mzesumzira

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Restaurants very rarely go full spicy with non natives of the cuisine and for good reason.
You can persuade them if you're a regular and they can up the stakes gradually without risking to burn you out of existence, but otherwise they'll just lie to you.

It feels great when they don't feel they have to protect you from yourself and just bring you however they eat it, but they are very right that most people can't deal.
I could once, but I come originally from a place where spicy is really spicy, and had been growing my tolerance for a while.
I wouldn't even try it now.

on Cool Japan 🌸 · c/memes · 2 pts · 45d

I think they misunderstood your comment as directed to the person you were responding to instead of the restaurant

on Sounds about right · c/cat · 29 pts · 48d

I'd agree in general, except that of my two cats one could have been an engineer were she born with opposable thumbs, the other can't be persuaded not to drink the mopp water if left unattended for more than a minute.

Plenty of fresh water available, of course.

on *Permanently Deleted* · c/comicstrips · 10 pts · 333d

I'm not sure it would only apply to women. Never had much of a parental drive myself but I met several men, both friends and partners, who wanted children very much.

Maybe it's different somehow, I wouldn't know, but something's definitely there.

I love self checkout. It allows me to avoid most of social interactions and physical proximity with strangers, making the experience just that much less uncomfortable.

You're right that it's being used against the employees, everything that possibly can will in this system, that doesn't make it inherently bad.

It should be an option, together with a well paid, well treated (let them sit ffs) workforce.

on Good comeback · c/witchesvspatriarchy · 16 pts · 1y

Blonde and ginger women get asked plenty.
I can easily see a shaved head elicit the same dubious approach.
Any woman I've ever talked with has their fair share of weird, inappropriate crap thrown their way, this just par for the course.

The Peter principle is a concept in management developed by Laurence J. Peter which observes that people in a hierarchy tend to rise to "a level of respective incompetence": employees are promoted based on their success in previous jobs until they reach a level at which they are no longer competent, as skills in one job do not necessarily translate to another.

on Living my dream · c/curatedtumblr · 9 pts · 1y

I agree that what she does is manipulative and condescending even with the best intentions (paving the road to hell and all that), but I have issues with the use of "emotional intelligence" here.

An emotional intelligent person does NOT do this kind of shit on purpose.
They meet the other person where they're at and on the same level, they communicate honestly, they don't presume to educate or manage them.

I'd say she comes off more as emotionally stunted, she has no idea know how to relate with her partner as an equal.

I grew up in a fairly conservative household. I used to read the rags my parents considered newspapers, people in my social circles and schools were mostly middle to upper class, and I idolized my father.

It took me a long while to realize I was seeing through distorted glasses, even after I started mingling with different viewpoints.
There always was a gut feeling that something didn't add up, cognitive dissonance maybe.

I sometimes wonder what kind of person I'd be had I not been high on the neurodivergent spectrum and pushed on the outside.

Privilege and social echo chambers make for pretty efficient blindfolds.

It usually pisses me off immediately, it feels like I'm discussing with 12 years olds, but it's mostly when they use them as nicknames, as you said.
And constantly.
Jokes and occasional puns, that's fine, I still find most are not funny to begin with but that's personal taste.