I used Tildes quite a bit for about a year or so, then dropped off in favour of Lemmy. I actually went back for the first time in ages the other week, saw this post and it immediately reminded me why I left.
The reason this seems to have been posted is because of people calling for new tools to moderate or curate their experience and Demios is basically saying these requests are pointless because they're never going to be implemented.
The people asking for these tools seem to be identifying a fundamental problem with Tildes but because of the way it's structured I don't think anything suggested would actually make much of a difference.
One problem is that Demios is the one and only moderator and this is apparently never going to change. This means that problematic content can be slow to be removed, and on the flip side seemingly benign posts can be locked or deleted without explanation. People on Tildes who are happy with this call it the 'benevolent dictator' model, and it's incredibly frustrating unless your views align with those of the one and only mod. This inevitably means that the community self selects to be of a similar mindset.
The other major problem as I see it is the overall structure. Coming from Reddit (or Lemmy) it looks like it is broken up into smaller communities that you can select from the sidebar. But in fact these function more like tags, because everyone is subbed to and can post under any of them. This manifests with the life.women tag which was introduced when I was active on Tildes. Initially this felt like a positive thing, and a place for women to discuss issues relevant to them. However, it's impossible to curate who or what can be posted under that tag so what you ended up with lots of men arguing in the comments about women's life experiences and no way to block them. (Compare this to WomensStuff on Lemmy which manages to be inclusive while remaining a safe space.)
Tildes works a select group of people, but for everyone else I think it just ends up a frustrating experience.
Grew up in the north-west, in a two-up, two-down and it was always the front room. When I was little it was synonymous with living room for me. I only realised it was not the same thing when my gran got annoyed with me for calling her living room the front room (she lived in a bungalow and the living room was at the back of the house). Nowadays still call it the front room back home, even though we moved house when I was 10 and it's no longer technically at the front. But anywhere else I'd say living room. And it's always been a sofa.
Klette – the last female member of the Red Army Faction (RAF) terror network still on the run until her arrest at her flat on Monday evening – was known by many dog walkers in the area not by her name or her notorious past, rather as the “owner of Malaika”.
White-overalled forensic investigators filed out of Klette’s flat in a run-down 1950s housing block removing boxes and bags, her bike and even an anti-tank weapon, on top of the Kalashnikov rifle and a machine pistol discovered there two days before. Her neighbours – evacuated overnight due to the discovery of the weapons – were still trying to digest the news about who had been living in their midst.
Klette spent more than three decades hiding in broad daylight. She gave maths and German tutoring to school pupils in the neighbourhood, either free or for cash, and helped Turkish nationals to write letters to the authorities, neighbours said. One said she had baked biscuits for him one Christmas.
For several years she was deeply involved in a Brazilian culture centre in the district, where she practised capoeira, an Afro-Brazilian martial art that combines dance and fighting. There is photographic evidence she travelled to Brazil with her dance troupe; she held a falsified Italian passport. Members of the group recall a friendly, gentle but taciturn character.
It is thought that the discovery of photographs of her with her capoeira group at Berlin’s annual carnival of cultures – smiling, tossing petal confetti, a white bandana on her head – led to her identification and arrest.
The Black and White Minstrel Show is a British light entertainment show on BBC prime-time television that ran from 1958 to 1978. The weekly variety show presented traditional American minstrel and country songs, as well as show tunes and music hall numbers, lavish costuming and often with cast members in blackface.
If you're using a DSLR, playing around with where you're pointing the camera when you're setting your exposure can radically change your picture. Point the camera at the sky and set your aperture and shutter speed so that the light meter in your viewfinder is balanced, then move the camera back down so that the buildings are included again. The light meter will indicate that you're underexposed but taking the picture like this can keep the buildings in shadow, while allowing the sky to shine through.
Also think about how your composition is balanced. If you want the sky to be the focus, try including more of it in the image. Remember the rule of thirds - maybe try with the sky taking up two thirds and the buildings just the bottom third.
My dad worked at Gatwick Airport as a cleaner in the 70s when he was a teenager. His first week there, a woman drops a duty free bag with a bottle of booze in it and he rushes over to clean it up. He's just about to put the bag, full of liquid booze and broken glass, in the bin when one of the senior porters stops him and tells him to bring it in the back. Turns out they had a filtration system in the break room for this exact scenario. They'd pour the booze out of the plastic bag and through a sieve that would collect all the broken glass, it would all go into a big container at the bottom and voila, free booze! They offered my dad some, but he declined. Anyway, I guess if you were working at Gatwick in the 70s you could have had a chance to drink some airport jungle juice, you'd just need to be brave enough.
I wonder if it would be possible to find an option at an actual university that still aligns with her interests. Thinking more along witchy lines than medical lines, would something like anthropology interest her? There's specialisms like ethnomedicine which would explore traditional/herbal medicine from a more academic perspective.
I mean, to start with, throwing out a claim like that with no sources to back you up is not exactly arguing in good faith. It takes a lot more work to deny something when you're provided with exactly zero context on where or when this might be true (and it certainly isn't true in all countries at all times based on the data we have available).
Four in 10 lesbian women (43.8%), 6 in 10 bisexual women (61.1%),
and 1 in 3 heterosexual women (35.0%) reported experiencing rape,
physical violence, and/or stalking within the context of an intimate
partner relationship at least once during their lifetime (Table 3). This translates to an estimated 714,000 lesbian women, 2 million
bisexual women, and 38.3 million heterosexual women in the United
States. Bisexual women experienced significantly higher prevalence of
these types of violence compared to lesbian and heterosexual women. (p. 18)
But it concluded that:
There were no statistically significant differences between the of rape, physical violence, and/or stalking when comparing lesbian women and heterosexual women.
This comes down to the fact that, as other commentors have alluded to, there are far fewer women overall in lesbian relationships compared with those in same-sex relationships. Even if the proportion of those suffering domestic abuse is slightly higher in lesbian relationships, there are far more women being abused in heterosexual relationships.
On top of this, it's important to remember that this percentage is from one survey undertaken in one country, and the reports that exist on lesbian spousal domestic abuse have statistics that vary wildly. The Wikipedia page on lesbian domestic abuse has a good summary of other difficulties in getting a clear picture of its prevalence:
Literature and research regarding domestic violence in lesbian relationships is relatively limited, including in the United States, United Kingdom, and Australia. Many different factors play into this, such as "different definitions of domestic violence, non-random, self-selected and opportunistic sampling methods (often organisation or agency based, or advertising for participants who have experienced violence) and different methods and types of data collected". This causes results to be unreliable, thus making it difficult to make general assumptions about the rates of lesbian domestic violence. This has caused rates of violence in lesbian relationships to range from 17 to 73 percent as of the 1990s, being too large of a scale to accurately determine the pervasiveness of lesbian abuse in the community.
With regards to homicide, there is again the issue of when/where, plus the lack of detailed statistics. But the chapter on Intimate Partner Homicide in the Routledge Handbook of Homicide Studies (available to download here suggests that the rate of lesbian spousal homicides is in fact the lowest compared to those in heterosexual and gay male relationships:
Available statistics suggests that the rate of IPH [Intimate Partner Homicide] is the lowest in lesbian couples compared to IPH rates in gay and heterosexual couples (Gannoni & Cussen, 2014; Mize & Shackelford, 2008; Statistics Canada, 2019). (p. 179)
That's honestly all I have time to write right now. But in conclusion, no, what you're stating here isn't true, not at all.
I've been travelling a lot lately and I seem to manage to forget something different each time..
But ideally:
Skincare: oil-based cleanser that I can use mornings and evenings, Byoma clarifying serum cos otherwise my skin is not happy, moisturiser, sun cream
Other: shampoo decanted into small bottle (my hair needs washing every other day), deodorant, tooth brush
Makeup: primer, glow drops, concealer, multi-purpose pink crayon (can be used as under-eye colour corrector, blush, lip liner and eye shadow depending what I feel like)
I tend not to bring conditioner (can live without), hair moisturising serum, exfoliating serum (only use once a week), eye liner, mascara, lip stick, brow gel, blush, setting powder, foundation but if I were going to a wedding or something I would probs bring all of these.
I havn't used Amazon for a few years and honestly, it just takes discounting it as a possibility. There's no one website equivalent but the more you search for places to buy things, the more you build up a repertoire of sites for specific things.
There's probably more places I use semi-regularly that I can't think of right now. You often end up paying slightly more but I think it's worth it to not support Bezos and I buy less stuff than I would otherwise which is good in the end anyway.
That's devastating. I hadn't heard of the Arran whitebeam before, I'll have to look out for it when on Arran next.
Arran whitebeam is one of the rarest and most endangered trees in the world. It is a hybrid of rowan and rock whitebeam which has stayed on the Isle of Arran since the last glaciers were formed.
Yes! I've really gotten into actually making use of my freezer recently. It's also great for spices and herbs that you use less frequently.
Fresh tumeric and ginger: just grate off what you need and pop it back.
Chillies: freeze whole and cut up and use as needed
Herbs: how well they freeze depends. Things like sage, thyme, curry leaves freeze really well. Basil and coriander will be very soggy when they defrost but are fine if you're just using them in a sauce.
The experiences trans men and women have with misogyny will never not be fascinating to me. Like, for the first time ever we have this huge sample size of people who have experienced how their gender presentation affects how people interact with them, giving tangible proof of misogyny in action. And it can't just be swept aside with 'MaYbE tHe wOmEn JuSt miSuNDerStOoD' or 'mAYbe tHe mAN diDN't MeAn iT LiKE tHaT'. I mean idiots will still make idiot arguments but at least it chips away at them a little bit.
Honestly, from a design perspective I do think the one on the right is actually better in some respects. Yes, it wouldn't scale well, there's too many colours, it's too busy, but it has some good points. The font choice draws you in more, with less space between the letters making it easier to read at a glance and the 'f' creating interest. And the house is actually united with the text, whereas in the left image it feels completely disconnected.
I would be pretty disappointed if I'd paid for a logo and I got the left image tbh, it's not very interesting or memorable. Yes, fuck AI, but I'm not sure this is the best comparison because both logos suck in different ways.
I used Tildes quite a bit for about a year or so, then dropped off in favour of Lemmy. I actually went back for the first time in ages the other week, saw this post and it immediately reminded me why I left.
The reason this seems to have been posted is because of people calling for new tools to moderate or curate their experience and Demios is basically saying these requests are pointless because they're never going to be implemented.
The people asking for these tools seem to be identifying a fundamental problem with Tildes but because of the way it's structured I don't think anything suggested would actually make much of a difference.
One problem is that Demios is the one and only moderator and this is apparently never going to change. This means that problematic content can be slow to be removed, and on the flip side seemingly benign posts can be locked or deleted without explanation. People on Tildes who are happy with this call it the 'benevolent dictator' model, and it's incredibly frustrating unless your views align with those of the one and only mod. This inevitably means that the community self selects to be of a similar mindset.
The other major problem as I see it is the overall structure. Coming from Reddit (or Lemmy) it looks like it is broken up into smaller communities that you can select from the sidebar. But in fact these function more like tags, because everyone is subbed to and can post under any of them. This manifests with the life.women tag which was introduced when I was active on Tildes. Initially this felt like a positive thing, and a place for women to discuss issues relevant to them. However, it's impossible to curate who or what can be posted under that tag so what you ended up with lots of men arguing in the comments about women's life experiences and no way to block them. (Compare this to WomensStuff on Lemmy which manages to be inclusive while remaining a safe space.)
Tildes works a select group of people, but for everyone else I think it just ends up a frustrating experience.
For anyone who wants more information, there's a map of proposed data centres and links to a couple of petitions you can sign here.
And a protest is happening in Edinburgh on the 3rd of September.
Scotland can stand up to the UK government's pro-AI stance and say no to data centres in our communities!
Grew up in the north-west, in a two-up, two-down and it was always the front room. When I was little it was synonymous with living room for me. I only realised it was not the same thing when my gran got annoyed with me for calling her living room the front room (she lived in a bungalow and the living room was at the back of the house). Nowadays still call it the front room back home, even though we moved house when I was 10 and it's no longer technically at the front. But anywhere else I'd say living room. And it's always been a sofa.
Apparently it has the meaning of straightforward/direct... Never heard it before either
I still remember reading about her arrest a couple of years ago:
You'd be wrong on that I'm afraid:
https://www.kyoto-aquarium.com/special/sokanzu/en/2026/
If you're using a DSLR, playing around with where you're pointing the camera when you're setting your exposure can radically change your picture. Point the camera at the sky and set your aperture and shutter speed so that the light meter in your viewfinder is balanced, then move the camera back down so that the buildings are included again. The light meter will indicate that you're underexposed but taking the picture like this can keep the buildings in shadow, while allowing the sky to shine through.
Also think about how your composition is balanced. If you want the sky to be the focus, try including more of it in the image. Remember the rule of thirds - maybe try with the sky taking up two thirds and the buildings just the bottom third.
My dad worked at Gatwick Airport as a cleaner in the 70s when he was a teenager. His first week there, a woman drops a duty free bag with a bottle of booze in it and he rushes over to clean it up. He's just about to put the bag, full of liquid booze and broken glass, in the bin when one of the senior porters stops him and tells him to bring it in the back. Turns out they had a filtration system in the break room for this exact scenario. They'd pour the booze out of the plastic bag and through a sieve that would collect all the broken glass, it would all go into a big container at the bottom and voila, free booze! They offered my dad some, but he declined. Anyway, I guess if you were working at Gatwick in the 70s you could have had a chance to drink some airport jungle juice, you'd just need to be brave enough.
You can get bath crayons for kids that let you write directly on the wall of the shower or w/e. Searching brings up lots of options...
I wonder if it would be possible to find an option at an actual university that still aligns with her interests. Thinking more along witchy lines than medical lines, would something like anthropology interest her? There's specialisms like ethnomedicine which would explore traditional/herbal medicine from a more academic perspective.
I mean, to start with, throwing out a claim like that with no sources to back you up is not exactly arguing in good faith. It takes a lot more work to deny something when you're provided with exactly zero context on where or when this might be true (and it certainly isn't true in all countries at all times based on the data we have available).
There are some studies which suggest that lesbian couples do have a higher rate of domestic abuse. The CDC 2010 National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey (NISVS), for example reported that:
But it concluded that:
This comes down to the fact that, as other commentors have alluded to, there are far fewer women overall in lesbian relationships compared with those in same-sex relationships. Even if the proportion of those suffering domestic abuse is slightly higher in lesbian relationships, there are far more women being abused in heterosexual relationships.
On top of this, it's important to remember that this percentage is from one survey undertaken in one country, and the reports that exist on lesbian spousal domestic abuse have statistics that vary wildly. The Wikipedia page on lesbian domestic abuse has a good summary of other difficulties in getting a clear picture of its prevalence:
With regards to homicide, there is again the issue of when/where, plus the lack of detailed statistics. But the chapter on Intimate Partner Homicide in the Routledge Handbook of Homicide Studies (available to download here suggests that the rate of lesbian spousal homicides is in fact the lowest compared to those in heterosexual and gay male relationships:
That's honestly all I have time to write right now. But in conclusion, no, what you're stating here isn't true, not at all.
I've been travelling a lot lately and I seem to manage to forget something different each time..
But ideally:
Skincare: oil-based cleanser that I can use mornings and evenings, Byoma clarifying serum cos otherwise my skin is not happy, moisturiser, sun cream
Other: shampoo decanted into small bottle (my hair needs washing every other day), deodorant, tooth brush
Makeup: primer, glow drops, concealer, multi-purpose pink crayon (can be used as under-eye colour corrector, blush, lip liner and eye shadow depending what I feel like)
I tend not to bring conditioner (can live without), hair moisturising serum, exfoliating serum (only use once a week), eye liner, mascara, lip stick, brow gel, blush, setting powder, foundation but if I were going to a wedding or something I would probs bring all of these.
Ooh that looks good, I'll have to try the vegetarian version she has.
Leaving this bannock recipe that I often make with soups or stews - super easy and you end up with fresh warm bread in under 20 minutes!
I havn't used Amazon for a few years and honestly, it just takes discounting it as a possibility. There's no one website equivalent but the more you search for places to buy things, the more you build up a repertoire of sites for specific things.
I recommend Ethical Book Search for finding cheap second-hand books. Bookshop.org for new books.
Argos can be good if you need an assortment of random things, although it doesn't always have everything.
Cass Art for art supplies and Love Crafts for knitting and sewing.
B&Q and Screwfix for DIY and home stuff.
There's probably more places I use semi-regularly that I can't think of right now. You often end up paying slightly more but I think it's worth it to not support Bezos and I buy less stuff than I would otherwise which is good in the end anyway.
That's devastating. I hadn't heard of the Arran whitebeam before, I'll have to look out for it when on Arran next.
Yes! I've really gotten into actually making use of my freezer recently. It's also great for spices and herbs that you use less frequently.
The experiences trans men and women have with misogyny will never not be fascinating to me. Like, for the first time ever we have this huge sample size of people who have experienced how their gender presentation affects how people interact with them, giving tangible proof of misogyny in action. And it can't just be swept aside with 'MaYbE tHe wOmEn JuSt miSuNDerStOoD' or 'mAYbe tHe mAN diDN't MeAn iT LiKE tHaT'. I mean idiots will still make idiot arguments but at least it chips away at them a little bit.
Honestly, from a design perspective I do think the one on the right is actually better in some respects. Yes, it wouldn't scale well, there's too many colours, it's too busy, but it has some good points. The font choice draws you in more, with less space between the letters making it easier to read at a glance and the 'f' creating interest. And the house is actually united with the text, whereas in the left image it feels completely disconnected.
I would be pretty disappointed if I'd paid for a logo and I got the left image tbh, it's not very interesting or memorable. Yes, fuck AI, but I'm not sure this is the best comparison because both logos suck in different ways.
I love 'dreich' (rhymes with 'greek') because it perfectly sums up British weather most of the time.
Also a fan of 'banging', as in top, class, right good.