24Do people think you are miserable to be around? c/autism · by venkman_lemmy@lemmy.world · 300d · 13 comments
on Do people think you are miserable to be around? · c/autism · 3 pts · 300dDogs and cows (I live in India at the moment) like me :)
on Weak ego · c/autism · 1 pts · 300dNo I mean the "unstable self" part. Someone with an unstable self can be easily manipulated and hurt.
on Weak ego · c/autism · 3 pts · 301d Weak Ego Core idea: Fragile, unstable sense of self. Examples: Needs validation. Changes personality to fit the group. Identity shifts based on the people around them Healthy Ego Core idea: Balanced confidence, Very solid internal core, high independence. Examples: Can admit mistakes without shame. Holds boundaries kindly. Handles stress without panicking. Doesn’t need to prove anything.
on Do most people think binary? · c/autism · 2 pts · 320dI don't think we think like approval/disapproval. NTs are more obsessed with approval than us and that's how we can be odd.
on Do most people think binary? · c/autism · 1 pts · 320dBut you do think about that? I mean, in terms of approval and disapproval — even if it’s more like a score.
on Nice Guy Syndrome · c/autism · 2 pts · 321dAt some point, they may break down emotionally. You play games with them, and so do others who do not like you. That may make them unreliable.
on Nice Guy Syndrome · c/autism · 3 pts · 321d You might be mixing up being ‘untrustworthy’ with simpler misunderstandings. Something along those lines. If you have difficulty communicating your boundaries, you may appear "nice", especially if you are a shy person.
on Nice Guy Syndrome · c/autism · 2 pts · 321dBecause they can be unpredictable. They cannot be trustworthy. They can be broken easily. People feel insecure around those people whom they cannot trust.
on Nice Guy Syndrome · c/autism · 2 pts · 321dI mean it's like how some people are scared of nice guys.
Dogs and cows (I live in India at the moment) like me :)
No I mean the "unstable self" part. Someone with an unstable self can be easily manipulated and hurt.
Core idea: Fragile, unstable sense of self.
Examples: Needs validation. Changes personality to fit the group. Identity shifts based on the people around them
Core idea: Balanced confidence, Very solid internal core, high independence.
Examples:
Can admit mistakes without shame. Holds boundaries kindly. Handles stress without panicking. Doesn’t need to prove anything.
I don't think we think like approval/disapproval. NTs are more obsessed with approval than us and that's how we can be odd.
I like this answer :)
But you do think about that? I mean, in terms of approval and disapproval — even if it’s more like a score.
At some point, they may break down emotionally. You play games with them, and so do others who do not like you. That may make them unreliable.
sure
Something along those lines. If you have difficulty communicating your boundaries, you may appear "nice", especially if you are a shy person.
Because they can be unpredictable. They cannot be trustworthy. They can be broken easily. People feel insecure around those people whom they cannot trust.
I mean it's like how some people are scared of nice guys.
Let's say uncomfortable