Ren, don't waste your time with null, he's completely reactive at this point, unable to see how he contradicts himself (first writing to hire only candidates who claim to be excited to be part of your team because I want to learn all I can from you, immediately after writing Everyone lies in interviews).
could yo describe why it made you miserable? To me a job is something I do for money, not because I need friends. There are bars and clubs to meet people.
I guess I could play a small social experiment and see how people react before I change workplaces and decide if I can and want to keep placating people this way?
Notice that I get along with some coworkers. With these ones I don’t need to play theatrics. It’s the loud, yelling ones with no boundaries the ones that grind my gears and make me want to run for life.
I'm not so sure myself. I want to be me and choose who I open up to but sadly this society is run by extroverts. Not many of them understand that some people work better in silence and are not interested in their lives. They act like I hate them but what I feel is indifference. Some of them are reeeeally thin skinned.
I guess I could play a small social experiment and see how people react before I change workplaces and decide if I can keep placating people this way?
Notice that I get along with some coworkers. With them I don't need to play theatrics. It's the loud, yelling ones the ones that grind my gears and make me want to run for life.
People are assholes; Ignore 90% of what they say, if possible. Just be yourself. It’s the best person you could possibly be.
I'm surprised to see that your post has been upvoted. Usually the shy, quiet ones are mistaken for arrogant jerks and get bullied and downvoted by the extroverts.
I'm actually conflicted because on one hand I want to be me, my freedom above everything else, I choose my friends and the people I open up to and otoh I wonder if I should play theatrics for short bursts of time (like 2 minutes) to placate some coworker's fragile egos.
My teenager self with my parents were like yours: open up, talk more, you are not normal (yup, my father told me that). They bullied me and I tried that for a week, extremely tiring and ridiculous to talk to them about stupid sh*t I don't care about just to please the needy extroverts, but obviously I would go back to my normal self, because they are so tiring. My parents didn't respect me, same as these needy coworkers now.
It doesn't make any sense trying to change a person's personality. So sad that extroverts feel we do this because we hate them.
I still don't know what the ideal solution is, or if there's an ideal solution.
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as much as I'd love to use this line, this would put a huge mark on my back, at least where I work at.
surprising how thin skinned some people are.
updating my cv as of now...
this is even better than I won’t apologise for having a growth mindset.
good advice, also using it
this is perfect! I'm using it
Ren, don't waste your time with null, he's completely reactive at this point, unable to see how he contradicts himself (first writing to hire only candidates who claim to be excited to be part of your team because I want to learn all I can from you, immediately after writing Everyone lies in interviews).
projecting
does that work without a diagnose?
could yo describe why it made you miserable? To me a job is something I do for money, not because I need friends. There are bars and clubs to meet people.
thanks for answering.
I guess I could play a small social experiment and see how people react before I change workplaces and decide if I can and want to keep placating people this way?
Notice that I get along with some coworkers. With these ones I don’t need to play theatrics. It’s the loud, yelling ones with no boundaries the ones that grind my gears and make me want to run for life.
I'm not so sure myself. I want to be me and choose who I open up to but sadly this society is run by extroverts. Not many of them understand that some people work better in silence and are not interested in their lives. They act like I hate them but what I feel is indifference. Some of them are reeeeally thin skinned.
I guess I could play a small social experiment and see how people react before I change workplaces and decide if I can keep placating people this way?
Notice that I get along with some coworkers. With them I don't need to play theatrics. It's the loud, yelling ones the ones that grind my gears and make me want to run for life.
I'm surprised to see that your post has been upvoted. Usually the shy, quiet ones are mistaken for arrogant jerks and get bullied and downvoted by the extroverts.
I'm actually conflicted because on one hand I want to be me, my freedom above everything else, I choose my friends and the people I open up to and otoh I wonder if I should play theatrics for short bursts of time (like 2 minutes) to placate some coworker's fragile egos.
My teenager self with my parents were like yours: open up, talk more, you are not normal (yup, my father told me that). They bullied me and I tried that for a week, extremely tiring and ridiculous to talk to them about stupid sh*t I don't care about just to please the needy extroverts, but obviously I would go back to my normal self, because they are so tiring. My parents didn't respect me, same as these needy coworkers now.
It doesn't make any sense trying to change a person's personality. So sad that extroverts feel we do this because we hate them.
I still don't know what the ideal solution is, or if there's an ideal solution.
thanks for your post and good luck to you.
this. so.much.this
as much as I'd like to use this line, if I do where I work now, a meltdown will ensue with the drama queens at my workplace yelling at me.
And then I'll be labelled not a team player.
I will time it. Thanks
thank you
I'm a terrible actor and I hate phony people.
sadly, that's not the case where I am. They always want more.