LallyLuckFarm

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โ€œCampbellโ€™s admission that it committed these violations will speed this case toward a trial that will decide what steps the company must take to curb its pollution and how large a civil penalty should be imposed,โ€

1.5 times their gross annual profit average over the timeframe, per infraction, ought to do it. Oh. And jail time for anyone who knew and didn't report it, for aiding and abetting a conspiracy to commit the crime.

We're almost to our daughter's 9th month of life. We're both overtired and feeling overworked, with precious little of the time we used to spend on hobbies or couple-time. That said, while there's been a shift towards an expectation culture in the house (vs an ask culture) we haven't had the sort of challenges listed in that first paragraph.

Some things probably working for us:

  • We've been together for over a decade and in our home for 9 years

  • Our communication style is productive even during arguments ("I feel" statements are much more positive than "you" statements)

  • We're majority wfh so we have the capacity to buffer each others' needs as parents throughout the day, rather than leaving everything to one person or having additional financial stresses with childcare

Some things definitely working for us:

  • Calling each other out for awesome parenting, because very few others will and it's amazing to feel that validation

  • Proactively taking something off of each other's plates, whether that's cleaning or laundry, dishes or bottles, whatever task is getting done is one that doesn't have to be done later

  • Knowing about spoon theory and being sensitive to how much bandwidth each other has left. It's way harder to recharge from past depleted, so being flexible and recognizing when I or my partner are reaching that point and stepping in or voicing a need for support goes a long way for both of us

How do you find the mental fortitude to ignore the stupid bs your partner does or says?

I mean, we're both sleep deprived so I'm sure there's stupid coming out of my mouth too. I think it's much healthier to laugh or work to improve the condition causing stress than it is to feed a negative cycle. If either of us are escalating we missed a chance to bolster each other.

How would you describe love to your partner a year after having a baby?

Gratitude. I feel incredibly fortunate to have a partner who puts in the effort and has put in the effort to help build the communication style that's worked so well for us.

Is there any way to know if you and your partner are going to make it and remain a couple after having a child?

It really helps to have a relationship built on respect, and knowing enough about yourselves to approach challenges constructively. Build a good foundation with each other, learn to communicate positively, and do your best.

๐Ÿคค love that garlic heat. We've got lots of hardnecks coming up on picking, some landrace variety of chives from our neighbor's great grandfather, and ramps (Allium tricoccum) but maybe I can convince the wife we need another allium.

๐Ÿ˜‚ let's call it "fun", us figuring out all these quirks together. I'm not sure if it's a matter of other instances that Beehaw users have already connected to, making indexing what's on that instance faster over here, or if it's something totally different. I've had the most luck populating my subscriptions by using the site's search tool with "![community]@[server]"; I've also been playing with Jerboa's search tool but currently get timeout errors or no results whereas the search from the site will display a result for me (this isn't every time but there is a noticeable difference). Part of me thinks some of these hiccups are from the unpredictability of exodus traffic and its impact on the various servers.

It's through a USDA grant, so I think it's something that each U.S. state could do if this kind of program isn't available (yet) where folks are. Maybe I'll try to scrape up some details around it, it seems like a good topic for this /c/

The light looks underpowered for the plant's needs. Take a look here at the "lighting for indoor trees" section and compare those specs to the light you're using. I've seen a number of inexpensive "grow lights" that don't produce the necessary spectrum or lumens, so be sure to take note of the manufacturer specifications if you decide to replace your lights

We recently donated dozens of plants for two fundraisers in our town - one supporting the town library, and the other supporting the town food pantry. They were both happening on the same morning, so we made sure to mention that to the organizers... There were SO. MANY. PEOPLE coming to the library stating that they heard about it from the food pantry plant sale, and we got a text from the FP organizers later saying how wonderful it was to have patrons coming saying they had heard about it at the library.

Our engagement with the food pantry also allowed us to have a conversation with them about informing their clients about a program Maine runs that allows SNAP (Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program) beneficiaries to receive additional assistance when buying food from farmer's markets. We're hopeful that these conversations will help to bring better nutrition to our neighbors that are struggling, increase support for our local growers, and reduce the carbon footprint by bolstering our town's circular economy.

I think part of the issue is that you're including both beehaw.org and lemmy.ml - I found your community by looking for !wish@lemmy.ml using the search function on Beehaw. I'm still figuring things out myself but think this should address the issue at hand.

I don't personally care for the penalty that's imposed, as removing access to libraries inherently affects less affluent socioeconomic groups much more harshly. Political action towards banning a book from a library should result in all libraries receiving the book in question to be stored accessibly in the appropriate book section. Like a weaponized Streisand effect in the pursuit of greater literacy and the protection of the ideal that knowledge is a human right.

I agree it looks like aphids doing the damage, especially if this is a recent development. You may wish to do some selective pruning on the flush of new growth to improve air flow there, which would also give you some more space for aphid-related management too.