A cat I used to have had a chair we called his "fighting chair". It was in the living room and he loved to sleep on it and hated to be bothered when doing so. If you petted him while he was in the chair, you'd soon feel the claws, teeth and bunny kicks. If I dared to do it with bare skin, he'd take it easy on me. However, if I had a thick sweatshirt on, it was no-holds barred.
If a person deliberately removes themselves from a frustrating situation to cool off, people call them childish and petty.
If a person finds a way to signal "I'm frustrated and in no mood to talk right now" without speaking (or even by speaking!), people call them passive-aggressive and manipulative.
Those are both emotional regulation skills, and this cat found a way to do both with one action. Bravo.
People don't know shit about emotional regulation. In fact, they punish you for exercising the very skills you learn in therapy. And then they hit you with "YoU NeEd To Go To ThErApY!!!1!1!" (weaponizing the concept of therapy itself), while conveniently ignoring all the work that you've actually done in therapy, as if "therapy" itself is some magic bullet where you do and then you're better/cured and never have to deal with frustration or challenging emotions again.
Only someone who's never been in therapy could possibly believe that, but they're precisely the type to weaponize therapy as a means of ignoring their own responsibility to be a decent person. (i.e., when you're frustrated because they treat you like shit, and instead of examining their own behavior they just tell you to get therapy, and they accuse you of being manipulative if you have the audacity to demand a modicum of respect).
Agreed, narrowed eyes mean they trust you. Ears back would mean anger, those ears look relaxed. Yet all cats are different and if OP says they're angry presumably there's a reason why. Maybe the cat's tail is twitching? If so I think this expression is more like "exasperated about something annoying done by a loved one" and they're dealing with it by retreating to a space that feels comforting and that is close to the loved one. If a cat stares at you, it usually means something related to you. So I'd guess the cat is saying: "I love you even though you're being really annoying right now."
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N0t_5ure@lemmy.world · 41 pts · 105d
A cat I used to have had a chair we called his "fighting chair". It was in the living room and he loved to sleep on it and hated to be bothered when doing so. If you petted him while he was in the chair, you'd soon feel the claws, teeth and bunny kicks. If I dared to do it with bare skin, he'd take it easy on me. However, if I had a thick sweatshirt on, it was no-holds barred.
Eyekaytee@aussie.zone · 29 pts · 105d
better emotional regulation than a lot of people !
wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz · 11 pts · 105d
If a person deliberately removes themselves from a frustrating situation to cool off, people call them childish and petty.
If a person finds a way to signal "I'm frustrated and in no mood to talk right now" without speaking (or even by speaking!), people call them passive-aggressive and manipulative.
Those are both emotional regulation skills, and this cat found a way to do both with one action. Bravo.
People don't know shit about emotional regulation. In fact, they punish you for exercising the very skills you learn in therapy. And then they hit you with "YoU NeEd To Go To ThErApY!!!1!1!" (weaponizing the concept of therapy itself), while conveniently ignoring all the work that you've actually done in therapy, as if "therapy" itself is some magic bullet where you do and then you're better/cured and never have to deal with frustration or challenging emotions again.
Only someone who's never been in therapy could possibly believe that, but they're precisely the type to weaponize therapy as a means of ignoring their own responsibility to be a decent person. (i.e., when you're frustrated because they treat you like shit, and instead of examining their own behavior they just tell you to get therapy, and they accuse you of being manipulative if you have the audacity to demand a modicum of respect).
panda_abyss@lemmy.ca · 26 pts · 105d
What did you do to this poor baby!
sundray@lemmus.org · 25 pts · 105d
samus12345@sh.itjust.works · 26 pts · 105d
Janx@piefed.social · 18 pts · 105d
Aren't you supposed to put a sign on it that says "Fort Asshole"?
W98BSoD@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 20 pts · 105d
GreenKnight23@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 105d
NABDad@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 105d
That isn't an angry look for a cat. That's a chill look.
Eyes open wider for angry in order to gather targeting information.
Sergio@piefed.social · 2 pts · 104d
Agreed, narrowed eyes mean they trust you. Ears back would mean anger, those ears look relaxed. Yet all cats are different and if OP says they're angry presumably there's a reason why. Maybe the cat's tail is twitching? If so I think this expression is more like "exasperated about something annoying done by a loved one" and they're dealing with it by retreating to a space that feels comforting and that is close to the loved one. If a cat stares at you, it usually means something related to you. So I'd guess the cat is saying: "I love you even though you're being really annoying right now."
Texas_Hangover@lemmy.radio · 3 pts · 105d
SOON
example@reddthat.com · 3 pts · 105d
took me a few attempts to not read orange box
jaybone@lemmy.zip · 3 pts · 105d
She looks pretty grumpy.
Wonder how mad she’ll be if you get rid of the box lol.
homesweethomeMrL@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 105d
Ooohhh you messed up, obviously.