I don't think they actually think they'll get backpaid, it's more the principle of the thing. You're saying Reddit isn't earning the money it should, how about all the free work mods have done over the years to make Reddit into anything worth monetising?
That's very kind of you to say, thank you. I understand it in theory, I'm not sure if I am or not. Their experiences seem different to mine. I would love to make some physical changes to my body, but not enough that I want to deal with any side effects or upkeep, nor do I have the money tbh. I kind of just want to... not be bound by gender.
I'm very comfortable with my sexuality, it's my gender/gender roles/gender expression that I get stuck on - but there must be a counselor who deals with that as well. I just worry about any records of it as my country is very anti-transgender at the moment. Perhaps if it were a private one.
Thank you for your input, I definitely have something to ponder there.
But I understand now that the bicycle won't cause problems if the person is most attracted to personality or if the partner's appearance is fluid.
I don't think it's as set in stone as that, but I understand where you're coming from. Even in straight relationships attraction will ebb and flow, I think that's quite natural for any type of relationship as it progresses and you experience various events in life. Illness, new ideas about looks, aging etc.
I think we need to challenge ourselves a bit on attraction and what it means to us and why. I wouldn't lose attraction to my partner as they age either or if they got severely ill. No one is static neither in looks nor insights.
Not the person you're responding to, but I'm also bi and experience the bi-cycle.
For me it used to annoy me because any person likes at least some consistency in their life. Especially when I was younger as so many things seemed uncertain then, that don't in the same way now. My sexuality also played on my mind more then as I was figuring out who I was, but the bicycle made that difficult, especially because you hear the narrative of bi not being real.
At some point I just figured... This is my consistency. That things change. People change over time anyway, regardless of sexual orientation. So I just lean into it now.
I mean, straight people will also notice attractive people out and about, even if they're fully committed. That's not what makes someone cheat. Same for pan/bi people.
Both my partner and I are into any/all genders and both experience the "bi-cycle". It does not change my attraction to my partner, as we are bonded so strongly already (and not just because of whatever gender preference we might have had at that time), plus any person can have masc and/or femme (or neither) qualities to their personality and looks anyway.
But we're both also strongly monogamous. I pour my energy into my partner, regardless of who might catch my eye a bit out in public.
What we personally do is lean into it more, whichever way we're leaning, but we also both enjoy playing with gender and sexuality expression.
What I mean by that is: use different toys in bed, experiment with clothes for ourselves/each other, lean harder into one type of expression for a while... Just go with the flow really and enjoy it for what it is.
Most importantly: We can be open with each other about it.
Thank you, that's really heartwarming. I will definitely join you over there. I struggle a lot with feeling valid, as even transgender friends have told me I don't sound transgender, which I don't know if I am, I just don't feel... Real. Just as gay/lesbian friends have told me there's no such thing as bisexuals (this was back in the 80s-90s though, some have changed their tune since), but I definitely know where I stand sexuality wise.
Anyway, blabla, thank you, I'll see you over there!
I'm with you on FF. I played VII, because at that point in time, especially where I'm from (small, inconsequential country with a low population and before the internet hit it big, we were always months behind on trends), you just played any title presented to you by others with a PS.
My siblings and I mostly played the demos that came with free PC magazines as we couldn't afford much else lol.
All of that rambling to say: Even then, when I didn't have much else, it bored me to tears. It was so wordy, but without the type of substance I enjoy, the battles were tedious (though I enjoy other types of turnbased combat - like xcom), the style was cute, but I did not enjoy the mishmash of characters (similar feelings on Kingdom Hearts which you also mentioned), it didn't feel irreverent, it felt inconsistent to me.
I can completely understand why others might enjoy it though. I tried playing other FF titles, because the games are quite different to each other, but unfortunately couldn't get into them. But hey ho, everything can't be for everyone.
My main use of Reddit was discussing movies and series that no one in my immediate circle were interested in. So far, I'm not seeing much content in that area (edit: on Lemmy), but maybe we can create the communities ourselves?
I don't think they actually think they'll get backpaid, it's more the principle of the thing. You're saying Reddit isn't earning the money it should, how about all the free work mods have done over the years to make Reddit into anything worth monetising?
That's very kind of you to say, thank you. I understand it in theory, I'm not sure if I am or not. Their experiences seem different to mine. I would love to make some physical changes to my body, but not enough that I want to deal with any side effects or upkeep, nor do I have the money tbh. I kind of just want to... not be bound by gender.
I'm very comfortable with my sexuality, it's my gender/gender roles/gender expression that I get stuck on - but there must be a counselor who deals with that as well. I just worry about any records of it as my country is very anti-transgender at the moment. Perhaps if it were a private one.
Thank you for your input, I definitely have something to ponder there.
I don't think it's as set in stone as that, but I understand where you're coming from. Even in straight relationships attraction will ebb and flow, I think that's quite natural for any type of relationship as it progresses and you experience various events in life. Illness, new ideas about looks, aging etc.
I think we need to challenge ourselves a bit on attraction and what it means to us and why. I wouldn't lose attraction to my partner as they age either or if they got severely ill. No one is static neither in looks nor insights.
Not the person you're responding to, but I'm also bi and experience the bi-cycle.
For me it used to annoy me because any person likes at least some consistency in their life. Especially when I was younger as so many things seemed uncertain then, that don't in the same way now. My sexuality also played on my mind more then as I was figuring out who I was, but the bicycle made that difficult, especially because you hear the narrative of bi not being real.
At some point I just figured... This is my consistency. That things change. People change over time anyway, regardless of sexual orientation. So I just lean into it now.
I mean, straight people will also notice attractive people out and about, even if they're fully committed. That's not what makes someone cheat. Same for pan/bi people.
Both my partner and I are into any/all genders and both experience the "bi-cycle". It does not change my attraction to my partner, as we are bonded so strongly already (and not just because of whatever gender preference we might have had at that time), plus any person can have masc and/or femme (or neither) qualities to their personality and looks anyway.
But we're both also strongly monogamous. I pour my energy into my partner, regardless of who might catch my eye a bit out in public.
What we personally do is lean into it more, whichever way we're leaning, but we also both enjoy playing with gender and sexuality expression.
What I mean by that is: use different toys in bed, experiment with clothes for ourselves/each other, lean harder into one type of expression for a while... Just go with the flow really and enjoy it for what it is.
Most importantly: We can be open with each other about it.
Yeah, what gets me is that this is then used as "proof" that there's something wrong with LGBTQIA+ people.
Thank you, that's really heartwarming. I will definitely join you over there. I struggle a lot with feeling valid, as even transgender friends have told me I don't sound transgender, which I don't know if I am, I just don't feel... Real. Just as gay/lesbian friends have told me there's no such thing as bisexuals (this was back in the 80s-90s though, some have changed their tune since), but I definitely know where I stand sexuality wise.
Anyway, blabla, thank you, I'll see you over there!
I'm with you on FF. I played VII, because at that point in time, especially where I'm from (small, inconsequential country with a low population and before the internet hit it big, we were always months behind on trends), you just played any title presented to you by others with a PS.
My siblings and I mostly played the demos that came with free PC magazines as we couldn't afford much else lol.
All of that rambling to say: Even then, when I didn't have much else, it bored me to tears. It was so wordy, but without the type of substance I enjoy, the battles were tedious (though I enjoy other types of turnbased combat - like xcom), the style was cute, but I did not enjoy the mishmash of characters (similar feelings on Kingdom Hearts which you also mentioned), it didn't feel irreverent, it felt inconsistent to me.
I can completely understand why others might enjoy it though. I tried playing other FF titles, because the games are quite different to each other, but unfortunately couldn't get into them. But hey ho, everything can't be for everyone.
Cool! Would you mind explaining to me how I go about it? Sorry, I'm completely new here.
My main use of Reddit was discussing movies and series that no one in my immediate circle were interested in. So far, I'm not seeing much content in that area (edit: on Lemmy), but maybe we can create the communities ourselves?