Move to the capital city or the largest city. Find a few people online and meet more through them. Try to find social spaces where queer people gather. Doesn't have to be queer-specific, leftist spaces are usually also safe.
knowing a queer kuwaiti, russian, chinese and mexican plus my own experience in the united states have taught me that there's atleast a bi-model reality for queers everywhere.
anecdotally: the well connected; rich; and/or attractive queers usually don't see much of a problem with living a queer-phobic country, citing that they can usually find a queer friendly community in their home country without much trouble.
also anecdotally: the other queers that don't fit into the shapes i mentioned have a bad time in their home country and their existence in the western world isn't much different than anyone else there.
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sun_is_ra@sh.itjust.works · 19 pts · 2y
Havingconnections is probably best/safest way. Otherwise maybe ask in subreddit of your country
CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org · 2 pts · 2y
Yes, local know-how from someone else on an English-language website might be the safest entry point. It's still not foolproof, though.
Tangent5280@lemmy.world · 13 pts · 2y
Honestly, you don't. You do whatever it takes to get out of there in the long term, and start looking for partners once you're out.
CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org · 13 pts · 2y
Carefully, but I probably don't have to tell you that.
I hear people just go ahead and use Grindr, but there's been some stings on it in places like Saudi.
enemyofsun@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 2y
Thank you, I'll look into it!
CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org · 7 pts · 2y
In case you don't know, "stings" means the police getting on it to arrest people.
enemyofsun@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 8 pts · 2y
Yeah... I also read their wikipedia pages and they seem to sell a lot of sensitive info of their users. Not very trustworthy unfortunately.
metaballism@slrpnk.net · 6 pts · 2y
Move to the capital city or the largest city. Find a few people online and meet more through them. Try to find social spaces where queer people gather. Doesn't have to be queer-specific, leftist spaces are usually also safe.
eldavi@lemmy.ml · 4 pts · 2y
knowing a queer kuwaiti, russian, chinese and mexican plus my own experience in the united states have taught me that there's atleast a bi-model reality for queers everywhere.
anecdotally: the well connected; rich; and/or attractive queers usually don't see much of a problem with living a queer-phobic country, citing that they can usually find a queer friendly community in their home country without much trouble.
also anecdotally: the other queers that don't fit into the shapes i mentioned have a bad time in their home country and their existence in the western world isn't much different than anyone else there.
intensely_human@lemm.ee · 4 pts · 2y
Get out of that country.
StaySquared@lemmy.ml · 0 pts · 2y