Yep. I feel this. Nothing like random effective weightlessness that causes me to double over and clench and grunt. And the privacy of my home, no less.
I have a few triggers I try to avoid like the plague. I do what I can to avoid them, but that gives me anxiety, too.
One category of trigger is related to depictions of sexual violence (or even non-consent) in media, which can be hard to avoid unless you only consume media you're familiar with.
Driving with all the road-ragers is another. I can't avoid it, so now I get anxiety days before I have an appointment, thinking about the 40 minute drive to the office.
But I can mostly avoid my demanding, demeaning family. I can mostly avoid police and their dogs.
I have avoidant autism so I go to great lengths. For example, after I got bullied at school I stopped going and ditched every day. I will inconvenience myself immensely to avoid triggers.
50/50 depending on if I’m in a “nope can’t deal with this” state or if I’m in a “alright I know just fucking doing this will help prevent it in the future so fuuuuug it” state
8 Comments
Kolanaki@pawb.social · 10 pts · 12d
I have an anxiety disorder so it's not necessarily something I can avoid; I'll just get anxiety out of nowhere for no good reason at random.
s38b35M5@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 11d
Yep. I feel this. Nothing like random effective weightlessness that causes me to double over and clench and grunt. And the privacy of my home, no less.
CrypticCoffee@lemmy.ml · 9 pts · 12d
You cannot.
As your comfort zone grows smaller, anxiety grows for the things outside it.
Part of CBT is approaching things that make you anxious, starting small and mild to change the physiological response to them. To disarm them.
I've had issues that have made me anxious in the past, but I couldn't function that way so I pushed to disarm it and now I am glad I did.
Obviously, it's always good to work with a professional on these sorts of things.
fts9@fedia.io · 6 pts · 12d
It depends on my energy levels.
If my mental health and sleep is otherwise OK, I usually just make myself do it.
If not, then yeah I tend to avoid stuff that makes me anxious. Sadly, a lot of the time, that includes leaving the house.
I kinda wish that making myself do stuff thst makes me anxious would work as exposure therapy but it hasn't made a difference in the last 20 years
Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 4 pts · 11d
I dont. I throw myself into it, and save the anxiety for the end of the day. Then I just get stoned and build houses in my head til I fall asleep.
s38b35M5@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 11d
tl;dr I try but its mostly moot.
I have a few triggers I try to avoid like the plague. I do what I can to avoid them, but that gives me anxiety, too.
One category of trigger is related to depictions of sexual violence (or even non-consent) in media, which can be hard to avoid unless you only consume media you're familiar with.
Driving with all the road-ragers is another. I can't avoid it, so now I get anxiety days before I have an appointment, thinking about the 40 minute drive to the office.
But I can mostly avoid my demanding, demeaning family. I can mostly avoid police and their dogs.
Malyca@lemmy.zip · 3 pts · 11d
I have avoidant autism so I go to great lengths. For example, after I got bullied at school I stopped going and ditched every day. I will inconvenience myself immensely to avoid triggers.
fahfahfahfah@lemmy.billiam.net · 2 pts · 11d
50/50 depending on if I’m in a “nope can’t deal with this” state or if I’m in a “alright I know just fucking doing this will help prevent it in the future so fuuuuug it” state