"How to win friends and influence people" is a great book.
I can also recommend How to Talk to Anyone: "92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships"
by Leil Lowndes
people like to recommend that book but its pretty bad advice for autists in my opinion. its way too vague and doesnt really lay out a central underlying thesis of human socialization, instead relying on the reader already having a basic grasp in the first place. we're all different but i find having an overarching theory to fall back on much more useful than a loose bag of recommended actions.
I agree that it's hard to put into practice for me but I disagree that it doesn't have a theory behind it - it's basically trying to meet other people's needs and interests in interactions. I think the thing that makes it difficult is not that it doesn't have clear advice but that I don't usually care about other people or interests enough and it feels disingenuous to pretend. It is kind of handy in work situations sometimes though
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Remy@lemmy.today · 7 pts · 21d
Reading books about how to behave in social settings was very effective in reducing my social anxiety
KombatWombat@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 21d
"How to Make Friends and Influence People" is a classic that has a lot of examples. I listened to the audiobook
Remy@lemmy.today · 3 pts · 18d
"How to win friends and influence people" is a great book. I can also recommend How to Talk to Anyone: "92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships" by Leil Lowndes
applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 21d
people like to recommend that book but its pretty bad advice for autists in my opinion. its way too vague and doesnt really lay out a central underlying thesis of human socialization, instead relying on the reader already having a basic grasp in the first place. we're all different but i find having an overarching theory to fall back on much more useful than a loose bag of recommended actions.
reversedposterior@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 20d
I agree that it's hard to put into practice for me but I disagree that it doesn't have a theory behind it - it's basically trying to meet other people's needs and interests in interactions. I think the thing that makes it difficult is not that it doesn't have clear advice but that I don't usually care about other people or interests enough and it feels disingenuous to pretend. It is kind of handy in work situations sometimes though
Remy@lemmy.today · 1 pts · 18d
There are more actionable books
Semi_Hemi_Demigod@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 21d
That one is great, as is “Emotional Intelligence”
Arcanepotato@crazypeople.online · 4 pts · 21d
"Wow, you have so much emotional intelligence" "Thanks it's a survival mechanism"
Shellofbiomatter@lemmus.org · 1 pts · 20d
I just ask around and try to compile an avarage behavior scrip.
demizerone@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 20d
Lol I literally just searched this on YouTube.