Successful women are spending hundreds on matchmaker services to find a rich man

Seems less like a story about women having problems to find good men, and more like a story about entitled rich people not being happy with anything

“Almost all of our inbound calls are women at the moment,” says Amy Van Doran, founder of Modern Love Club, a high-end matchmaking service whose services begin at $100,000.

Amber Lee, the co-founder of Select Date Society, says 82 percent of her clients in the past three years have been female.

The problem of the underwhelming male is especially acute for accomplished and high-earning women like Charlotte, who are often looking for similarly situated men. Unlike men, who “don’t care if the woman is a barista at Starbucks or if she’s a preschool teacher,” according to Louie Felix, a nearly 23-year veteran of the matchmaking trade

Generally speaking, she says, men don’t require the same amount of hand-holding and “emotional nurturing” women do over the course of a contract. With women, “it’s a roller coaster, and it’s very emotional,” she says. “We’re riding the highs of the excitement about a date or a budding relationship and then we’re riding devastating lows with them when they get rejected or the guy breaks up with them.”

Her female clients often need help managing their expectations; a key part of her job is urging women used to wielding control to let go and trust her. She had a client who insisted that because she typically flies first class, any prospective partner should be able to fly first class too. “I was like, ‘Okay, let’s be real. How often are you on the plane first class versus being cozy with this awesome relationship?’”

Still, she wishes people could drop their transactional attitude when it comes to searching for love. “It’s not about ordering human beings like we order things on Amazon,” she says. Other matchmakers offered similar metaphors for their clients who walked in with long wish lists: customizing a BMW model to your specifications; ordering a pizza; building a bespoke robot. Sometimes, London says, it felt like “love has been removed from the equation.”

Comedy gold. Absolute hilarity.

I thought women were the sensitive and empathetic gender who cared more about personality than looks or income? At least that's what women claim. I don't see those qualities anywhere here.

The title says "hundred" but then the article itself is giving examples that are the median salary in the US. These people are paying tens of thousands for match makers to "sift" through the 5% of men who meet their metrics

I know this is a men's lib community but I just wanted to share a story about a woman friend of mine who is successful (not first-class everywhere successful or anywhere near these people). Let's just say that I work in UK tech (just typical senior salary -- not silicon valley FAANG salaries) and one of her bonus checks is my annual salary.

She met the love of her life in school and he never worked and just wanted to be an actor while she came up from boiler rooms to be an exec. When she hit her 30s or so he left her and took half her shit despite not working a day in his life.

She has trouble dating now and we talk about it often. She wants kids and wants a man that earns around her salary (even below but within her range) and she's finding it tough. I told her that on her dates that she probably shouldn't ask how much the man earns. She says it's to get things out of the way and that she typically earns more than them. I just said that it can be off-putting.

https://archive.md/yQLEu

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it wouldnt surprise if those 5% men rich, would be pos to the women too.

Im not surprised. Don't get me wrong its easy to say all women are like this but some women are. I myself dated a girl back in the day who was otherwise nice and such but I felt she did not so much love me as I checked various boxes that made me acceptable. That just did not work for me. My wife on the other hand apprciated my qualities that I view as more core to my being. You know though I had a type and my wife was not the type but that other girl was. Then funnily I worked at a place and one of the people I worked with was a very typically hot girl. Later it turned out she was engaged to the manager of the office. I knew her pretty well and she said they met at a wierd (my term) social club where you either have to be a hot young chick or a successful man. Figure doctor as sorta a baseline. I believe it was free for the women but the men paid a fairly sizable fee.

'Cause every girl's crazy 'bout a sharp-dressed man

I hope they realise that dating site algorithms are not built to work for them but rather to keep them pouring money into upgraded "premium" services.

What does she have to offer the man that meets her criteria? Because if he's tall, handsome, kind, rich and successful he can have anyone and that's probably gonna be a hot 25 yo kindergarten teacher with a good sense of humor who let's him do whatever or similar. The power-boss millionaire woman is not really top of the pile for a relationship tbh.

Collecting and maintaining resources is difficult and time consuming, even in the age of wonder we live in. Women have the option to marry into wealth in a way men simply don't. It isn't surprising to see this.