Y'all I've been too embarrassed to tell my therapist but the way I pulled myself out of a deep depression a few months ago was because I started masturbating regularly, which I had never done before. It's not working very well anymore but now when I talk to them it's like "oh well what were you doing differently last time you felt better?" Idk man, it's a mystery.
Also just talking about your kinks and other things you're ashamed of with people you trust is really helpful in clearing that. Shame will hold you back from being true to yourself, and it's not worth it.
Exploring my body unfortunately causes quite a bit of dysphoria for me which is why I rarely used to do it in the first place, but maybe I'll work with them on that issue first and then I can try exploring haha.
You're not a pervert, it's great you can feel comfortable and enjoy yourself (as long as you're not doing it in front of non-consenting parties...)
It served as a source of novel pleasure, now it's just pleasure. Something else that's new and exciting could be what you're looking for, just make sure it doesn't turn to excessive drug use or something else thats irresponsible
When I got a hernia a couple years ago I couldn't for 3 months due to pain before the surgery‡ and then 2 months after the surgery (doc said 2 weeks but there was still too much pain in the area)
That was hard
‡ Had to wait 3 months because my insurance was insisting it was an "optional" surgery because it didn't have my guts pinched so they were not wanting to cover it. My doc was insistent that it wasn't optional due to the level of pain I was in. In the end the doc won and it was covered.
Progress update, been going out with friends a bunch, every weekend, concert, movies n shiz. Invited friends to my house for a party n shiz and was fun, got laid with one of the friends I've been hanging out the most. It's chill tho it's kinda a bit of friends with benefits, but ahahaha they're like sooo much nicer and sweeter with hella more interests in common compared to my last ex. I wont end up dating them cuz I just wanna have friends but it makes me happy knowing that my standards could be way higher for next time.
I've been feeling hella more self motivated and awake, more than ever. Going from an online relationship to actually going out n shiz is like the best thing I've done. It's tragic how my last relationship ended but now I'm a bit more glad it happened. Still friends with them msg them ocassionally but I had taken a long break from them to reset my mindset.
I'm enjoying my friends, the one friend with benefits might end up to come back to bite me in the ass due to getting feelings but we're still being good friends and they already asked if I wanna hang out this weekend again ahahah. Life good atm, but will def get a therapist at some point.
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HoodieGyaru@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 84 pts · 2y
Yes
EherVielleicht@feddit.org · 28 pts · 2y
Yes, Indeed.
dactylotheca@suppo.fi · 29 pts · 2y
EherVielleicht@feddit.org · 19 pts · 2y
JoMiran@lemmy.ml · 14 pts · 2y
Zachariah@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 2y
dactylotheca@suppo.fi · 3 pts · 2y
Imgur was over capacity, my Lemmy instance doesn't allow uploading gifs or mp4s, so I just picked a random gif hosting service and called it a day
Zachariah@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 2y
you did awesome
ekZepp@lemmy.world · 10 pts · 2y
garbagebagel@lemmy.world · 50 pts · 2y
Y'all I've been too embarrassed to tell my therapist but the way I pulled myself out of a deep depression a few months ago was because I started masturbating regularly, which I had never done before. It's not working very well anymore but now when I talk to them it's like "oh well what were you doing differently last time you felt better?" Idk man, it's a mystery.
hswolf@lemmy.world · 24 pts · 2y
RadicalEagle@lemmy.world · 14 pts · 2y
Also just talking about your kinks and other things you're ashamed of with people you trust is really helpful in clearing that. Shame will hold you back from being true to yourself, and it's not worth it.
garbagebagel@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 2y
Exploring my body unfortunately causes quite a bit of dysphoria for me which is why I rarely used to do it in the first place, but maybe I'll work with them on that issue first and then I can try exploring haha.
You're not a pervert, it's great you can feel comfortable and enjoy yourself (as long as you're not doing it in front of non-consenting parties...)
CaptainEffort@sh.itjust.works · 3 pts · 2y
For the record I love this comment, but find it funny that the answer to depression is just “try putting stuff up your butt”.
Clent@lemmy.world · 18 pts · 2y
If you can't talk to your therapist about this l, they may not be the right therapist for you.
Taako_Tuesday@lemmy.ca · 10 pts · 2y
It served as a source of novel pleasure, now it's just pleasure. Something else that's new and exciting could be what you're looking for, just make sure it doesn't turn to excessive drug use or something else thats irresponsible
thesporkeffect@lemmy.world · 42 pts · 2y
C. Just trying to keep the inventory fresh in order to not get cancer
wreckedcarzz@lemmy.world · 19 pts · 2y
But you do that every 45 minutes
thesporkeffect@lemmy.world · 27 pts · 2y
The cancer can sneak up on you at any moment. Can't let your guard down
Lemongrab@lemmy.one · 15 pts · 2y
Imagine having a refractory period
Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 6 pts · 2y
I've literally had partners envious of my turn around time.
Coskii@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 40 pts · 2y
Neither. I need that bastard to stop trying to prop a tent after any minor provocation.
NickwithaC@lemmy.world · 31 pts · 2y
fossphi@lemm.ee · 20 pts · 2y
Can't be depressed while you're asleep. My coping mechanism numero uno
ekZepp@lemmy.world · 27 pts · 2y
skittlebrau@lemmy.world · 26 pts · 2y
Horny and depressed.
Story of my life.
tacosanonymous@lemm.ee · 24 pts · 2y
I can be two things.
jaybone@lemmy.world · 21 pts · 2y
Sometimes I’m just bored.
ultraviolence@lemmy.world · 20 pts · 2y
Dagnet@lemmy.world · 20 pts · 2y
Is there a difference?
casmael@lemm.ee · 7 pts · 2y
Not afaict
sag@lemm.ee · 16 pts · 2y
Both
SsxChaos@lemmy.ml · 1 pts · 1y
Or Are you horny because you're masturbating
Leate_Wonceslace@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 15 pts · 2y
I ask myself this question every hour of every day. 😔
Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 11 pts · 2y
Holy cardio friend!
Stop beating that poor thing!
Nelots@lemm.ee · 11 pts · 2y
Bro gives edge lord a whole different meaning.
ArmoredThirteen@lemmy.ml · 15 pts · 2y
I can't do either for two more months because of lower surgery
Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 11 pts · 2y
I feel you friend
When I got a hernia a couple years ago I couldn't for 3 months due to pain before the surgery‡ and then 2 months after the surgery (doc said 2 weeks but there was still too much pain in the area)
That was hard
‡ Had to wait 3 months because my insurance was insisting it was an "optional" surgery because it didn't have my guts pinched so they were not wanting to cover it. My doc was insistent that it wasn't optional due to the level of pain I was in. In the end the doc won and it was covered.
CaptainEffort@sh.itjust.works · 14 pts · 2y
Don’t call me out like that
germanatlas@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 10 pts · 2y
Both
Senseless@feddit.org · 9 pts · 2y
I'm in this meme and I don't like it.
RadicalEagle@lemmy.world · 10 pts · 2y
I used to be in this meme, now I read it and feel a certain sense of relief that I'm becoming a little bit more like the person I want to be.
If you want to talk about anything you've got people here who want to listen to you.
Senseless@feddit.org · 4 pts · 2y
I'm having post nut clarity. For the next 20 minutes everything is alright.
RadicalEagle@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 2y
Alright my friend. Don't be afraid to feel your feelings, we all have 'em. :)
dylanmorgan@slrpnk.net · 9 pts · 2y
The second one, plus the prolactin helps me fall asleep.
zero_spelled_with_an_ecks@programming.dev · 1 pts · 2y
Is that why? TIL.
bjoern_tantau@swg-empire.de · 9 pts · 2y
Ghyste@sh.itjust.works · 8 pts · 2y
Yes.
Adori@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 2y
Man I need a therapist fr, leaving ex to take care of my self, lots of anxiety xd
t0fr@lemmy.ca · 3 pts · 2y
You should find one, they're worth it
Adori@lemmy.world · 0 pts · 1y
Progress update, been going out with friends a bunch, every weekend, concert, movies n shiz. Invited friends to my house for a party n shiz and was fun, got laid with one of the friends I've been hanging out the most. It's chill tho it's kinda a bit of friends with benefits, but ahahaha they're like sooo much nicer and sweeter with hella more interests in common compared to my last ex. I wont end up dating them cuz I just wanna have friends but it makes me happy knowing that my standards could be way higher for next time.
I've been feeling hella more self motivated and awake, more than ever. Going from an online relationship to actually going out n shiz is like the best thing I've done. It's tragic how my last relationship ended but now I'm a bit more glad it happened. Still friends with them msg them ocassionally but I had taken a long break from them to reset my mindset.
I'm enjoying my friends, the one friend with benefits might end up to come back to bite me in the ass due to getting feelings but we're still being good friends and they already asked if I wanna hang out this weekend again ahahah. Life good atm, but will def get a therapist at some point.
fossphi@lemm.ee · 5 pts · 2y
Neither. Just keeping the pipes clean
unreachable@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 2y
boatsnhos931@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 2y
You forgot bored
olutukko@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 2y
or because I'm having hard time concentrating and I need the post nut clarity to get things done
atro_city@fedia.io · 2 pts · 2y
Until the postnut clarity kicks in...
Evil_Shrubbery@lemm.ee · 1 pts · 2y
Oh how I wish it would be both ...