For those of you that do celebrate in your country, do you include all mothers and fathers or only “active duty”? Meaning, if you’re a parent, do you celebrate your parents still as in get a gift or plan some outing/get together?
For those of you that do celebrate in your country, do you include all mothers and fathers or only “active duty”? Meaning, if you’re a parent, do you celebrate your parents still as in get a gift or plan some outing/get together?
21 Comments
one_old_coder@piefed.social · 8 pts · 112d
That's confusing. You're supposed to "celebrate" your own parents, aka a phone call or something. It doesn't change anything whether you're a parent or not.
Or was I trolled by a bot?
buttmasterflex@piefed.social · 4 pts · 112d
I get the intent of the question. As in, should the focus be on parents with non-adult children rather than parents with adult children and/or grandchildren? Not that all parents aren't celebrated, but the parents actively doing it every day should receive more focus than those not actively parenting
venusaur@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 111d
Yeah this is the question
venusaur@lemmy.world · -1 pts · 111d
A phone call isn’t much of a celebration. It sounds like you’re saying “non-active” parents are not the focus of celebration.
one_old_coder@piefed.social · 2 pts · 111d
There is no such thing as non-active parents. My parents will always be my parents, even after their death. My parents are assholes, and do not live in the same country as I do, hence the phone call.
venusaur@lemmy.world · -1 pts · 111d
That’s sweet, but you know what I mean.
Drusas@fedia.io · 3 pts · 111d
As an american, my experience with this is that it varies from family to family and individual to individual. There isn't really any standard.
venusaur@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 111d
But what do you do?
Drusas@fedia.io · 2 pts · 109d
Ignore it as much as possible.
Grandma gets a "Happy Mother's Day! ♥️" because she's old now and it means a lot to her.
venusaur@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 108d
For sure. I’m gonna slowly transition to a more casual norm.
LadyButterfly@reddthat.com · 2 pts · 111d
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venusaur@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 111d
Oh that’s an interesting community
LadyButterfly@reddthat.com · 2 pts · 110d
They're great! I go there for all DIY needs and general support
Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 112d
Usually a phone call to say Happy Father's Day.
venusaur@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 111d
I wanna shift to that
twelverabbits@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 110d
I work at a children's museum. We do free admission for all mothers on Mother's Day. Same for fathers on Father's Day. We include all self-identified "mother figures" and "father figures". That means lots of grandparents, but also sometimes older siblings, aunts/uncles, quite a few LGBTQ+ parents who don't necessarily fit the common biological definition of mother/father. Let's celebrate the people who nurture us, which can include our biological family, our chosen family, or both.
venusaur@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 110d
But what do you do within your family?
twelverabbits@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 110d
We're not close in my family, so nothing. Which i find sad, but thats how it is. If I had a better relationship with my parents then would certainly do at least a call. My grandparents on my dad's side died while I was young. Never met my grandparents on my mom's side.
venusaur@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 110d
Seems to be the consensus on the post. “Non-active” parents get a call.
AmazingSUPERG@thelemmy.club · 1 pts · 112d
In my country it is usually a busy time at cemetaries as people go to pay respects to their dead parents.
venusaur@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 111d
Ah that’s nice. I never celebrated a dead person for mothers or fathers day