My birth name has always been gender neutral. I have a weird relationship with gender and don't like norms to begin with. My parents did a very good job of naming me. Sounds like your parents did a good job of naming you too
Does that name have a feminine/gender neutral association in your language/culture? Feels like a Greek masculine name to me. As in: Alexis Tsipras, the (male) Greek prime minister.
Alexis/Alexander is a common trans name choice here (bay area, California, Statesia), since (my presumption) you can go by Alex and slip into stealth mode as necessary. I'm sure that's just one of the considerations that goes into choosing a name, I have not really done it and not for those reasons. A whopping twenty(ish) percent of the trans folk I know chose Alex variations, one because their name was already Alex and one because they like the name Alex. We haven't gotten more into it than that.
I have one of those easily gender swappable names (like Sam), but I'm not sure I will/would want to do use it. Picking a whole new name seems part of the journey?
It doesn't have to be entirely new, the short form of my new name is only one vowel different from the short form of my old name. I like the idea that transition doesn't necessarily entail completely abandoning your former identity, some parts of it can be salvaged to build a new one, also this way my initials don't change so my old email still works lol
"wow that's a unique name where'd it come from?"
me: "oh haha idrk it doesn't really have any meaning"
reality: it was extracted from a keysmash on discord.
Like, us they/them people? Or polygender folk? It's not so much gender with me. I'm just weird.
My identity technically encompasses two names. Both are current and active. The one my parents gave me and then... Well, my gut is very very loud. It farts at people without my consent. Last night it got in an argument with my wife (all through farts) and I (or at least my brain) agreed with my wife. It named itself. Yes, via farts, but it was very clear what its name is (it likes the Muppets). As a clue to its name (and I will say yes to every guess, but I will be proud of you if you guess right just it won't really be productive)
Oh yeah I know a few people. Rather, I'm part of a community where that pops up with such alarming regularity one dude I know (who had it and unfortunately is not with us anymore) swore that he was part of a government program to make plural identities.
Edit: also thank you for taking the time to explain
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tanisnikana@lemmy.world · 34 pts · 162d
I never even changed my name. Tanis then, Tanis now. No one even questioned it.
TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 25 pts · 162d
Tanis forever
Amnesigenic@lemmy.ml · 11 pts · 162d
Tanis Eternal
Hazel@piefed.blahaj.zone · 10 pts · 162d
All hail Tanis!
burgermeister@sh.itjust.works · 13 pts · 162d
Great choice
Canadian_Cabinet@lemmy.ca · 6 pts · 162d
Are Indiana Jones and the Nazis looking for you?
anomnom@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 162d
Or the boys from Letterkenny?
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 162d
My birth name has always been gender neutral. I have a weird relationship with gender and don't like norms to begin with. My parents did a very good job of naming me. Sounds like your parents did a good job of naming you too
Jankatarch@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 162d
Ooh a similar thing here.
My birthname is a pretty rare gender-neutral one where I am from, but an extremely common girls' name in the country it originated from :3
essell@lemmy.world · 22 pts · 162d
Last trans girl I knew was called "Alexis" - the surname was even more posh Victorian! 😁
yetAnotherUser@discuss.tchncs.de · 6 pts · 162d
Does that name have a feminine/gender neutral association in your language/culture? Feels like a Greek masculine name to me. As in: Alexis Tsipras, the (male) Greek prime minister.
PanGodofPanic@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 8 pts · 162d
In most English speaking societies, it's an almost exclusively female form of the name.
essell@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 162d
General femme association and strong upper-class association!
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 162d
Alexis/Alexander is a common trans name choice here (bay area, California, Statesia), since (my presumption) you can go by Alex and slip into stealth mode as necessary. I'm sure that's just one of the considerations that goes into choosing a name, I have not really done it and not for those reasons. A whopping twenty(ish) percent of the trans folk I know chose Alex variations, one because their name was already Alex and one because they like the name Alex. We haven't gotten more into it than that.
applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 19 pts · 162d
Just call me Slutty McSlutFace, least successful slut in the west.
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 162d
I think I see your problem.
Bad shoes.
cadekat@pawb.social · 17 pts · 162d
I have one of those easily gender swappable names (like Sam), but I'm not sure I will/would want to do use it. Picking a whole new name seems part of the journey?
Amnesigenic@lemmy.ml · 16 pts · 162d
It doesn't have to be entirely new, the short form of my new name is only one vowel different from the short form of my old name. I like the idea that transition doesn't necessarily entail completely abandoning your former identity, some parts of it can be salvaged to build a new one, also this way my initials don't change so my old email still works lol
cadekat@pawb.social · 4 pts · 162d
Heh, that's a good point. I did just switch everything over to an email with my current name in it...
emeralddawn45@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 11 pts · 162d
Me: don't call me
homologous@piefed.blahaj.zone · 10 pts · 162d
"wow that's a unique name where'd it come from?" me: "oh haha idrk it doesn't really have any meaning" reality: it was extracted from a keysmash on discord.
atopi@piefed.blahaj.zone · 7 pts · 162d
all of the best names and most of the best genders i have seen are from plural trans people
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 162d
Like, us they/them people? Or polygender folk? It's not so much gender with me. I'm just weird.
My identity technically encompasses two names. Both are current and active. The one my parents gave me and then... Well, my gut is very very loud. It farts at people without my consent. Last night it got in an argument with my wife (all through farts) and I (or at least my brain) agreed with my wife. It named itself. Yes, via farts, but it was very clear what its name is (it likes the Muppets). As a clue to its name (and I will say yes to every guess, but I will be proud of you if you guess right just it won't really be productive)
atopi@piefed.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 162d
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Plural_identity
as far as i know, it isnt directly connected to gender
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 162d
Oh yeah I know a few people. Rather, I'm part of a community where that pops up with such alarming regularity one dude I know (who had it and unfortunately is not with us anymore) swore that he was part of a government program to make plural identities.
Edit: also thank you for taking the time to explain
dejected_warp_core@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 162d
In my head, " r̸̯͌͜͠o̷̫̹̓́c̷̺͈͊͊̀͝k̷̳̬̦̓ " is pronounced like a beastie-boys lyric.
germanatlas@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 161d
ROCK AND STONE
DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social · 1 pts · 160d
Okay, Duke, but just be aware that you won't be spared in the revolution
sillyLava_Cristobalite@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 1 pts · 159d
I'm taking the joke too far: I'm hot rock, melted rocks soup!