet. In fact I'd rather just clean the table without speaking to you but I've got the tism too.
This. I didn’t work in hospitality for very long, and I wasn’t the most gracious or understanding undiagnosed autistic person out there, and even I didn’t really give a shit.
Side note: As a bus boy at a very fancy restaurant, I had a little “crumber” for scraping up crumbs, and I didn’t, like, want to marry the crumbs, but, the way the crumber glided across the white cotton tablecloth, which had that soft but firm feel that you can only achieve after a thousand washings…
Let’s just say, you can put up with a lot of shit when you know you got that glide in your future.
All one can do is create as little mess as possible while still enjoying your meal. Your honest efforts are what most truly shape the nature of your respect for the people around you.
And tablecloths are there for a reason. Do not fret.
Yes, but also because I just want the interaction to end as soon as possible. No way I'll be prolonging the agony by asking unnecessary questions that are awkward for both me and the waiter!
I find myself tidyting during or after we finish eating, whether at a MacDonalds or any other restaurant. Cannot help myself as it feels so rude not to. I'll even put plates together so easier to take away.
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Obituarykidney@lemmy.world · 18 pts · 127d
As someone that worked in hospitality for years, I can tell you we don't care unless you're actively trying to make a mess like sticking gum to the table or throwing food on the carpet. In fact I'd rather just clean the table without speaking to you but I've got the tism too.
jeremyparker@programming.dev · 1 pts · 121d
This. I didn’t work in hospitality for very long, and I wasn’t the most gracious or understanding undiagnosed autistic person out there, and even I didn’t really give a shit.
Side note: As a bus boy at a very fancy restaurant, I had a little “crumber” for scraping up crumbs, and I didn’t, like, want to marry the crumbs, but, the way the crumber glided across the white cotton tablecloth, which had that soft but firm feel that you can only achieve after a thousand washings…
Let’s just say, you can put up with a lot of shit when you know you got that glide in your future.
teslekova@sh.itjust.works · 12 pts · 127d
All one can do is create as little mess as possible while still enjoying your meal. Your honest efforts are what most truly shape the nature of your respect for the people around you.
And tablecloths are there for a reason. Do not fret.
Shayeta@feddit.org · 2 pts · 127d
Unless you're italian. My GOD, why is everything slathered in olive oil and breadcrumbs!?
teslekova@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 127d
Well great, now I want foccacia and I didn't buy bread at the shops this afternoon. Tragedy!
MrSulu@lemmy.ml · 1 pts · 127d
teslekova@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 127d
Damn right. Because you are a civilised human being.
CorrenteAlternata@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 9 pts · 127d
I do worry about this, but i don't say anything...
howrar@lemmy.ca · 3 pts · 127d
Mostly because you're almost guaranteed to not get a straightforward answer.
CorrenteAlternata@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 127d
Yes, but also because I just want the interaction to end as soon as possible. No way I'll be prolonging the agony by asking unnecessary questions that are awkward for both me and the waiter!
Lexam@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 127d
My wife and I were both servers in our youth. We always trying to stack and tidy everything up.
MrSulu@lemmy.ml · 3 pts · 127d
I find myself tidyting during or after we finish eating, whether at a MacDonalds or any other restaurant. Cannot help myself as it feels so rude not to. I'll even put plates together so easier to take away.
Unpigged@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 3 pts · 127d
Please rate your cleaning experience on a scale from 1 to 10
Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 2 pts · 127d
Keep it as clean as you would at home while serving guests...
Would you feel embarrassed at home, feel like it outside.
It aint that deep nor difficult to be a devent human being.
Lexam@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 127d
It's spelled "deviant".
Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 2 pts · 127d
May be. Doesnt excuse to just behave like a decent human being.
TerdFerguson@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 127d