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  1. Make plans with other people.
  2. Don't bail. Rinse and repeat.

But for real, finding ways to volunteer for your personal interests - whether online or in person - is the best way. It will connect you with other similarly interested people, give you a bit of responsibility so they see you're trustworthy and how you think, and once you are "work-friends" you can invite them to personal things also like going on a hike, watch/discuss a movie, go to an event, co-work, play a game, etc. The most important part is, of you say you'll do something that they're relying on you for, you gotta do it or communicate before hand why you can't. Community is just a group of people with similar interests that trust each other and communicate.

on Thoughts? · c/memes · 4 pts · 63d

I'd try it, and hate myself, and then try it again just to be sure.

As someone with a 5-year old, please define "children," because that is definitely not how they see their friends. They had one other child at 2.5 years, in preschool, who they both just naturally GRAVITATED to each other - not because they were getting anything out of it than mutual friendship. That friend has since moved away, devastating, and they do have other friends, but all other friendships pale in comparison. It's been amazing to watch how true friendship will just blossom randomly in the world.

on Thoughts on this? · c/womensstuff · 18 pts · 83d

Good points, and it actually leads us to the words "hysteria" and "hysterical," which were the words recently used to describe a (sexist and incorrect) emotional distress based on the possession of a uterus. Which would... kind of support, by being the inverse of, what OP is saying.

on *Permanently Deleted* · c/asklemmy · 6 pts · 113d

This. I have run fundraising offices in multiple cities. There's often one or two "trashy" people in each office, who could learn people's names but don't, who insist that everything they do is perfect and others need to change to see it, who love being loud and living large themselves but won't respect other's choices or beliefs even in shared professional spaces. They litter. They steal from people they know. They often hide behind a veneer of religious faith, to deflect criticism. They refuse to learn, or reflect upon their actions with anything but praise.

Have a very large vocabulary and go out of my way to avoid utilizing the same noun or adjective more than once in a conversation. Also keeping multiple conversations on different topics going at once with any people in the same room, a habit I learned/inherited from my ADHD physician mother who was always on calls while talking to my brother and I and also making dinner at the same time.

Goodr is the answer. Only $25, look as good as Ray bans or better, lots of color choices, and they have this plastic coating on the nose arch that you don't notice or think you need, until the first time you happen to run, sweat, or look down and all other sunglasses flop around your face. Goodrs stay in place!

Also, never get aviators if you have hair longer than 1", the nose pads will get tangled.

It's impossible for me to forget that all bees (& wasps & ants) are order HYMENOPERTA, literally named for them being 99% virgin females

So I am totally stumped.

I know our life sucks. That is exactly why meditation is so helpful, and important. You can easily do a gratitude meditation - breathe in thinking about something you're thankful for, breathe out letting that gratitude flow down from your head through your body. This will instantly help your body and brain feel better. Other meditations help us separate what we want (everything to be better) from what we actually need (air, water, food, a place to sit), and see that we cause our own suffering through attachments to our expectations, which finally gives you a real way to stop hurting yourself constantly, by letting go of the weapons you use. You already hold the key. There is honestly, no judgement in meditation. Just keep gently guiding yourself back to your breath and/or whatever you are trying to focus on, and let yourself just be you for a while. It's surprisingly helpful.

on "Too many steps" day · c/adhd · 7 pts · 329d

To reduce steps, I keep the electric kettle on the counter. Then it's just steps 5-12. But you also forgot step 10.B = forget about tea, and 10.C = remember tea and try to figure out where you left it.

Note: not MTF

If you're light skinned, oh yeah does it work. I used on my legs for 6 weeks, once a year for 2 years in a row, and now the hair that did regrow is so much thinner and lighter that I didn't even shave this summer. Whoever is saying it can't be used on face - not true, get one with a facial attachment. Whoever is saying it takes a long time or isn't effective - I was shaving weekly anyway (which you have to do before each treatment) and lasering my legs I got down to 20 minutes; it's not much extra time but it had a drastic effect on my comfort level going more than 2 days without shaving. Doesn't work on my darker private bits but for legs, body, pits, and face, it was a complete game changer for me. I got the Braun silk expert pro 5 back in 2023. I would look for one with a better continuous-pulse now, but am otherwise quite satisfied.

on Pope Francis has died · c/world · 13 pts · 1y

Isn't it

  1. JD Vance asks to meet Pope

  2. Pope slights Vance, refuses to meet

  3. Pope dies the next day ???

Very sus