I've been using Against Nature by Timothy Han. It's my first foray into designer brands, and I love it's metallic, green notes. I spent many hours searching for a more-so unisex perfume, using the below site as a guide. In my search for carry options, the Decant site (below) is brilliant for a spritz on the go in case the perfume's longevity is fairly short, which Against Nature unfortunately is.
I also came across Scandalwood by Heretic Parfum and Attempted Murder by Sucreabeille, which I'm considering starting after this perfume is gone. I'm not much for layering scents, and prefer indie, alternative perfumes with herbal, marine, spice, and/or certain wood notes. If the perfume has floral notes, I prefer them to be mixed with other notes. In case you don't know, some sites offer samples of the perfume if it's on the expensive side and you're unsure if it blends well with your natural pheromones.
https://www.fragrantica.com/
(You can search for the perfume to see its scent notes in case the website it's being sold on doesn't, or reverse search for the notes you want and what perfumes have it)
I enjoy calmer games most times I'm gaming so I have a lot. The genre I most like is puzzle games, but there are a few exploration/ walking simulators here, too. Among the games already listed, there are:
It's interesting you mention they're encouraged to translate your paraverbal communication style; I didn't realize that but it makes sense. I've often been intimidated by situations necessitating a translator, as a therapist, because of uncertainty in how humor would translate- so to speak- for clients with other family norms/cultures. But that moment of gold at the end made me laugh out loud! That's wonderful! 😆
This. Got a place just before the pandemic that wasn't well taken-care-of and had German roaches, assuming that's what you're seeing (tinier, and fast as hell) got this kit (granted it was $20 cheaper a few years ago) and rotated out with a couple of the other kits that come after A's formulation every 6 months. Gone after 2 years. Now I just see the regular ones sometimes- because FL. Saved my sanity.
Also, I wouldn't advise feeing the critters to your chameleon since you don't know what the critters have been exposed to or got into, pesticide wise.
To add to what others have said, boundary-setting is a skill we develop over many social interactions. It may feel awkward or mean setting a boundary initially, but it's essential to maintain one's "social battery" and priorities/sanity.
Speaking of priorities, those are a good indication as to when setting boundaries is helpful. For example, you have an important appointment to get to, but a family member/friend is asking your help with something at around the same time. Communicating you have a prior engagement at the time of your appointment while being willing to help out after, or giving them suggestion on how else they can get the help they need, is you setting a boundary of what you can do with your time.
When we have concerns of feeling like an asshole, we want to consider from where that originates. Sometimes we've been raised around family members or "friends" who take advantage of another's kindness and treat people maintaining boundaries as the villain (e.g. "Why are you leaving us hanging?/ Why couldn't you help me/your Old Man out this one time?"). This is often a sign of emotional immaturity/ poor insight, empathy, and/or self-awareness. Healthy connections will respect your boundaries and maybe check in later if a raincheck is suggested. When interacting with people who don't respect "no" as a full sentence and answer, sometimes reminding them of our limits and empathizing with the person's situation can disarm them.
Tell me about it. The discipline it takes to not consume something the general public has been consuming as the norm is a struggle sometimes, but tasting the flavors I otherwise wouldn't notice from something not deathly sweetened is a plus. As well as better teeth. My parents also restricted sweet drinks to family trips and parties growing up, and I don't think I can thank them enough.
Increasing one's credit [score] is helpful for when citizens want to make large purchases/transactions, such as getting a homeowner's loan and car, in the US. Having lower credit is an indicator to banks that one is not "trustworthy" with their (bank's) money. And with property prices soaring and most salaries stuck in the 60s (I may be exaggerating a little, haven't checked exact numbers lately), it's hard not to NEED a loan for those. Direct debit is nice to have, but there are advantages to credit cards if the user is wise with their money/credit knowledgeable. It's systemic.
Back when I was using reddit, I found Uplifting News to be a helpful source of positive information. Some of it can be reminders of our boring dystopia, like students helping another by starting a laundry program at the school, but it's something. Here is the lemmy version.
I feel like religion/conservatism plays a role in this mindset. There's a lot of pride in self-sacrifice and at least appearing "strong" in the face of adversity even if it's regarding your health. Not that I agree with it at all. I'm all for unlimited such days and self-care.
Bamboo sticks or a small trellis sounds smart. I'll keep in mind to give it a taste of the outdoors before permanently moving it out there if I do. Much appreciated!
Thanks for the feedback. The last time I repotted it was sometime early last year, and I don't know how frequent I should be doing that. Once the plant becomes twice as tall as the pot or taller?
I didn't think about pruning being helpful for strengthening roots, so I'll give that a shot.
So far the plant gets plenty of light. The window is north facing so it's more indirect light, but plenty of light gets through as far as I can tell. I tried moving it, but maybe I'm doing that wrong. Do I keep it in the moved position for several days, a couple weeks, or until I notice the branches aren't leaning as much and then move it again?
To explain in case you are serious, IMO I think they're meaning you can obviously articulate the point to which you came from where you originated class-wise, and explain in detail at that.
But the "sucker" aspect is to point out how, even if we can find a way, the "game" itself seems to lead many to devolve into an existential thought-process of 'what is the point,' when it's much harder now-a-days to get to ANY point of success like a couple of previous generations were able to (those in their 50s+). If a person still believes that "winning" at the game is still important, then they already lost.
Or they're just a bit bitter and using a mocking tone... hard to interpret tone in text.
Regardless of the source's background, the information she mentioned actually reflects current knowledge of how infants and older children develop. In order to develop emotion regulation skills, healthy attachment, and social skills, we do naturally look away from our caregiver and others doting on us as a way to self-regulate intense feelings.
In fact, many children can develop attachment and emotion regulation issues if caregivers aren't responsive and share compassion or empathize with a child's behavior (e.g. a baby becoming upset and crying if- when looking away- the caregiver instead tries to get its attention repeatedly and not giving the child a break.) That's why it's important to have some level of emotional intelligence to develop healthy attachments with kids and them with us.
For more information, you can look up attachment theory and theories on human development (Erikson, Piaget, etc.). This is also mentioned here.
I know you're joking, but for those who don't understand sarcasm it's more akin to a rebirth name when changing it after religious epiphanies or extreme cases of cuttingoff communication from one's origin family/tribe.
I've been using Against Nature by Timothy Han. It's my first foray into designer brands, and I love it's metallic, green notes. I spent many hours searching for a more-so unisex perfume, using the below site as a guide. In my search for carry options, the Decant site (below) is brilliant for a spritz on the go in case the perfume's longevity is fairly short, which Against Nature unfortunately is.
I also came across Scandalwood by Heretic Parfum and Attempted Murder by Sucreabeille, which I'm considering starting after this perfume is gone. I'm not much for layering scents, and prefer indie, alternative perfumes with herbal, marine, spice, and/or certain wood notes. If the perfume has floral notes, I prefer them to be mixed with other notes. In case you don't know, some sites offer samples of the perfume if it's on the expensive side and you're unsure if it blends well with your natural pheromones.
https://www.fragrantica.com/ (You can search for the perfume to see its scent notes in case the website it's being sold on doesn't, or reverse search for the notes you want and what perfumes have it)
https://www.decantx.com/search?type=&q=Diy&options%5Bprefix%5D=&options%5Bfields%5D=&filter.v.availability=
I enjoy calmer games most times I'm gaming so I have a lot. The genre I most like is puzzle games, but there are a few exploration/ walking simulators here, too. Among the games already listed, there are:
Actively listening vs problem-solving when friends are venting .
Cuing friends, or friends-to-be, about wardrobe/hair/makeup malfunctions discretely when in public or group gatherings.
Doing your best to not be a clam jam when a friend's/roommate's partner is visiting.
I've learned this since my mom started menopause years ago, to always have hand cream nearby.
It's interesting you mention they're encouraged to translate your paraverbal communication style; I didn't realize that but it makes sense. I've often been intimidated by situations necessitating a translator, as a therapist, because of uncertainty in how humor would translate- so to speak- for clients with other family norms/cultures. But that moment of gold at the end made me laugh out loud! That's wonderful! 😆
This. Got a place just before the pandemic that wasn't well taken-care-of and had German roaches, assuming that's what you're seeing (tinier, and fast as hell) got this kit (granted it was $20 cheaper a few years ago) and rotated out with a couple of the other kits that come after A's formulation every 6 months. Gone after 2 years. Now I just see the regular ones sometimes- because FL. Saved my sanity.
Also, I wouldn't advise feeing the critters to your chameleon since you don't know what the critters have been exposed to or got into, pesticide wise.
Chivalry, hardness (of features), simplicity
To add to what others have said, boundary-setting is a skill we develop over many social interactions. It may feel awkward or mean setting a boundary initially, but it's essential to maintain one's "social battery" and priorities/sanity.
Speaking of priorities, those are a good indication as to when setting boundaries is helpful. For example, you have an important appointment to get to, but a family member/friend is asking your help with something at around the same time. Communicating you have a prior engagement at the time of your appointment while being willing to help out after, or giving them suggestion on how else they can get the help they need, is you setting a boundary of what you can do with your time.
When we have concerns of feeling like an asshole, we want to consider from where that originates. Sometimes we've been raised around family members or "friends" who take advantage of another's kindness and treat people maintaining boundaries as the villain (e.g. "Why are you leaving us hanging?/ Why couldn't you help me/your Old Man out this one time?"). This is often a sign of emotional immaturity/ poor insight, empathy, and/or self-awareness. Healthy connections will respect your boundaries and maybe check in later if a raincheck is suggested. When interacting with people who don't respect "no" as a full sentence and answer, sometimes reminding them of our limits and empathizing with the person's situation can disarm them.
Well, that took a turn. Sorry to hear that! I love how picking/making a new together is becoming slightly more common that in earlier decades.
Right?! Who is cutting onions, damnit. Another example of looking for the helpers, per Mr. Rogers.
Tell me about it. The discipline it takes to not consume something the general public has been consuming as the norm is a struggle sometimes, but tasting the flavors I otherwise wouldn't notice from something not deathly sweetened is a plus. As well as better teeth. My parents also restricted sweet drinks to family trips and parties growing up, and I don't think I can thank them enough.
Yep, racists are going to be racist.
Increasing one's credit [score] is helpful for when citizens want to make large purchases/transactions, such as getting a homeowner's loan and car, in the US. Having lower credit is an indicator to banks that one is not "trustworthy" with their (bank's) money. And with property prices soaring and most salaries stuck in the 60s (I may be exaggerating a little, haven't checked exact numbers lately), it's hard not to NEED a loan for those. Direct debit is nice to have, but there are advantages to credit cards if the user is wise with their money/credit knowledgeable. It's systemic.
Back when I was using reddit, I found Uplifting News to be a helpful source of positive information. Some of it can be reminders of our boring dystopia, like students helping another by starting a laundry program at the school, but it's something. Here is the lemmy version.
I feel like religion/conservatism plays a role in this mindset. There's a lot of pride in self-sacrifice and at least appearing "strong" in the face of adversity even if it's regarding your health. Not that I agree with it at all. I'm all for unlimited such days and self-care.
I saw it as an eyesore in contrast to the dark background. Plus, it just looked strange/random. No significant reason.
Bamboo sticks or a small trellis sounds smart. I'll keep in mind to give it a taste of the outdoors before permanently moving it out there if I do. Much appreciated!
Thanks for the feedback. The last time I repotted it was sometime early last year, and I don't know how frequent I should be doing that. Once the plant becomes twice as tall as the pot or taller?
I didn't think about pruning being helpful for strengthening roots, so I'll give that a shot.
So far the plant gets plenty of light. The window is north facing so it's more indirect light, but plenty of light gets through as far as I can tell. I tried moving it, but maybe I'm doing that wrong. Do I keep it in the moved position for several days, a couple weeks, or until I notice the branches aren't leaning as much and then move it again?
To explain in case you are serious, IMO I think they're meaning you can obviously articulate the point to which you came from where you originated class-wise, and explain in detail at that.
But the "sucker" aspect is to point out how, even if we can find a way, the "game" itself seems to lead many to devolve into an existential thought-process of 'what is the point,' when it's much harder now-a-days to get to ANY point of success like a couple of previous generations were able to (those in their 50s+). If a person still believes that "winning" at the game is still important, then they already lost. Or they're just a bit bitter and using a mocking tone... hard to interpret tone in text.
Regardless of the source's background, the information she mentioned actually reflects current knowledge of how infants and older children develop. In order to develop emotion regulation skills, healthy attachment, and social skills, we do naturally look away from our caregiver and others doting on us as a way to self-regulate intense feelings.
In fact, many children can develop attachment and emotion regulation issues if caregivers aren't responsive and share compassion or empathize with a child's behavior (e.g. a baby becoming upset and crying if- when looking away- the caregiver instead tries to get its attention repeatedly and not giving the child a break.) That's why it's important to have some level of emotional intelligence to develop healthy attachments with kids and them with us.
For more information, you can look up attachment theory and theories on human development (Erikson, Piaget, etc.). This is also mentioned here.
Source: Therapist
I know you're joking, but for those who don't understand sarcasm it's more akin to a rebirth name when changing it after religious epiphanies or extreme cases of cuttingoff communication from one's origin family/tribe.