If you haven't listened to her West End Girl (this dress is one of her concert outfits for the album) I highly recommend. It's full of bangers, and very open and vulnerable about the audacity of David Harbour, the ex in question.
Actually in most of the US prisoners are explicitly required or just "encouraged" to work ("More than three quarters of incarcerated people surveyed (76%) report facing punishment—such as solitary confinement, denial of sentence reductions, or loss of family visitation—if they decline to work.") And of course if they get compensated at all it's typically literal pennies per hour.
https://news.uchicago.edu/story/us-prison-labor-programs-violate-fundamental-human-rights-new-report-finds
But you're right that the lack of alternative leisure time activities definitely encourages getting jacked and reading.
And we do! Usually it's American/British kids that get caught after going after high profile targets because they're kids and they're dumb. Some of the more well known groups (e.g. Scattered Spider, The Com) specifically recruit minors to do the hands on keyboard operations because they're less likely to get time than adults. Most resourced hackers are not stupid enough to launch operations against Western organizations from countries with extradition agreements.
I took a trip to Mumbai last year and immediately developed a cold after arriving. When I mentioned it to my friends I was there to see they said that's totally normal for people visiting just due to the air pollution. It's no joke.
And then imagine living in New Delhi where the air pollution is on average nearly 3x worse than Mumbai.
There's nothing to be gained from Cloudflare lying about this. It honestly makes them look worse if the outage was caused internally vs if it had been due to an attack
Aromantic and asexual are distinct, but often confused.
Aromantic/aro: an individual who feels little or no romantic attraction to others. These folks may still have relationships or hookups, but generally don't find those evolving into long-term romantic love or monogamy.
Asexual/ace: an individual who feels little or no sexual attraction to others. These folks may still have relationships or hookups but generally don't feel a specific drive to engage in sex or other physical intimacy with people.
Anyone on either of these spectrums can still have relationships of any type, and anyone on either of these spectrums can still be an asshole in those relationships. Aro people generally don't form individual romantic bonds, but unless they're also ace/asexual they are still as sexual as anyone else. As a result, it might appear that they are a bit of a player (sex without long term attachment).
If she is indeed aro but not ace and is in a monogamous relationship, she's likely not in the best situation for someone with those leanings. It sounds to me like she wants out of the relationship but isn't willing to be honest about it and is trying to get OP to end it.
My mom swears by drinking something through a straw during conversations where you think you might cry. I have yet to try it out myself, but maybe it'll work for you :)
I think this is a great thing to talk more openly about!
I have an at-home laser hair removal device (https://us.braun.com/en-us/female-hair-removal/ipls/silk-expert-pro-5-pl5157) that I use on my legs, armpits, bikini line, and boobs. I also use a razor to touch up legs, armpits, and bikini area when I need to. The hair in these areas is a lot slower to grow & more fine than it used to be before I started using the laser device, but it does still come back.
I can't imagine being the type of person who takes pubic hair removal seriously though. I've just got too much and it grows too fast and my skin is way too sensitive to handle it. As someone that isn't in a relationship and not super into hookups, my perspective is: if you're going down there you're welcome and you're one of the lucky few. I'm not about to cause myself constant discomfort just so my occasional sexual partners have a view of my genitals that they may or may not find more aesthetically pleasing. The idea of putting in all that time, effort, money, and discomfort just so that my vag can look like a child's is a fucking no for me.
No judgement towards those that do it! Just could never be me.
I'd amend this to say 'know what the seasonal conditions are for your area and plan accordingly.' In Washington for example Spring is generally too cold for comfortable camping (the temperature typically drops to ~30-45 during at night). While August/September is peak wildfire season nowadays. So June, July, early August are your best bets unless you're happy toughing out the cold or the smoke.
On the other hand, I would rather have a job that continues to be needed than no job at all. I think I'd prefer having some resources to help myself and my loved ones during the societal collapse.
When I got mine in they gave me local anesthesia, and it was still the most painful experience of my life. Turns out rummaging around in your innards produces a type of pain unlike anything I've ever felt. I truly can't imagine how awful it must be without any anesthesia.
It varies based on local legislation, so in some places paying ransoms is banned but it's by no means universal. It's totally valid to be against paying ransoms wherever possible, but it's not entirely black and white in some situations.
For example, what if a hospital gets ransomed? Say they serve an area not served by other facilities, and if they can't get back online quickly people will die? Sounds dramatic, but critical public services get ransomed all the time and there are undeniable real world consequences. Recovery from ransomware can cost significantly more than a ransom payment if you're not prepared. It can also take months to years to recover, especially if you're simultaneously fighting to evict a persistent (annoyed, unpaid) threat actor from your environment.
For the record I don't think ransoms should be paid in most scenarios, but I do think there is some nuance to consider here.
Per Careless People, the recent memoir that this article pulls from & facebook has been trying to kill, this was one of the many unethical advertising schemes that ultimately traces back to Sheryl Sandberg. A woman who didn't allow her own children to use fb because she knew she was making it a toxic capitalist hellscape.
The bigger issue (like with Covid shots, flu shots, and everything else) is that there are elderly & immunocompromised folks who can't get vaccines. Their immune systems aren't strong enough to handle the small dose in the innoculation. So the only way those people are protected is through herd immunity, relying on the rest of us to protect ourselves and our community.
If you haven't listened to her West End Girl (this dress is one of her concert outfits for the album) I highly recommend. It's full of bangers, and very open and vulnerable about the audacity of David Harbour, the ex in question.
Actually in most of the US prisoners are explicitly required or just "encouraged" to work ("More than three quarters of incarcerated people surveyed (76%) report facing punishment—such as solitary confinement, denial of sentence reductions, or loss of family visitation—if they decline to work.") And of course if they get compensated at all it's typically literal pennies per hour. https://news.uchicago.edu/story/us-prison-labor-programs-violate-fundamental-human-rights-new-report-finds
But you're right that the lack of alternative leisure time activities definitely encourages getting jacked and reading.
The story I've heard is that he took a nosedive in effectiveness as CEO when his son died in 2022 (https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/microsoft-ceo-satya-nadellas-son-dead-26-company-says-rcna18320). No idea how true that is, but 2022ish does seem to have been a turning point for Microsoft in terms of strategy and how well the company is run.
Me on public transit in any outfit because public transit rocks
And we do! Usually it's American/British kids that get caught after going after high profile targets because they're kids and they're dumb. Some of the more well known groups (e.g. Scattered Spider, The Com) specifically recruit minors to do the hands on keyboard operations because they're less likely to get time than adults. Most resourced hackers are not stupid enough to launch operations against Western organizations from countries with extradition agreements.
https://cybernews.com/cybercrime/scattered-spider-mgm-hackers-indictment/
https://krebsonsecurity.com/2025/07/uk-charges-four-in-scattered-spider-ransom-group/
https://www.bleepingcomputer.com/news/security/scattered-spider-hacker-gets-sentenced-to-10-years-in-prison/
I took a trip to Mumbai last year and immediately developed a cold after arriving. When I mentioned it to my friends I was there to see they said that's totally normal for people visiting just due to the air pollution. It's no joke.
And then imagine living in New Delhi where the air pollution is on average nearly 3x worse than Mumbai.
There's nothing to be gained from Cloudflare lying about this. It honestly makes them look worse if the outage was caused internally vs if it had been due to an attack
Aromantic and asexual are distinct, but often confused.
Aromantic/aro: an individual who feels little or no romantic attraction to others. These folks may still have relationships or hookups, but generally don't find those evolving into long-term romantic love or monogamy.
Asexual/ace: an individual who feels little or no sexual attraction to others. These folks may still have relationships or hookups but generally don't feel a specific drive to engage in sex or other physical intimacy with people.
Anyone on either of these spectrums can still have relationships of any type, and anyone on either of these spectrums can still be an asshole in those relationships. Aro people generally don't form individual romantic bonds, but unless they're also ace/asexual they are still as sexual as anyone else. As a result, it might appear that they are a bit of a player (sex without long term attachment).
If she is indeed aro but not ace and is in a monogamous relationship, she's likely not in the best situation for someone with those leanings. It sounds to me like she wants out of the relationship but isn't willing to be honest about it and is trying to get OP to end it.
My mom swears by drinking something through a straw during conversations where you think you might cry. I have yet to try it out myself, but maybe it'll work for you :)
I think this is a great thing to talk more openly about!
I have an at-home laser hair removal device (https://us.braun.com/en-us/female-hair-removal/ipls/silk-expert-pro-5-pl5157) that I use on my legs, armpits, bikini line, and boobs. I also use a razor to touch up legs, armpits, and bikini area when I need to. The hair in these areas is a lot slower to grow & more fine than it used to be before I started using the laser device, but it does still come back.
I can't imagine being the type of person who takes pubic hair removal seriously though. I've just got too much and it grows too fast and my skin is way too sensitive to handle it. As someone that isn't in a relationship and not super into hookups, my perspective is: if you're going down there you're welcome and you're one of the lucky few. I'm not about to cause myself constant discomfort just so my occasional sexual partners have a view of my genitals that they may or may not find more aesthetically pleasing. The idea of putting in all that time, effort, money, and discomfort just so that my vag can look like a child's is a fucking no for me.
No judgement towards those that do it! Just could never be me.
I'd amend this to say 'know what the seasonal conditions are for your area and plan accordingly.' In Washington for example Spring is generally too cold for comfortable camping (the temperature typically drops to ~30-45 during at night). While August/September is peak wildfire season nowadays. So June, July, early August are your best bets unless you're happy toughing out the cold or the smoke.
On the other hand, I would rather have a job that continues to be needed than no job at all. I think I'd prefer having some resources to help myself and my loved ones during the societal collapse.
Alohaha is great for this, it feels like sitting on a beach at night. Also in that theme are Green Arrow by Yo La Tengo and Island Music by Tennis.
When I got mine in they gave me local anesthesia, and it was still the most painful experience of my life. Turns out rummaging around in your innards produces a type of pain unlike anything I've ever felt. I truly can't imagine how awful it must be without any anesthesia.
It varies based on local legislation, so in some places paying ransoms is banned but it's by no means universal. It's totally valid to be against paying ransoms wherever possible, but it's not entirely black and white in some situations.
For example, what if a hospital gets ransomed? Say they serve an area not served by other facilities, and if they can't get back online quickly people will die? Sounds dramatic, but critical public services get ransomed all the time and there are undeniable real world consequences. Recovery from ransomware can cost significantly more than a ransom payment if you're not prepared. It can also take months to years to recover, especially if you're simultaneously fighting to evict a persistent (annoyed, unpaid) threat actor from your environment.
For the record I don't think ransoms should be paid in most scenarios, but I do think there is some nuance to consider here.
Per Careless People, the recent memoir that this article pulls from & facebook has been trying to kill, this was one of the many unethical advertising schemes that ultimately traces back to Sheryl Sandberg. A woman who didn't allow her own children to use fb because she knew she was making it a toxic capitalist hellscape.
I mean vaccines aren't always 100%. If you've been vaccinated you'll have a much stronger immune response, but it is still possible to get measles if you've been vaccinated. 2 doses of the MMR vaccine is on average 97% effective in preventing measles infection (per Mayo Clinic https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/measles/expert-answers/getting-measles-after-vaccination/faq-20125397).
The bigger issue (like with Covid shots, flu shots, and everything else) is that there are elderly & immunocompromised folks who can't get vaccines. Their immune systems aren't strong enough to handle the small dose in the innoculation. So the only way those people are protected is through herd immunity, relying on the rest of us to protect ourselves and our community.
Real talk, do you chomp it raw like chips? Or do you like . . . suck on it until it softens??
I'm a ho for orecchiette, I just love how toothsome it is. Maybe not the absolute #1 for sauce retention but I'm all about that texture.
I have to recommend my #1 favorite focaccia recipe https://alexandracooks.com/2018/03/02/overnight-refrigerator-focaccia-best-focaccia/. It's super duper easy and basically foolproof, it just requires patience on the cold rise. I've never had any issues with it as long as the yeast is good and the water temp is right (~105-115f).