lazyneet

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As a transfem I can say with certainty that I have had the same experiences. I'm not saying you should transition, I'm only saying that the behavior you've described doesn't fit a masculine stereotype. This is good, because gender roles are for the straights.

At the same time, there is something to be said for male socialization taking away some forms of emotional expression that could harm your ability to connect to other people. If you come across as stoic or quiet or overly self-conscious, you're seen as someone who dislikes people. Obviously you aren't, but this is a perception I struggle with as well. Arguably this difficulty in making friends isn't a queer issue at all, it's just a personality thing that you can work on by building confidence and doing more therapy.

Yes this is gay and yes Spongebob has a large gay audience. You usually don't make a quick meal like soup for a friend you're not fucking or in love with. Squidward was always a gay-coded character. While this relationship portrayal is incredibly sweet, I've always disliked Patrick and I don't personally ship them.

on Stop_IRL · c/Queer_IRL · 4 pts · 242d

True for bisexuals in general, but bisexual twinks are always welcome.

on I'm just really tired. · c/mtf · 10 pts · 247d

I'm sorry you've been feeling this way! You look super cute and super sad. If you aren't already, you could cosider dating a girl who could provide some affirmation and help with beauty and such. From that photo, everything seems physiologically perfect, but I do get a certain vibe that is consistent with the things you've said. If you want some advice from random people here, I have some pointers:

  • The emo/goth look does nothing to make you less depressed
  • Try dyeing your hair
  • Try wearing lighter colors
  • Smile! :)

If they're attracted to me as nonbinary would be almost as validating as attraction to me as a woman. People who call themselves gay or straight seldom adhere completely to their orientations. Today I became friends with another transgirl, one far prettier than I am, and I would fill any gender role to be with someone like her, and I have compromised my gender by butching it up before, and it was a worthy sacrifice. My desire is greater than my self-respect.